You get an anonymous call saying that your boy/girl friend is cheating on you, what would you do?

Question

The phone call that I got was from a person that I did not know, or ever met. He told me that my boyfriend was with his sister, and it bothered him that he had another girlfriend. I want to believe the unknown person because why would a random person want to play with my emotions? But I do not want to think that my boyfriend would ever do that to me. I trust him, but at the same time I have the doubt. A lot of people who know him tell me that he is very flirtatious with other girls. Please help me, I do not know what to do....

Answer 1

I think you should
A) gather some courage & ask your b.f directly see his reaction..if you becomes fidgety & nervous or starts babbling & accuses you of not trusting him..these are classic signs of a liar...And ofcourse don't forget to mention the anonymous tipper after the conversation .
Or
B) you can do some snooping around on your own ,try to talk to his close friends , check with his school mates or call him up odd hours.Find out if he has started indulging in some new activities in which his friends aren't involved...

Either way you should know..maybe after all it is some prankster..yes ??

Answer 2

If you have never suspected him of cheating, there is no reason to now. You said it yourself, you don't even know this person, so why would you believe them? I'd definitely ask about it, but if you're satisfied with his answers, don't let someone cause issues that aren't there in your relationship. If, however, this is something that touches a nerve with you, or you really believe it for some reason, you'll have to decide how to go forward. But I would think that your boyfriend should be the one you trust, not some stranger.

Answer 3

I would have to say that you should check it out. Obviously the guy that called you did so because he was concerned for his sister and you. I think that the guy that called you should be commended as he wanted you to know, not many people would do that. on the other hand, it could be a guy that has a serious crush on you and wants you to break up with your boyfriend so that you are fair game. I would check out your boyfriend though just to be on the safe side and if nothing else to rule out the suspicion, ( it can and will eventually poision your relationship if you dont). Good Luck, Cherry Red

Answer 4

honey its like this the next time you get a phone call check it out and another thing if your boyfriend likes to flirt you can bet that he's doing more then flirting,chances probly are 99% out of 100 % hes messing around on you every chance he gets,but i can not tell you what to do for you are the only one who knows how your heart fills and what you want to do about this situation,so my advise is this if he is messing around you'll catch him he will mess up somewere along the way so just set back and watch and pay attention because sometimes all the info that you need is right in front of you if you know what i mean,just watch how he acts sometimes and youll see a difference and another thing if he changes your plans alot or something that should tell you to,so just be carefull and dont let him hurt you ok

Answer 5

This is a toughy...I think that the only way to find peace of mind is confront the the person who gave you the anonymous phone call [if you can] before you even bring it up to the bf :: ultimately you'll do what your heart tells you but you have to really think with your head on this one::if you feel like something is wrong then it probably is

Answer 6

At first I would wait and see what happens. I will check for warning signs he cheats: being unavailable in certain times and avoiding direct answers where he was. Just ask innocently what up? don't show your suspicions. If he avoids looking in your eyes and tells you he loves you too much times, it could mean he is hiding something. If you find some proof, Then you can confront him and tell him that its a pity you are considering leaving him as you seek honest relationship. And he is free to choose between you and 'her'. If he insists he wants to stay with you, go to counseling to find out whatever the issue is why he seeks other relationship? Is it something in your relationship missing he looks for it somewhere else? If he isn't honest and avoids the issue, let him go. You have to move on and don't stay with him!

Answer 7

Ok, normally, I would believe your gut fealling, but just so happens that I have been in this situation! My ex-husbands girlfriend keeps getting calls and this person tells her that we are still messing around so watch out for us! I have had a few brief calls also telling me to stay away from the ex. The thing is though I haven't been with him, and I don't want to be with him! I am just as confused as you are though, becouse I thought the same thing...why is a complete stranger doing this? None of us to this day know who it was!

Answer 8

I would think: why would the caller want to go out of her way to give me this information, and this tells me a great deal about her and her motives. To call and give someone bad news about someone who matters is not a very big hearted thing to do. I wouldn't be anxious to take it too seriously. I'd look for an ulterior motive. I'd still store the message in an emotion proof compartment of my brain to use for comparison later if circumstances should make it appropriate.

Answer 9

If it were a girl that called ,,Id say she is telling the truth or hoping you'd get mad & dump him because she wanted him but this was a guy,,so I think Id beleive him.Always follow your instincts.Can you call him back by checking the number of the last person that called?If so,,if you can talk to this person again,,ask him to set it up for you to catch him in the act,,promising that you will not be mad at the sister or say anything about the call.

Answer 10

First of all, do you love you boy enough to trust him? There's the rub. Because, if you don't love him enough, then why are you with him anyway? And if you do, then ignore it. And anonymous call sounds like someone who is jealous of your relationship with your boy or who just plain doesn't like one or both of you. Anonymous callers shouldn't be trusted. Too often they are simply people who want to play a cruel joke on someone. If you listen to them, you are likely to end up doing something you will regret a lot.