im 14 and a guy i've liked for a really long time asked me to be his gf and i said yes. is it alright for me to keep going out with him or should i wait even though we're already bf/gf?
2006-12-26 16:42:46 · 28 answers · asked by naughtycupcake101 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
lol trust me, really being in a serious relationship can wait. If your mother says you can't have a boyfriend until you're 16, then I'm sure you two could still have lunch together (if you go to the same school) and e-mail and go to the movies with a group of friends. That way you're not really dating, but you're still with him at the same time. Plus you get to be with your friends at the same time!
2006-12-26 16:53:47 · answer #1 · answered by learn_from_catch22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, what do you consider the differences between being gf/bf and being just friends? If there is a huge difference, then respect mom's wishes. I remember fourteen, and it is a very venerable age. I did a lot of things then I really wish I hadn't.
If there isn't a big difference then I would discuss it with mom. Let her know your terms for being a girlfriend and why it's important to you. I don't know what your relationship is with mom, but it seems she has your best interests in mind, and would be willing to talk with you if you have a good argument.
2006-12-26 16:48:21 · answer #2 · answered by wildflower12 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait - this doesn't mean you can't see the guy. Just that you should hold off on the bf/gf thing for a bit. If you break your Mom's trust now, it will take forever to win it back.
Is there any reason you and bf can't see each other with other friends? Or is that the case now?
2006-12-26 16:48:12 · answer #3 · answered by fdm215 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a few reasons your mother won't let you date until you're 16. I had the same rule for my daughter. While it's ok to have a boyfriend in school, you shouldn't be going anywhere alone with him. A school dance may be ok, but that's it. I know every parent says this but here it goes anyway. Wait until you get older and you'll understand. I know your mother's probably said that to you, for I have said that to my daughter and my parents said to me. Enjoy your youth. Don't get caught up in all the drama of a relationship. You are too young. Just enjoy life and listen to your mother. She's been there, done that. She loves you and that's why she's giving you rules to live by.
2006-12-26 16:55:27 · answer #4 · answered by BigJake418 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait till you complete the age of 18. You are too young to go for dating. What do you mean by saying "we're already bf/gf"?
2006-12-26 16:49:52 · answer #5 · answered by aramaiya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you live under your mother's roof, you should listen to her. She probably doesn't want you to get hurt, like maybe she did at your age, or something.
So, don't call it a date. Have him come over to your house and sit out on the porch or patio and talk. Go shopping with him. Wash your mother's car together. Rake leaves.
Be honest with your mother. Let her know you like him and would like to see him without breaking her 16 date rule. Let her get used to the idea. Maybe once she gets to know the guy, and trusts the two of you together, she will loosen up on the 16 rule.
Good Luck!
C-F
2006-12-26 16:50:04 · answer #6 · answered by Crispy_Frog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom probably has a good reason for you not to date mine feels the same way (im 14) and i came to an agreement with her that she got to meet him and if she liked him and thought he was ok and as long as i promised i wouldnt get serious or anything else she seems to be ok with it (my dads another story) but try to reach an agreement but if she doesnt want you to respect her desision and dont get into a huge fight over something so silly cause guys are here now and will be when we are both 16
email me any time if you wanna talk cause i know what you are going through my email is
into_the_ocean_plshaw11@yahoo.com or you can just click on my name and IM me
hope everything works out for you! :)
2006-12-26 16:49:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Do what your mother tells you. Going it alone too soon makes for a stunted kid. Do yourself a favor. School work, special studies, talent discoveries and developing, pets, help given willingly to the family that you belong to. The more of all that there is, the more dimensions there will be for the guys you'll like.
2006-12-26 16:51:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you, are old enough to make this decision, but without the consent of your mother you are not truley "dating". I think that you and this boy should remain "tight", but i recommend sitting your mom down and telling her what is going on. This will make her trust you more, because she will realize that you are willing to be open wtih her. I gurantee you will feel better when your mother knows. Whether she approves or dissapproves follow your heart. Your mother may suprise you.
2006-12-26 16:47:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents are always right and it pays off to be obedience. Now if you are already bf and gf then you should tell mom and see how she will react then.
2006-12-26 16:50:03 · answer #10 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋