The guy I have been dating for awhile now has the ability to make me feel the happiest I have ever felt in my life when I am with him. We are in a distance relationship, but I have a job lined up around where he lives in about a year.
The problem is when we are away from each other he forgets to call when he says he will and he recently disappeared for a month and reappeared without an explanation. This really hurt, so I am debating if he is a waste of time now. He always tells me he loves me and flies me out to see him, but basically, the time without him sucks and he is not helping matters, even after I have confronted the issue.
I just can't get over how happy I am when we are together though...no one has ever made me feel this way and I feel alive with him. I feel like our biggest problem right now is the distance, which I know is temporary.
Should I give up and and find someone that is dependable but doesn't necessarily make me feel this way, or should I wait it out?
2006-12-26 16:20:08 · 3 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Does he know how you feel? The biggest problem in relationships is communication. If you don't tell him what you're thinking then how will he know? The disappearing for a month thing is inexcusable in a relationship. If you two are exclusive, then he should be wanting to be with you just as much as you want to be with him.
Moving to be with someone is a HUGE commitment. Maybe it is the distance, but if he's not willing to put in the effort in the mean time to make it work, then I would say its time to say good-bye. Love is not enough. But an unevenly distributed love is even worse.
Whatever happens I wish you the best hun. I've been in your shoes and making a decision sucks.
2006-12-26 16:26:52 · answer #1 · answered by drutheta 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget about him. I think he's flying you in for booty time when his girlfriend who lives near him is unavailable. A good rule to live by is never, ever relocate for a man. You run a terrible risk of getting burned, dumped, devastated and used. It's not worth it. Find someone to date who lives near you.
2006-12-27 00:25:04 · answer #2 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK THAT YOU NEED TO MOVE ON, IF IT ALREADY START
OUT IN A BAD WAY WHEN HE DOES THINGS THAT HE SHOULD NOT BE DOING, STAYING AWAY FOR A MONTH WITH OUT A CALL, THAT NOT GOOD. HE MAY BE WITH
SOMEONE ELSE AS WELL AS TALKING TO YOU. SO MAY
WHEN YOU GET WITH HIM IN THE SAME CITY THEN YOU
CAN START UP BUT FOR NOW I WOULD LEAVE IT ALONG
WHEN THINGS GET BETTER THEN MAY IT WILL WORK IT
SELF. OUT.
2006-12-27 00:25:45 · answer #3 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋