I love my boyfriend and he loves me. theres one thing that I'm trying to help him with though. he used to watch porn and "play around" with himself all the time. he stoped for me. but occasionally when he gets really horny he break and wacks off. he tells me about it and hates to do it. but when he gets horny and starts to he can't stop. he feels terrible about it and desperatly wants to stop, how can i help him stop all together?
2006-12-26 16:15:49 · 27 answers · asked by liz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
STOP TRYING TO CHANGE HIM! He has latent guilt because he was told it was wrong. But if he does have a problem, then it is his problem. You cannot fix it. But most likely it is not a problem. If you want to help him, use YOUR hands.
2006-12-26 16:37:46 · answer #1 · answered by g g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your boyfriend has a problem, but it's not that he masturbates.
Why are either of you worried about this? Seriously. He gets horny, probably because he is young and healthy and you two are not having quite enough sex to render him unconscious, and he does something about.
And the problem is? He should stop worrying about this, and so should you.
All of this is predicated on the notion that he doesn't actually have a problem (which is what I suspect from your question). If he really has something more like a sex addiction, for instance if he masturbates uncontrollably in inappropriate places, then he has a serious psychological condition and should talk about this with a professional psychologist. Like all addictions, sex addiction can be beaten, but it's a little trickier since you don't want to go cold turkey. (It's more like an eating disorder.)
2006-12-26 16:24:34 · answer #2 · answered by David G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok so whats wrong with him watching porn? Not a thing if you ask me (it what men do)....And as far as him pleasuring himself, well thats just a natural act some thing so many of us do.
Maybe next time you could pleasure him by hand if your there. I take it this is something you have never done yourself(pleasured yourself) if so you would understand him and would know why he enjoys doing so. He shouldnt feel terrible about doing so and you shouldnt make him feel that way. It could be worst and he could be CHEATING on you with a real women in stead of using ROSIE.....
2006-12-26 16:29:26 · answer #3 · answered by Porcelain Doll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all this is not your problem or his for that matter--it is a natural thing for some folks--you are way into his personal attention--and you need to leave him alone--the only reason why he feels terrible is because you are freaking him out--Who made you his personal private guard?? What people do alone is just that alone--you need to tell him you are sorry and tell him that he doesn't need to tell you when he does this --
2006-12-26 16:26:33 · answer #4 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to make him stop. Why don't you watch him with it? You can help him finish it off. There are many ways you can turn his "problem" into something positive. Use your imagination. And be happy that's it's only porn and that he's not cheating on you.
2006-12-26 16:19:58 · answer #5 · answered by BigJake418 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well there is sexaholics anonymous. The website is great for giving details and can tell you if a chapter meets near you.
Another thing is, perhaps he feels like you're not part of his sex life? Including him and making sure he understands that its ok to be desirous with you. Make special plans, help him reform to thinking about sex romantically and not just physically.
2006-12-26 16:21:37 · answer #6 · answered by drutheta 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let him do it, there isnt anything wrong with pleasuring yourself, maybe you should try it aswell and you will see what the fuss is about. Isnt it better that when he is horny he does it himself instead of finding another girl to satisfy him?
2006-12-26 16:30:03 · answer #7 · answered by wickedly_funny66 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU?! There is nothing, NOTHING, wrong with masturbation! Maybe you should help him out! Or maybe you should try it yourself. Guys are more horny than girls, so it's unlikely he's gonna be satisfied with just what you give him, so he has to make up for the rest. Better he jerk off than cheat!
2006-12-26 16:19:38 · answer #8 · answered by T.M.Y. 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everyone jerks it. I have twice since I read your question. You either need to take the issue in hand (so to speak) or deal. Although it is really not necessary to announce the deed after the fact. Silence can be golden.
2006-12-26 16:22:28 · answer #9 · answered by Paul D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I take it you're a virgin or are completely grossed out by the thought of sex. There's nothing wrong with masturbating unless it gets in the way of your normal sex life (which you have not mentioned), or in extreme cases, in the way of daily living. My advice: Stop making your boyfriend feel guilty about his sexuality and maybe try to get in touch with yours.
2006-12-26 16:24:24 · answer #10 · answered by anon 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋