I am invited to a couple who are renewing their vows. They will be married 25 years. This will be done in a church setting and they will have a reception I believe. Do you bring gifts? What is the proper etiquett?
2006-12-26 16:08:00 · 13 answers · asked by Alice P 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You're probably supposed to bring a gift. That's probabaly why they're doing it. Can't blame them.
2006-12-26 16:11:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you were invited to this couples' home for a dinner party, proper etiquette suggests that you don't show up empty handed. Flowers, a bottle of wine, or something appropriate to the occasion is always in good taste. A renewal of vows is no exception. While the couple, most likely, is not expecting a gift, a small token or anniversary gift is always in good taste. Flowers, a frame for a photo taken at the event, some memento or photo of something you have shared with them, and an anniversary card would be lovely. The gift doesn't have to be extravagant as this is an anniversary and renewal of vows, not a wedding, but a little congratulatory gift would be appropriate and appreciated.
2006-12-26 18:00:00 · answer #2 · answered by hairdvs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that I would bring a gift, most invitations for such an event say "Best Wishes Only"
I do truly think it would be "gauche" on their part to ask for gifts at this stage of the game! I think wishing wells and money trees are in poor taste and are really presumptuous! I do not think they should need help paying for the ceremony at this stage of the game! This may be okay in some cases for "kids just starting out" but seasoned pros like these should not have a wishing well or money tree...
feel out some of the other attendees, in a nonchalant way, to see what the story is...
However,
a 25th Anniversary is a Silver Anniversary, If you do bring a gift, it would not be sheets or a food processor, it would likely be a small commemorative piece in silver...
A gift cert for a hotel stay or dinner might not go amiss though, however, one should not feel obligated to give anything more than a card and their best wishes...
2006-12-26 16:19:42 · answer #3 · answered by nackawicbean 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there anything specific written on the card? Like a wishing well? Renewing wedding vows is a very personal thing and they have asked you as being someone close to them to come and view their renewal. Personally, I would be tempted to take a gift. I have been to a few renewals and there has usually been an instruction saying "no gifts thank you" or a wishing well.
2006-12-26 16:13:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does it say no gifts on invite?
Depending on how close you are; bring a card or a card with a gift certificate for a nice dinner.
After 25 years they don't need anything, but if you feel happy supporting their renewel it's sweet to give them something ueful.
2006-12-26 16:13:23 · answer #5 · answered by chieko 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this couple has been together 25 years, they probably don't really need the items that you would usually give to couples who are getting married. If you can think of something nice to give them I think that's great, but I'm not sure they'll be expecting anything.
2006-12-26 16:10:42 · answer #6 · answered by drshorty 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Odd...ususally couples like that will state "no gifts please" on the invitation. Just give a card so you can pass along your well wishes. You shouldn't be expected to bring a gift. Besides, it's rude to EXPECT a gift ever, so its not like they'll have complaining rights if you don't. :-)
2006-12-26 17:21:30 · answer #7 · answered by Honesty given here! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would depend on the couple, but if they have been married for that long more than likely all they want is for their family and friends to share in their happy day.
2006-12-26 16:12:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some sort of floral arrangement - a lot of people like flowers! Or candles - And write a little card that says, "Candle light flickers and I remember you, you and me, and how we have come to live this beautiful life together. The sparks ignite all our happy memories. I light this candle and remember, even when the light fades, our marriage continues. We are together. We are happy. We are in love."
2006-12-26 16:20:20 · answer #9 · answered by the Optimist 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely ! But it's best to check to see first with someone close to them if there's been a registry created, or a collection made for a big ticket item (something to that effect..)
2006-12-26 16:21:25 · answer #10 · answered by The one with a tail... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its is like an anniversary and i believe 25 is the silver one get them the appropriate gift not a wedding gift and i hope they where not to tacky and registered for gifts that is the worst
2006-12-26 16:12:46 · answer #11 · answered by chotpeper 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋