Hi people, I am trying to get some advice. This Halloween I had a bad fight with my ex (then my bf), I wasn't happy with the way he was treating me. We broke up, I said maybe we should be friends, he said he was sick of having a crying gf, then we got back together a week later, he called and we agreed to be ok. Then, a week ago, he dumped me saying getting back was a mistake, that he needs to be on his own and doesn't feel the same way about the relationship, I understand but it was completely unexpected. He had been telling me how I am an awesome person days before, took me to the park and cooked my favorite food the day he dumped me. I was hurt so I said some mean things. Now ( a week later), I feel better, I know I was unhappy in the relationship too, but I can never dump people. I feel like telling him I don't hate him but is it too soon?? Maybe I need to give it some more time so we can both move on? we dated for 2 yrs and a half.
I appreciate your opinions
2006-12-26 16:00:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is what I have in mind as an e-mail for him:
Hello Peter:
I know I said some mean things, I hope you understand that I was very hurt. But I wanted to say, I don't hate you, I don't think you are a horrible person, you know me, I can't hate like that, and I am healing, it's allright.
But it wouldn't be fair to either one of us to be friends right now, it wouldn't help us move on and I think we need to.
I feel so much better to know that there is no more drama, I hope you do too.
Martha G
Please don't answer this e-mail, let's leave it like this, we both deserve time and space :)
So, would sending him an w-mial liek this be ok?
2006-12-26 16:46:56 · update #1
Just let it go...
You two are broke up, this just makes you look desperate. Move on & don't worry about it. Maybe what you said is a good thing & it will sink in & maybe help him down the road.....
2006-12-26 17:10:28 · answer #1 · answered by More Lies & More Smoke Screens 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course! Tell him that your sorry and even if you don't become friends again at least you've clear the air. That way if you bump into each other you don't freak out and think there's going to be a huge scene or something. Beside if you've been together for 2 and a half then your bound to be friends (and if you not it's a good thing you got out of the relationship) so its good to make sure you stay that way.
Hope you guys have a good life (together or apart) and happy holidays.
2006-12-27 00:06:44 · answer #2 · answered by babylovesu06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of me says tell him you are sorry for what you have said and the other part of me is saying to move on and forget about it. I am in the same situation. Unfortunately, when I am upset and angry I say things that should not be said-I might really mean what I say, but it is hurtful and impulsive. Maybe you can send him a card, but make sure your apology does not appear to say that you want to get back together. That way, you won't have to confront each other, but you can still apologize for your actions. Good luck.
2006-12-27 00:15:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Men mean what they do, not what they say. Always. Just an example, one of my friends dated a guy for a year, they went out on a Saturday, had a great romantic time, he told her how much he loved her, and on the next Monday he dumped her. Welcome to the club.
2006-12-27 00:05:33 · answer #4 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. What good is calling him going to do? It's not going to make either one of you feel better. Are you hoping that perhaps you'll get back together again? Leave him alone.
2006-12-27 00:04:29 · answer #5 · answered by Paul 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's time to move on. Part as friends and start again.
2006-12-27 00:01:46 · answer #6 · answered by K G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too much hurt to much drama move on and be glad it wasnt even worse
2006-12-27 00:03:27 · answer #7 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋