She and her husband seemed to enjoy the gifts and not feel bad at all about not even giving a card.
2006-12-26 15:59:28 · 29 answers · asked by Susan M 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I understand that you may have hurt feelings and feel slighted that your daughter didn't give you anything in return, but when we give someone a gift, it is supposed to be given in the spirit of love and not expecting anything in return. I think perhaps you equate this with how much your daughter cares for you. Is she and her husband financially strapped? Perhaps it would have been a financial hardship for them to reciprocate. Maybe some self examination is in order. Ask yourself what is really behind your feelings.
2006-12-26 16:12:59 · answer #1 · answered by ceegt 6 · 5⤊ 2⤋
One time I showed up for father's day without a card for my grandfather. Why? I forgot him. Plain and simple. He's one of those grandparents who is seen once or twice a year. There has been times when I have shown up without a car for someone I really cared about. The reason WAS money. There were plenty of times I put the $3 in the gas tank instead to be there. Also, some people don't value greeting cards. It's not more complicated than that for some people. Some of them a five dollars- the person looks at it once, sets in on a table, and throws it out in a week. What a waste! I would have put the money in the gas tank to visit for the holiday if it were me, but I would have been polite enough (and blunt enough!!!) to mention that I had done precisely that :-)
2006-12-26 17:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by Honesty given here! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I understand how you feel. We tend to blame ourselves when our children disappoint us. We feel responsible for their shortcomings because we think we didn't teach them well or raise them as well as we could have. People on here are quick to criticize you for being hurt by your daughters' insensitivity but I suspect most of us would feel hurt at being forgotten, whatever the occasion. Anyway, to answer your question ~ I wouldn't do anything. It's possible that it's all a misunderstanding. Perhaps they ordered your gift and it didn't arrive yet. Maybe something came up financially that kept them from being able to get you a gift and plan on making it up to you later. It is possible that they didn't think you wanted anything or they just forgot your gift at home. Is this the first time they've forgotten you? If not, then you shouldn't be surprised, and if so, don't be too quick to judge. Either way, you really shouldn't DO anything. Your daughter and son-in-law will think exactly the same of you as some of the others who've answered your question here. Take the high road here, even though I know you're hurt. Hopefully you weren't forgotten by everyone you love. I hope you feel better soon. Good luck to you.
2006-12-26 18:30:42 · answer #3 · answered by hairdvs 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sometimes the best presents are given to those who can not give back.
Perhaps there is a reason they have not "given" gifts.
If the reason your giving gifts in the 1st place is to "recieve" you might need to rethink your motives.
That being said, I understand that it is extreamly rude & hurtfull to not recieve even a simple thank you but perhaps there is another story or side on your daughters end of things. Dont be to quick to judge. Maybe this would be a good time for a heart to heart,,, not a execution party.
2006-12-26 16:09:45 · answer #4 · answered by Turtle1 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Send her a note and thank her and her husband for spending the time with you on Christmas Day (or Eve, whenever.). Take the high road...(she knows she didn't buy you anything.).
Monitor the relationship situation this year and adjust accordingly next year.
Christmas isn't supposed to be about the presents anyway, it's supposed to be about appreciating the presence of loved ones on a holiday that celebrates the Savior, Jesus Christ.
2006-12-26 16:11:33 · answer #5 · answered by Bobby Jim 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
If you two have a good relationship, I bet that she did feel bad and was just embarrased. I'm 21...my parents still let "santa" come to their house for me and I give them one present each. They don't seem to mind much. They know that I love them, and I know they love me. I do feel bad about not getting them more...but I will take care of them when the time comes. Just let it blow over...and tell her you expect a great retirement home since she didn't get you anything for christmas... make a joke of it :)
2006-12-26 16:23:49 · answer #6 · answered by Candy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Like someone said, not a lot of kids give gifts to their parents. She may not know she hurt you in the first place. Is she given allowance? Or any money? If not, were exactly is she going to get the money to buy anyone for that matter a gift?
2006-12-26 16:23:28 · answer #7 · answered by Lost inside 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2016-12-11 16:40:21 · answer #8 · answered by gagliano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't get anything from my kids this year..and i really don't care if i did or didn't. I was happy to be with them and have them enjoy the holiday with me.
I can tell that it hurt you. I would talk to your daughter and just explain that you were hurt by her lack of thoughtfulness.
It's not really something to let fester and cause resentment between you two about. So just talk to her honestly.
2006-12-26 16:05:43 · answer #9 · answered by Barb 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Since she did NOT give you zip, what DID she give you? A house? 3-week vacation in Paris? A case of champagne?
Give us a clue if you expect a decent answer.
2006-12-27 03:53:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋