She and her husband seemed to enjoy the gifts and not feel bad at all about not even giving a card.
2006-12-26 15:57:50 · 15 answers · asked by Susan M 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
ah, the curse of being parents. Always giving, hardly receiving any. But, seriously, what else can you do? Sulked? hardly... let it go... pretend it never happened. Show that you are the 'grown ups' who needs no gift.
2006-12-26 17:56:01 · answer #1 · answered by SimpleGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps the question should be rather than enjoying the fact she and her husband enjoyed the gifts why are you harping on this?
It sounds to me as if the true thought behind the gifts isn't that you wanted to give her a gift it was more of a questions of what is in it for you. It is selfish and inappropriate. If this is how you were while she was growing up it's no wonder she didn't learn manners.
Be thankful you have a daughter to spend Christmas with as that is a true gift.
2006-12-26 16:31:36 · answer #2 · answered by Wicked Good 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I understand how you feel. We tend to blame ourselves when our children disappoint us. We feel responsible for their shortcomings because we think we didn't teach them well or raise them as well as we could have. People on here are quick to criticize you for being hurt by your daughters' insensitivity but I suspect most of us would feel hurt at being forgotten, whatever the occasion. Anyway, to answer your question ~ I wouldn't do anything. It's possible that it's all a misunderstanding. Perhaps they ordered your gift and it didn't arrive yet. Maybe something came up financially that kept them from being able to get you a gift and plan on making it up to you later. It is possible that they didn't think you wanted anything or they just forgot your gift at home. Is this the first time they've forgotten you? If not, then you shouldn't be surprised, and if so, don't be too quick to judge. Either way, you really shouldn't DO anything. Your daughter and son-in-law will think exactly the same of you as some of the others who've answered your question here. Take the high road here, even though I know you're hurt. Hopefully you weren't forgotten by everyone you love. I hope you feel better soon. Good luck to you.
2006-12-26 17:41:24 · answer #3 · answered by hairdvs 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tough question. I would feel bad because they were not thoughtful. It's not about the price tag, it's about how thoughtful you are. I would do 1 or 2 things I would forget about it, and no do anything for her birthday or next Christmas or ask her why she did it. I would go with the first option though. Sorry that happened to you. Hope you have a better new year!!!
JW
2006-12-26 16:03:39 · answer #4 · answered by james w 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
0h wow. . . i think u should just be happy she enjoyed ur gift. i mean u know how hard it is to give modernized gifts.. considering i hate the presents my mom give me. theyr soo old ppoish. no offense. i think that ur daughter should have given u something. but maybe shes saaving up for something. u never kno. if i were u i would tease her about it. and sMile along. :]
2006-12-26 19:29:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you supply a present with the expectancy of having one in return, or did you supply a present when you consider which you wanted to? It replaced into impolite of your daughter to not do something for you, yet i for my section do not continuously assume a present from each and every person I supply something to. I supply a present through fact i opt to. i be attentive to with kinfolk this is diverse, yet do you get alongside nicely alongside with your daughter? perchance this replaced into a demonstration that something is faulty. perchance they ran out of money.
2016-12-11 16:40:14 · answer #6 · answered by gagliano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say grow up..shes the daughter...your the parent no matter what age she is...you shouldnt give gifts and expect something in return...it defeats the whole purpose. anyway what kind of parent wants her child to feel bad about not getting you a gift...most parents dont want their kids spending any money on them.
2006-12-26 16:10:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you think they are obligated to reciprocate? What's the point of giving gifts then? Next time, buy the gift for yourself and skip the middle-man.
2006-12-26 16:09:47 · answer #8 · answered by semdot 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe they couldn't afford gifts at this time. If you feel they could and that you felt very snubbed by them. well next year just send her a card, and your wishes.
So much for the Spirit of Christmas at your place.
2006-12-26 16:07:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hi Susan,
You asked the same question three times and used a double negative. Maybe your daughter is ashamed of you. Mine is ashamed of me because I correct other people's English.
2006-12-27 03:54:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋