This guy I've been recently seeing--he's broached the gf/bf question and I suggested we give it a couple more weeks--says "I love you" a lot. He first said it when we were just friends. We've moved past that, and he says it on a daily basis now--whenever he says goodbye or else he'll just text me 'I love you' at random points in the middle of the day. I laugh it off because I don't believe he's known me long enough--we just met this year at freshman orientation--to be able to say that. But he's so sweet He used to hang out often with different girls on campus but lately he's just either with his guy friends or with me. When he's at parties or in clubs he's texting me half the night. I think he thinks he really loves me, but we're both barely out of high school. I'm still 17 and he just turned 18. I really like him and he's soooo so sure of us. He says he felt something the first time I looked his way. Is that even possible? (cont.)
2006-12-26 15:42:24 · 16 answers · asked by Pippa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't want to take what he says too seriously, and I know that he knows that. I respond with "Love you too" 98% of the time and he suddenly drops it and moves on to a completely different subject. I know he isn't playing romeo for sexual favors, because one night our group of friends was discussing sex and I said I didn't want to do it till I was I reached 20. He smiled at me and said, "good for you". I don't believe people our age have enough experience to know what love is, but I don't want to take his feelings for granted either. As far as I know, it hasn't bothered him that I laugh off his endearments, but I get the feeling that he's being patient. And if he really means it when he says that he can see us together 20 years from now...then I need to reasses my feelings for this guy FAST. So what do you think? Overzealous infatuation or genuine love?
2006-12-26 16:02:49 · update #1
It is possible to love at 18, but I don't think you are ready to make a commitment like that yet. If you have to ask, you are not in love with him. Tell him you like him and you want to keep your relationship, but you aren't ready for a love relationship.
2006-12-26 15:47:44 · answer #1 · answered by Junkyard DOG 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he is infatuated. A lot. It could be puppy love. You know, like in the moment and present. Real love, I believe, is when you can really and I mean REALLY see yourself w/someone 20 years down the road. I thought I saw that w/someone but I realize now that I was wayyy wrong. About the age thing...who knows? About my question that you answered maybe I'm not in love. Just infatuation. Ya think? Also, back to your question, does he talk about the future at all? Cause if he does maybe he is for real. If he's a good guy and treats you right all I can really say is "you lucky *****". lol Best of luck.
2006-12-27 08:36:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it is possible that he likeed you the first time he saw you.
It does sounds like he used the word "love" a bit too quickly.
It is possible to love someone deeply at a young age. But, that doesn't mean it is a forever kind of love.
It sounds like he is overwhelming you with his attentions. Please don't feel you have to say "I love you" back to him until you are ready.
You have just started college and there isn't any need to rush in to a relationship.
2006-12-26 15:52:01 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm...of course it is. u can be in love whenever u feel overwhelmed at how much u even care about what that persons doing or how the feel or if theyre ok or anuthing. age has nothing to do with it. i dont think this is question your asking. he might love you..but maybe you just dont feel the same way, and your subconsciencely trying to knock it off as its not possible for him to have those feelings. I think you just need to think if you feel that way. if not then you shouldn't lead him on. but yea its very possible.
2006-12-26 15:50:49 · answer #4 · answered by tweetyluva_17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perception is reality, in other words, if HE perceives himself as being in love with you, then his reality is that he indeed loves you.
Besides, a century or two ago people were married with a kid by 18.
So, yes it's possible for an 18 to go to college, vote, fight a war, and know when he is in love.
PS>TWEETY, that's some good insight into why she wants to blow it off and not believe him.
2006-12-26 15:48:32 · answer #5 · answered by *Lovely* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so. That doesnt mean get married at 18! but its possible. I would say stick with him if you like/love him back and just wait it out...see if he still feels that way in a few months, in a year and so on. Good Luck
2006-12-26 15:48:03 · answer #6 · answered by HlpMePlz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is definitely possible. I fell madly in love with a girl at the age of 17 (she moved away), and though it didn't work out I still love her to this day.
2006-12-26 15:46:52 · answer #7 · answered by Paul S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can mean "it". There's a distinct possibility that he doesn't mean what you would mean...but that doesn't make him insincere in his own way.
People have been debating the meaning of "love" for as long as we've had language.
Now, is he going to be with you for the rest of your life and would he take a bullet for you? (Well, let's just say, don't take any unnecessary risks expecting you 18 y/o boyfriend to sacrifice himself to save you.)
2006-12-26 15:47:33 · answer #8 · answered by David G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, it's possible. It's also highly unlikely.
This sounds to me like some seriously heavy infatuation, though, instead of love. He sounds like he's addicted to you and slightly puppy-dogging you.
2006-12-26 15:47:09 · answer #9 · answered by Kerkyon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hormones tell his brain to be happy when he is near you or thinks of you. That is as close to love as any other time in life. After you hit 25 its " I love you' because....not just I love you
2006-12-26 15:45:56 · answer #10 · answered by Mad n Bad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋