sent the husband a couple of patients. Before their trip to Europe we lent them books and maps and had them over for supper to see our videos. They were back almost a month and never called to let us know and to share. When she called for another reason, I told her we were hurt. She hasn't called back. She said they were busy, but neither of them work and I know she showed her photos to other friends. From her indifference it appears she thinks I’m too sensitive. What do you think?
2006-12-26 15:38:22 · 6 answers · asked by greenwillowtrie 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I think you have been far too generous to people who take your friendship for granted. Continue to invite them over for dinner if you truly enjoy their company. Continue to be kind and polite simply because behaving ungraciously will not make you feel better. But you might consider developing friendships with other couples with whom you have more in common or who are a little more inclined to reciprocate your friendship. I'm sure there are a lot of people you would enjoy spending time with who would be more socially fulfilling and much more generous with their friendship.
2006-12-26 18:16:33 · answer #1 · answered by hairdvs 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are too sensitive, it sounds like they aren't sensitive enough! I could see being busy for a while after a trip. Usually there's more work to get done after returning home, just to catch up with things. But once you mentioned it, she should have at least apoligized then shared some things with you or set up a dinner date to talk and show you pictures. Or a thank you note for you suggestions of trip ideas.
I suggest you call or write and try to open the lines of communication one more time. If you get nothing in return, cut your loses and move on. Maybe this is how they treat many other people.
2006-12-26 15:44:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure that they realized that you wanted to see their photos and so forth? Most of the time, people talk about looking at someone's travel photos as a joke, a really boring activity that people wouldn't want to do. Perhaps your friends really didn't know that it was that important to you.
How about this: invite them over for dinner again, and ask them to bring the travel photos.
And people who don't work can still be busy. I know that I don't always do everything that people would expect of me at the times that they want, and I suspect you don't either. Give your friends the benefit of the doubt.
2006-12-26 16:13:05 · answer #3 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They probably DO have better things to do than call and tell you about their trip- I know I do. Somep oeple don't like to talk on the phone. Some people don't like to recap all their moves, or reveal what they did in their own private time, maybe they had a mediochre time....who knows? I wouldn't take it personal though! It doens't make any sense to! I would however call and say "Hi, this is Jane. I was wondering if you would please bring our books back? If you don't have time, would you please drop them in the mail box?" And maybe it's time to leave the "friendship" alone after that.
2006-12-26 17:30:39 · answer #4 · answered by Honesty given here! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why would you go to a poison well to drink? Write 'em off, cultivate new friends. Be grateful that you can choose to no longer waste your selves on these ingrates.i
2006-12-27 08:46:10 · answer #5 · answered by ibeboatin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I detect a green eyed monster.
2006-12-26 15:47:43 · answer #6 · answered by robert m 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋