ok, so there is this guy, and we've been hangin out, and hooking up for a few months now....at the beginning we decided that neither of us wanted a real relationship...so we're "special friends"....but now i care about him aaaallloooottt...and i want to make it an official relationship....how do i tell him this....we do things that boyfriend and girlfriend do....go out, talk on the phone, we see each other almost everyday...and he initiates the contact as often as i do...so do you think there is a chance he might be up for it????? and reallly....what do i say to him to let him know how i feel without scaring him away??? ok, i know we started out as "friends with benefits" but he acts more like my boyfriend and doesnt treat me like a booty call...he even went with me to my FAMILY christmas party, and wanted to go meet my dad....and i'm not sure(i've never been in this sort of relationship before) but i dont think that is a normal "friend with benefits" sort of behavior. Am i wrong?
2006-12-26 15:35:49 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like it's moved beyond it to me, just ask him where you stand with him. He might spill the beans first, saving you alot of trouble. I know that when I've had a "special friend" we'd go out to bars and such together, but I'd never go out of my way to go meet her family, in case the truth of our relationship came out.
Ask him, see what he says, and if he doesn't give you a favorable response, just let him know how you feel. Best case, he's cool with it and wants to continue as your official boyfriend. Worst case scenario, he starts avoiding and so on, which is still better than suffering through not knowing how he really feels and letting him get what he wants out of you without getting all that you want out of him.
2006-12-26 15:42:39 · answer #1 · answered by Alberta Sunrise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve to have a clear concise answer on your relationship status. I say ask away- Tell him that initially you were fine with the terms of your relationship but you are ready for a serious committed relationship now. Ask how he feels about it, if he hesitates or can't give you an answer then walk away girlie. I have never met a guy that didn't know what he wanted. Any excuses like scheduling, or he values the friendship you have and doesn't want to ruin it is pure crap. I hope things work out in your favor though. It's nice when you have someone you can be intimate with and have a friendship with.
2006-12-26 15:47:48 · answer #2 · answered by maigirl131 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love this Bri.. It takes me back to when i was in high school.. How i felt.. not good enough... knowing i was pretty, but not in the way i was "supposed" to be.. not in the "cool" way, like the other girls... I was more interested in nature and animals.. than in painting my nails and face.. I was different to the other girls.. and they made sure i knew it.. I did not care at all. I was happy in my interests. But the "cool" guys did not take an interest in me... at least not the guys that the other girls thought were "cool".. but the ones whose beauty was in the eye of this beholder did.. The fun we had, while the others worried about the "cool" things in life.. I wonder did they miss what was really important.. Real beauty.. I wonder to this day, have they discovered, just what it is to be REALLY Happy.. Time repeats itself.. My two daughters are so beautiful... but especially where it counts most.. On the inside.. To know them is to behold Real BEAUTY.. I just wish more young guys understood that Beauty... IS in the eye of the beholder. Instead of falling for what is expected rather than what is.. (-:
2016-05-23 09:36:09 · answer #3 · answered by Nicole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, i don't think you're wrong.
He sounds very respectable, that's for sure. Good choice :)
I think you should come out and ask him...but be sure to "beat around the bush" so you don't come off pushy.
For instance, instead of being like "do you wanna be my boyfriend" all of a sudden one day...pick a good time to talk about it, and ask him if he's ready to take your relationship a little further (a.k.a--boyfriend, girlfriend) and if not, that's ok (which, hopefully, it is) :)
Hope i helped; good luck
2006-12-26 15:40:38 · answer #4 · answered by Orange ♥Mocha♥ Frappuccino 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd personally say you're on the money chic. But maybe when you introduce him to someone new next time be all like" hey this is my BF". See how he reacts. If he reacts badly then just say it was a slip of the tongue.
2006-12-26 15:39:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just tell him that u want more of a relationship than just friends and u want to be officially going together just talk to him and give him tha hint that u like him by giving flirt hints to him!!!! i hope that helps!!lol
2006-12-26 15:40:35 · answer #6 · answered by badgirl2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just tell him how you feel, what you want, and hope for the best!
2006-12-26 15:37:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him you don't want to see/date/whatever anyone else but him and see how he responds
2006-12-26 15:40:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋