once your get close to someone, you start to see flaws in them, instead of moving on, how to you just accept them without compromising any of your standards?
2006-12-26 15:30:19 · 12 answers · asked by SmartPerson 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Put yourself in their shoes. Work on your own flaws that they see. Either get honest with yourself or ask them....what are your charchter flaws? How can you be better? How is your acceptance/spiritual principles working in your life?
They will follow your example if they are decent.
In this world, we can change one person....the one u see in the mirror.
David
2006-12-26 15:32:55 · answer #1 · answered by David T 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Flaws are what make people special. Learn to enjoy them as they are. Never compromise your moral standards, but lighten up on other issues. I mean really!!
2006-12-26 15:37:35 · answer #2 · answered by Nora Explora 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just appreciate all they add to my life. I over look their flaws as they over look mine. Because none of us is perfect. If someone is proposing I compromise my standards,I realize they are not my friend.
2006-12-26 15:35:47 · answer #3 · answered by thirsty mind 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have many family members that just rub me the wrong way. The rest of my family always complains about them, but I don't, because I don't know them inside and out. I don't know what's going on inside of their heads, or all that they have gone through. You have to remember: all of our mannerisms and quirks are learned. Our behavior is a reflection of our past. So, instead of getting angry, and trying to change the person. Accept them and love them, and over time, you will have conditioned them to become a real, admirable person.
2006-12-26 15:38:25 · answer #4 · answered by Your hero until you meet Jesus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be biblical...you must remove the plank from your own eye before trying to remove the spinter from another's eye. Stop it! Focus on changing you!
Also, love covers over a multitude of sins...if you love as you should...you will not have this attitude of condescension...
Your standards? Hello...this should be about GOD's standards...which YOU do not measure up...
Get my drift? You need to be humble hon...you are way, way too critical if that is your focus...
2006-12-26 15:49:25 · answer #5 · answered by debi_lockwood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-06 01:38:11 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you can see the flaws but you accept them anyway. No need to comment on their flaws, either.
2006-12-26 15:34:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what those flaws are. If your new friend pulls out a crack pipe, might be time to move on. If he watches TV shows that you don't like, that's probably not such a big deal. I think that as long as our standards aren't outrageous, it's easy to be tolerant.
Lisa
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/secularhumanism/
2006-12-26 15:35:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You aren't perfect, either, mate. Accept that you're not perfect and neither are they and put yourself in their shoes to see how it's like being them. Sympathize. Think outside the box. Be a good friend.
2006-12-26 15:33:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave them alone hay you know me and my friend dont act as we once did because we now see flaws which we did not notice before
now we are not close any more!
2006-12-26 15:34:01 · answer #10 · answered by wise 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋