If the boyfriend is the most wonderful, considerate and special guy, but his family gets on your nerves because they are so loud and obnoxious, do you think the relationship stands a chance? Any advice on how to cope or handle being around his family?
2006-12-26 15:28:38 · 29 answers · asked by TPhi 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes it can work as long as he is supportive of you and see's his family for what they are. When you are around them just pretend that they are in a circus and thats the show. I stay away from my mans family as much as possible.
Good luck
2006-12-26 15:34:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your boyfriend acknowledge that his family is loud and obnoxious? Or does he get offended when you mention your opinion of his family? Have you all discussed this?
It can last only if your boyfriend is secure in himself and in you alls relationship.
When you are in the presence of his family, be polite, friendly but not a doormat. If you see them away from the family visits, acknowledge them but don't get too chummy.
If he is not secure with himself or you alls relationship, there is no hope for this relationship unless you all move away. Family members tend to have a strong influence on most people's life decisions whether they want to admit it or not.
I'm just saying.
1) ENJOY THE HAPPY AND LOVING TIMES WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND / TRY TO MAKE LASTING MEMORIES WITH HIM WHILE YOU CAN -- TOMORROW IS NOT PROMISED TO ANY OF US
2) TRY NOT TO WORRY ABOUT HIS FAMILY, LIFE IS TOO SHORT
GOOD LUCK AND HAPPY NEW YEAR 2U BOTH
2006-12-26 23:45:49 · answer #2 · answered by YaYa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How close is he with his family, does he think they are obnoxious? If he is really close to them and doesn't see a problem, then there may be trouble. My husband and I have worked it out with our families, but we both see the problems with the other's family. My sister-in-law never expects her husband to attend things at my father-in-laws, so she is never gets upset and tells everyone he is "working". If the guy is wonderful, give it a try. I would try to talk to him about the problem, but bring up something small at first...to test the waters. Good Luck!!
2006-12-26 23:35:27 · answer #3 · answered by bugjrmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to look at the picture at a whole, is this a serious relationship and how he treats you in front of his family. Does he defend you and make you feel special, is his family so into his life that he can't move with out them knowing, Do they like you?? If this is a serious relationship you need to know exactly where you stand.
2006-12-26 23:32:59 · answer #4 · answered by blueigurl34 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it can last. If he doesn't mind you not being around the family then don't sweat it. If not try your hardest to handle their personalities for his sake. I don't how their personalities are obnoxious so I can't tell you much. But talk to your boyfriend about it, and maybe you'll be able to mention it to his family.
2006-12-26 23:33:53 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF and i mean IF there is a way for you to be able to avoid them, then i would say yes..there is a chance...BUT Think REAL hard... IF you marry this guy, he could easily turn in to the family u cannot stand as of now!... he may not appear that way now, but you never know...
2006-12-26 23:31:51 · answer #6 · answered by Wow! I have a pig nose! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick it out. If he's a great guy, you should be dating him, not his family. Eventually, you may find common ground with them.
If nothing else, the fact that your boyfriend is in love with you should be enough for them to eventually come to like you, and the fact that they are HIS family should be enough reason for you to try and tolerate them, but the only thing that's gonna put this relationship in jeopardy is you.
2006-12-26 23:35:41 · answer #7 · answered by Alberta Sunrise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're dating the boyfriend, not his family. My only advice is: always be respectful to his family and you should get respect in return. The relationship that you are cultivating is with the boyfriend. That should be the main objective.
2006-12-26 23:34:17 · answer #8 · answered by feefee2u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way: even 'tho you find them loud and obnoxious, they must have done something right in raising him if he's so wonderful! Just try to spend as little time as possible w/them. Be civil to them. Don't give them any reason to dislike you. And then see how things unfold!
2006-12-26 23:33:08 · answer #9 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you see it having a future you actually do marry the family. My sister has a horrible situation with her mother-in-law and it puts a major strain on her marriage. So if it's really bad you do need to think about them as a package deal.
2006-12-26 23:36:29 · answer #10 · answered by Bella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋