How long is too long?

Question

This guy I've been seeing once or twice a week for the past 3 months left town to go visit his family for the holidays. He left last Saturday and won't be back for two weeks. He said he'll email me when he comes back. But I'm concerned for the fact he doesn't even drop me a line while he is gone. Am I supposed to wait for two weeks till I hear from him again? I think if he was into me enough, he would want to contact me. Am I asking too much? Should I just drop him if he does not contact me while he's away?

Answer 1

i would definitely want more communication that what he seems willing to give you. sounds like he's a busy man with many priorities.. could be he isn't willing to make this relationship as much of a priority as you want it to be..

3 months is still early in a relationship, but it is long enough to have established a normal pattern of communication. if he wants to totally avoid contact for 2 weeks, then that should raise an alarm.

i'd hate to recommend dropping him if he really does love you but is just really busy bogged down with family.

you could give it a month longer. wait for him to come back from his trip and see if communication improves or not. if he continues to be distant and fade away, then dump him and move on.. there are lots of other guys out there that will want a relationship more seriously and who will want to communicate more regularily..

i certainly don't think you are expecting too much at all. you seem like a sweet girl who really wants this relationship to work. i'd certainly pay more attention to you if you were my girlfriend, that's for sure!

Answer 2

I don't think you're asking for too much. A phone call isn't difficult to do at all. He's probably calling someone while he's gone so if he doesn't call you...you must not be too important. Does he not own a cell phone? I've never heard someone say i'll email you unless they'll be without a phone.

Answer 3

He might be real busy with relative, I would drop him one line and if he doesn't answer back then I would assume he is doing it on purpose, now if he comes back and ressumes your relationship like nothing happen, you'd have to assume he was really too busy, but if he still does not contact you, then hes ignoring you.

Answer 4

I hate the anticipation of guys taking a long time to get back to you. But yeah the others could be right - he could just be busy.

if you really want to know - just make contact yourself. If he really liked you he wouldn't mind if you interrupted whatever he's doing.

Answer 5

depends on how it is used. ohh wait...