What the hell is wrong with him????

Question

Ok, my boyfriend and I have been together a little under a year he is 20 and I am 19, things were really good at first now, he only calls like once every other day and we only see eachother maybe twice a week, he just gave me a really nice ring for Christmas, not an engagement ring or anything but then he didn't call me the day after he gave it to me. He just moved out of his mom's house and since then I feel like I don't even know him, we never talk anymore and he is so defensive about EVERYTHING. What the hell is his problem. As of now I am just trying to grin and bare it to avoid an argument because when I try to talk to him, he has a fit. What the hell is his deal?

Answer 1

Talk to him about the changes that you have seen him going through with interest and not accusation.

Answer 2

Sounds like he has someone else, that is why it makes him mad when you question him, he has to come up with an answer. Do you call him? Does he answer? Is he annoyed? Is he always busy? Never walk on eggshells for a b/f or g/f. That is no way to live, you will lose yourself that way. If you can't be you with him, you will always feel down or worried. Talk to him, tell him things are changing and you just want to know if there is something wrong you can help with or does he have someone else? Don't do it on the phone, do it in person so that you see his face. If he blows up, just move on. You are 19, too young to be sitting and waiting. Just think, if it's like this now, how much worse it can be in the long run. He has it easy, he doesn't call you or see you for a few days and you allow it so he can do whatever he chooses and know you will be right there waiting. If you rather test it out, don't be so readily available. when he decides to call after a day or couple of days, be busy. Let the voicemail get it. It may kill you not to answer but trust me, he will either pay more attention or if he doesn't care he will leave you alone. Either way will be better for you. If he starts to ask you why you didn't answer or not call back, give him one of his own excuses that he gives you. But not in a mocking way, in an innocent like way. Nonchalant, the way he is with you. You will learn if you are just convenient, if he feels like he can put you on hold that way, or if he really is just busy. I know that when i care for someone, I HAVE to talk to them if I don't see them. There is time when he is sitting down for a sec to make a call to you. Don't wait around for NOTHING if you don't have to. YOU GOT TO STRUT YOUR STUFF :-)

Answer 3

Honey it's probably called peer pressure he's experiencing being out on his own and he wants to have fun with his friends and probably really don't have alot of time on his hands and when you try to talk to him he feels as if you're nagging because he has other things on his mine that he wants to do. I've been through this before and when they get out on their own for the first time it's like a kid in a candy store they just can't get enough of being around their so called many free loading friends that they have when they move out. Just give him some breathing room until the new life wears off and hopefully he'll come back to earth.

Answer 4

Well, he's 20 and sometimes guys want that "space" at that age. He has not yet been out in the world that long. Most people in their 20's want to discover who they are and how they relate to various people, which is only natural. It might be good for you as well.

Over-analyzing the relationship will definitely get on his nerves. At this stage, most guys are not ready to "settle down." He may wish to experience some freedom. You might ask him if he's feeling the need to date others as well as you and even if it hurts, it's best to know the truth. Just be prepared for what may come your way and try to maintain a positive attitude. If you are fun to be around and don't nag him, he may come around more often and want you there.

Answer 5

hmm let him have a day or 2 to himself. distract urself so u dotn get too hung up on this. but ask him wahst wrong, ask him if hed like to talk about whatever it is. I dont think things can be that bad because, he just gave you a ring. do u intiate phone calls at all? u only mentioned him making the calls. maybe u should call more.

Answer 6

I hate to be the bearer of bad news annnd good news, but I'm gonna do it.

First of all he's not your husband therefore he doesn't have to report to you. Second of all, if he's acting like this now that you're just DATING, what do you expect on down the line if you do get married?

The purpose of dating really is to find a mate, so if he's acting like a booty now and you're having to walk on pins and needles to have a relationship with him, WHAT is the purpose in remaining with the boy?

Move on to someone else and be thankful God put other men out there in the world for you to choose from and who will treat you better.

Don't sell yourself short.

Answer 7

He's young sweetie and so are you! Don't look for the house with the picket fence just yet.
He could be just enjoying his new found freedom out of the 'nest', or he could be sexing up some friends! I would suggest that if you don't trust him, get a friend to help you spy on him! Yes, spy on him. It's better than getting aids or having your heart broken.

Answer 8

It sounds to me like he trying to put some distance between you two. This could be because he doesn't feel the same as he used to and doesn't know how to tell you, or maybe he's just confused about life and doesn't want to talk about it. You should talk to him.. good communication is so important.

Answer 9

Menapause

Answer 10

be patient...everynow and then people go through somekind of internal conflict..i cant really explain it, i guess like PMSing, but for guys. be patient, im sure his feelings havent changed for you. talk to him about it(i know thats what everybody says). try making a joke about it say something like" so have you always been a di*ck, or do you just not like my christmas present" make light of it, but bring it to his attention. good luck girl!