My son is only 2 but when he gets angry he will hit, pinch, or bit depending on what he is in the mood for I guess.But he does not just do it to others he will even do it to his self! Is this something I should be worried about? R do you think it is a phase that he will grow out of?
2006-12-26 15:07:12 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
First let me say that I work as a Supervising Social Worker with court dependent youth 0-18 years old who are living in out of home care. I provide parenting training, run social skills classes, and provide individual/family counseling.
Be proactive by teaching increased communication skills. Set firm boundaries with your son about violence toward self/others by time outs (only a few min long). Also, work on acknowledging your sons feelings (it looks like your angry - its OK to be angry, but not ok to hit). Teach the difference between feelings versus behaviors.
Also, when you change the way you parent, things may get worse before they get better - just stick with it, and remember to use "behavioral description" (eg: I saw that you just hit Johnny) then "acknowledge feelings" (eg: it looks like you are angry, and its OK to be angry, but not ok to hit) - ending with the behavior versus feeling difference.
Also, begin to request word communications with your son which will allow you and your son increased communications. Work on learning more about your sons communication before the violence occurs as to better identify parenting intervention time frames.
Remember to recognize a "decreased negative" as a "positive". For example, if your son screams at Johnny rather than hitting him, make sure to do the same verbal instruction above, but acknowledge the decreased negative behavior. For example, "I am proud that you chose not to hit Johnny, and you chose to use words to tell him you are angry. Its OK to use words to tell Johnny you are angry, but its not OK to yell. I am proud of you for not hitting Johnny".
There are alot of additional resources about "positive parenting" through online classes, free community classes, and even at some Junior/Community college.
You may also check to see what your health care plan includes for parenting classes, social skill trainings for children, and/or other family services offered through your medical plan.
I wish you the best of luck with your parenting and believe you and your son will experience success with the above information.
2006-12-26 15:11:17 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe take a good look at what he is fed. Artificial sweeteners, colors and so called "spices" such as MSG should be eliminated. Spices is a word that describes undisclosed ingredients such as chemicals that are added to further the appetite for the so called food that contains it. Then make sure he gets all the vitamins, minerals and omegas in the food that carry them. Pop is often partly responsible for these behaviors. Do whatever you can with natural foods before someone talks you into sources that use drugs.
2006-12-26 15:27:40 · answer #2 · answered by Canuck Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a phase he will grow out of it my son does the same thing
2006-12-26 15:09:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just to be on the safe side, I would keep a close eye on him...if it lasts for more than a few weeks, I would seek some professional advice...........(is he around other kids who do the same...he could just be learning from others) if he's in a daycare, i'd have a talk and find out if that's the case....
good luck.....
2006-12-26 15:23:45 · answer #4 · answered by nemofish 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep a close eye on him it could be a early sign that he is violent like my Little brother we had to send him off to a strict placement for kid to teach him otherwise he did the same thing but never out grown it
2006-12-26 15:19:14 · answer #5 · answered by loner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing to do is just try to focus his attention onto something else. buy a bop bag or give him something that he can take his anger out on. and ya it probably is a phase, but remember, it might not be if you dont handle it right!!
2006-12-26 15:11:00 · answer #6 · answered by slittle 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He may grow normally. But its still better to take advice of a qualified child psychologist.
2006-12-26 15:19:40 · answer #7 · answered by Subhasis G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is just a phase but u should keep a close eye on him.
2006-12-26 15:12:51 · answer #8 · answered by 2good4hem 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just talk to him and if he tries it agian tell him there is no point in hurting ne more
2006-12-26 15:13:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋