I told my boyfriend I was going to come out there for 3 nights and 2 days we're off.I asked him if I could bring my dog.He owns his own house and said he really didn't like animals in the house and didn't really want me to bring her.I was afraid to say anything at first and then got on the computer with him and told him that if we got married that I would want the animals to live in the house with us and that I wouldn't be getting rid of them.When I talked to him about it he said that I was worrying way too much about the future and that he knew that I wouldn't want to get rid of the animals if we got married and that that would be something we'd figure out in the future.I let him know that I love my animals like they were my own kids and that I didn't want to be away from them for more than one day and that I won't be getting rid of them.Is he really trying to make me chose between me and my animals or am I blowing him not wanting them in his house now out of proportion?
2006-12-26 15:00:48 · 4 answers · asked by computergirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Bottom line is while you are still just dating it is his house he has the control. Once you get married he knows that will change so let him have the control while he still can. I always disliked animals myself I did not want my house to smell like animals and was afraid of getting dog hair on everything. Eventually in my marriage after many disputes about it my husband finally talked me into getting a dog and now I would not give him up for anything. Good luck
2006-12-26 15:06:41 · answer #1 · answered by lovewhereilive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though you love your animals you got to believe what he has said to you, you mentioned that he didnt like animals in the house, this doesnt mean that he doesnt like animals altogether. so maybe you both can come up with a compromise. But its only 3 nights why cant you find a sitter, instead. really you are putting him in a bad position. Obviously he does love you. I think that he is right. He might just dislike that fact of having dog hairs all over the place or the smell of dog in the house. Dont get to upset by this, but it is really hard if your a animal lover and he aint but keep working on it
2006-12-26 23:13:53 · answer #2 · answered by Bex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe you did get a little ahead of yourself mentioning that bit about marriage! I mean, how long have you been w/him? That could have freaked him out depending on how long you've been together and how serious, or not, it is.
Take it slowly. I am an animal lover and wouldn't want to have to choose between a guy and my pets. If he loves you, then he won't make you choose either.
2006-12-26 23:06:23 · answer #3 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. He is not right for you.
2006-12-26 23:06:00 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋