2006-12-26 14:54:58 · 16 answers · asked by cutie_pink_lady 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Plus I understand that she will cry and I am the parent but i just feel as though she does need comfort and I make my choice to be firm. Thats why my new resolution is to place the cabbage on my breast as her doctor said which dries up the milk! So thats not wrong right?
2006-12-26 15:08:22 · update #1
Well she eats all solid food but as soon as I sit down she it right on me lifting my shirt to nurse her father has had about enough too I hope that helps with the answering of this question I am reading everyone's response and taking it all in. I thank you all for the help too!
2006-12-26 15:20:36 · update #2
Call a lactation consultant.
Do it gradually and definitely don't "go away for a few days" or make the baby quit cold turkey.
BTW: I want to congratulate you on nursing this long. As you are weaning her you could tell her she can only nurse at certain times of day (morning, nap and bedtime) and if she lifts your shirt tell her in private that nursing is something you will only do in private from now on. But please, take it slow because you love her so!
2006-12-26 14:58:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Is your 2 yearold taking solids and or a bottle as well as the breast?
It will be a slow process. You have not given much info to go by so I am making assumptions.
Start reducing the number of feeds per day by replacing them with solids, or formula. If she does not take a bottle, go straight to a cup, or else you will have to ween her off that too. Continue with the first and last feed, try to knock off the inbetween feeds first, then replace the morning feed, followed by the evening feed. If you have a partner at home, try to get him to feed her whenever possible, even if she does not eat alot do not be alarmed, she will not go hungry. Try to avoid going cold turkey, as this can be tough on both of, however if all else fails, it may be a last resort. Good luck.
2006-12-26 15:07:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
wow...am i the only one that read the response above...SEVEN YEARS??? I'll be damned if I'm breast feeding a 2ND grader..give me a break here Pol..I've heard up to two years..but not SEVEN! Jesus...i think that is the point where it goes from being, "nUrsing" to ..."Perversion"
As for the answer to ur question, she's old enough to be told no more breast milk...U are the mother, she can't "refuse" to stop unless you allow her to nurse...so just STOP..she's a big girl now, big girls need solid food, and to be learning to drink from a soppy cup, not lifting mom ma's shirt when it's feeding time...
think about this...are you going to keep feeding her until it's time for School??
Good luck
be firm but gentle...it'll work
2006-12-26 15:48:22 · answer #3 · answered by Stephane A 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I really don't like to sound blunt but; you are the mother and it is your breast. If you aren't in control yet you had better get control pretty quickly. The "terrible twos" don't actually end until the child is about 22yrs old. You might try taking her to the store to pick out her own big girl cup to drink from. If she picks a couple of special cups that are just her's she might be happy about it. If not you are just going to have stop allowing her to breastfeed. When you decide to do so you need to commit to stopping completely and cold turkey. No giving in or she will continue to fuss and fight you on it even more. Get it over and done with. She won't starve and when she gets thirsty enough she will drink from a cup as long as you don't give in. Good luck
2006-12-26 15:06:50 · answer #4 · answered by horsenuttss 2 · 7⤊ 2⤋
The answers is very simple. TELL HER NO!!! she is in her terrible two stage at this point she is testing you and seeing how far you'll let her go. I can pretty much guarantee she will throw monster temper tantrums. I stopped breast feeding my son at a years he was not to happy with it, but the he discovered the bottle which turned into a sippy cup a month later. remember your the mom not her so no more breast feeding. good luck
2006-12-27 00:58:00 · answer #5 · answered by Alicia M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just refuse to do it, give her real foods and milk as well as juice in a cup. If she won't eat or drink for awhile, let her starve a bit, I promise she won't starve to death, eventually she will eat. I assume she is eating solid regular food, so she won't starve anyway. Bed time will be the hardest, if you must let her cry, she will wind herself down and eventually fall asleep. Be warned though this will be tough. The crying, screaming, kicking and so on will grate every nerve you have, when you feel ready to explode step outside for second, it will pass. You may have to put up with this for as long as a week, but sooner then you think it will be done.
P.S I know I sound kinda mean, but we are parents not their best friends.
2006-12-26 15:11:52 · answer #6 · answered by krissy 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
For most people this is a hard thing to do. There are some kids that just decide they don't want it any more but most people aren't so lucky. The best thing to do is find something to replace the habit. Like a bottle or soother. There will be some tempers flairing but at two you should be able to find distractions to focus the attention elsewhere. Good luck and remember to be consistent.
2006-12-26 14:58:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
you are in control and she will fight you every step of the way. Right now she doesn't need the breast milk for nutrition but she does want your breast for comfort so this will be really difficult. You will have to find a new way for her to be reassured and comforted by you. fits will happen but be patient and let her know you love her.
2006-12-26 14:59:07 · answer #8 · answered by Ella727 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I hate to say that I have been there too. Mine was exactly 2 when I had enough. I let her cry on and off. It took 2 days and she was fine. It was my husband who gave me the real problem. I tried when she was younger but she would cry. He couldnt stand it and would tell me to give it to her anyway. So when he was away I just stopped it all together. And she is fine. Good luck.
2006-12-26 15:14:42 · answer #9 · answered by Chicago Girl 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
refuse to give in to her. show her that "big girl" foods are better than breast milk, and with any luck, she'll take to it rather quickly. it's ok to allow nursing at bed time, but make sure she has had something solid first.
2006-12-26 14:57:07 · answer #10 · answered by wrldzgr8stdad 4 · 3⤊ 3⤋