Do High School relatrionships last to marriage?

Question

Why or why not? Personal experiences GREATLY appreaciated. I will listen to your stories.; )

Answer 1

only about one in two hundred actually end up to go on to a happy marriage, and half of them end up in divorce, the trick is to date different people to see how you are treated and so that you can choose a person that will treat you that way forever...

Answer 2

When they do, my guess is only 5-10% of them are happy and don't divorce eventually.

I've been talking with my son about this a lot (he's a senior). It's hard not to fall in love when you're in high school, but it is CRITICAL that when you do, everyone be prepared to let go, and the best thing is to let go cleanly and without bad feelings. What does this mean? It means you can meet up later (after college, or establishing yourself as a self-supporting adult) and fall in love with your high school sweetheart all over again (great fun, let me tell you), and perhaps even marry. If this happens, you'll stand a better chance of being happy. Of course, if your HS sweetheart has found someone else, then it was never meant to be. Clinging at the outset (high school) would not have changed this.

Our culture (I'm assuming you're in the USA) doesn't support transitioning directly from childhood to adulthood. There is this middle area, where you have adult freedom, and the least amount of responsibility, and you have to spend some time there to figure out who you are, what your values are separate from your parents'. Many people do this in college and for a couple years after, some people do it in the armed forces, or simply by getting a job, living on their own and paying their own bills for a while. Some time 1-5 years into it, you should know who you are. At that point, you may be ready to seek a mate. Very unlikely before. And some aren't ready even then.

So even if they do last to marriage, most will not be as happy as they could, and many will end unhappily, well higher than the national average of divorces, I believe.

Answer 3

YES! They can last to marriage. And many times the "high school sweetheart" thing has a better chance of success than just meeting someone later on. How do I know? I've been married to my high school sweetie for 25 years!

I met him in the hallway at school. He was a cutie and a very outgoing new freshman. I was a sophomore. We sort of got to know each other that first year. Then, that summer he asked me out. It was a double date with some friends of ours since he didn't have his license yet. The more we dated, the more I knew he was "the one". He was super easy to get along with, treated me like a princess (and still does), and made me laugh. We dated over 4 years before tying the knot.

We attended a small high school in a rural community. There were several couples that dated back then that married and STAYED MARRIED. I guess when you partly grow up together with someone, you find you have a lot in common and are able to work together to make things work out. Another important factor is not being selfish and the willingness to compromise. After the initial "thrill" or "honeymoon" phase, love becomes a choice. But it does take two - - - - one person cannot carry the relationship to make it work.

I've read in books that H.S. relationships never last. Well, maybe the majority of them don't, but I'm here to say that it IS possible. Just be prepared to date a very LONG time before you are ready to be old enough to tie the knot!

Answer 4

i think so. My current bf left school at the end of grade 11 but we hooked back up after i finished grade 12 and its the best thing i could have done. We have now been together 3 years and have a beautiful lil 11 month old boy, we hope to get married soon but want our lil boy as a page boy so we are waiting a little while. All my family and friends keep asking when are we getting married but we are so happy atm and we will plan a wedding when were ready to get the bill.

Answer 5

I know high school relationships would last because you've spent so much time with them, in getting to know them over the years. Just knowing that the commitment was there, from the start, and both have grown, together, in all that time, makes all the difference.
It's more important if you were friends with your partner, first, in high school, and then let it develop into a relationship. This has a better outcome than most relationships.

Answer 6

Alot of high school relationships last to marriage. My mother and father met eachother when they were only 16 years old! But relationships take a lot of work. If you want it to last, it's going to be hard. There's always hard time in a relationship that goes to marriage especially if it's with your high school sweetheart because on top of things you have to worry about (like bills, in-laws, work) you also have the added pressure of everyone NOT believing you can do it.

Plus young people change constantly so two people would have to change in ways that compliment one another to make it work. When you're in high school it's easy to fall in love. It's also easy to fall out of it. I was engaged to my high school sweetheart and we broke up, but now we might get back together. Like I said, it's all about how much effort you want to put into it.

Answer 7

I am 27, I know a lot of people who got married right after high school. 2 out of 8 have lasted this long. I am serious. People change so much from 18 to 30, it's really hard to hold on.

Answer 8

Well depends on if they are meant to be or not. My parents met in high school my mom was a sophomore and my dad was a junior. They dated and were enaged for two years then they got married and are still together today going on 35 years with 3 grown children.

Answer 9

My sister married her high school sweetheart 26 years... her best friend Jennifer did the same still married. Her husband's best best did the same still married. Not to say their isn't alot of divorces in the world... however they found a way to all still be married... by sticking together ... twenty some years all high school sweethearts... good luck and go to college first. My sister had to wait four years for her sweety to be done college before they could marry... it has saved them financially many times over.

Answer 10

sometimes they do. not always though. i guess after a while people would like to go their separate ways after they finish high school. for my aunt though, that wasnt the case. wen my aunt met my uncle, she was fourteen, he was sixteen. they enjoyed each other's company and went out together. they lasted 14 yrs together b4 they got married (they got married almost 10 yrs ago), and now they have a five year old son (nearly 6). their love has unlasted a whole lot. sure, he changed once they got married, and my aunt did too, but they've both grown to love each other more through their experiences together