I'm in love with this guy and have been for a while now, we are best friends, but fight often, he has a girl friend and loves her, but we "role play" cyber almost every day. (He also does this so called "role play cybering" with a few other girls, or rather he use to, now he is down to just his girl friend and I. But today in the pit of my rage I cussed him out for about an hour about it and told him he would never hear the words "I love you" out of my mouth again. I also told him that I no longer wished to cyper even if just "role play" again. After that he seemed very sad and told me he had to leave. We have had this fight many times before but I always end up running back to him for more, I'm growing tired of this routine and would like to make a change, but I can't stop thinking about him, I love him so much...but I also hate him in a way as well. What should I do? Should i try to win his heart over or not? And if now should we still be friends? Or is that a bad idea?
2006-12-26 14:52:52 · 10 answers · asked by Kat Videl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
both of you should get a life!
2006-12-26 14:55:19 · answer #1 · answered by armond425 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow! you know first of all he is not a good friend he doesn't respect you and care about you. he only likes you if he wanna cyber chat to you, that's all he want nothing else from you or he want to get some from you the way you chatted him. if im you i rather forget him, he is not a good lover and friends to you. you can find more better than him, the one who respect you and talk to you nice. so think about how many times already you've been breaking up with him and you keep coming back to him that means even though he did something wrong to you he will think that is ok she will come to me again. if you said something to him you should stand your own words, not only saying the words but also you showed him and proved it ok.
2006-12-26 15:05:37 · answer #2 · answered by luvu4ever14344 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't willing to leave his girlfriend for you, even if he says he loves you.. then you need to just move on. I have been in a similar situation and now that I'm out of it I realized the only reason it was hard for me to stop running back was because it was comfortable and I was used to him. If he can't choose between you two then he isn't worth your time. I promise. He sounds like a jerk to me anways.. he's using you. Even though i don't quite get the point of cybering? Leave him.. move on.. find someone worthy of your love. Good luck.
2006-12-26 14:58:11 · answer #3 · answered by maya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not love, it's sex and it's not healthy for you. Role playing is not real life. I would suggest you forget about the role playing and concentrate on a real person with real feelings.
Fighting with someone is not love either. (arguing because you have a difference of opinion, is a different matter)
I'd say, get a REAL life and leave the role playing alone...
2006-12-26 14:58:17 · answer #4 · answered by Chrys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him, you are being used. You will never get better treatment from anyone than you demand. By demanding better treatment, but going back to him and taking the same old, same old, you are telling him that he doesn't have to listen to you.
I doubt he was sad, by the way, although perhaps he wanted you to think he was.
Get off the net and into real life. And don't let someone treat you poorly. Don't date another lady's man; you wouldn't want someone dating yours. There really are plenty of fish in the sea. Go find one.
2006-12-26 14:57:59 · answer #5 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont see this relationship going anywhere. I hate to say it but you only had a cyber relationship with him and that is not a real realationship. I would try to let go of this and start searching for a real relationship. One with real love and real meaning. God bless you and good luck.
2006-12-26 15:00:29 · answer #6 · answered by valerie s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should hold out this time
make him come back to you
cause when he does then you'll know that he must like you enough to come back to you, i mean you did that with him you liked him soo you went back to him, so then he should go back to you.
whether to try to win his heart over is up to you some people, like me, like the chase of trying to win(in my case) a girls heart over, other people perfer to wait things out and try their luck after that person is single.
if not, then again thats up to you and how you feel about how much you really need him as a friend or if you really could live without him always right there with you.
2006-12-26 14:57:56 · answer #7 · answered by Matt Koz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you know what you want and he doesn't.
Tell him what you want. If he does not respond the way you want i guess then you know what to do...find someone that will fulfill at least some part of your dream. Remember, all relationships are not perfect...expect some flaws.
2006-12-26 14:58:55 · answer #8 · answered by Wabbit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a girlfriend that's all you need to know. If he did want you, it would be you. Find someone who needs you the way you need him. A relationship is two sided.
2006-12-26 15:00:27 · answer #9 · answered by Nats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should just stop this nonsense, forget him and move on. it doesnt sound like he would leave his girlfriend for you and if he did how do you know he wouldnt do the same thing to you.
2006-12-26 15:07:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋