maybe i'm just being silly but i feel kind of disappointed. i live in hawaii and my best friend lives in the mainland. i sent her and her family (husband and 2 kids) a box of gifts. she never told me that she got the box, so i was actually kind of worried that she didn't receive it- but then she text messages me today (the 26th) and says "thanks for the gifts. i loved my gift." i felt kind of disappointed. i mean, i don't want a parade for myself or something but all i wanted was a phone call to say "thank you". am i just being silly? how would you react? thank you for your help!
2006-12-26 14:48:16 · 21 answers · asked by Chiqua 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I am the same way...I get so excited to give a gift and when there's no real response, it's disappointing. My dad always told me that if you don't have expectations, then you won't be disappointed. I don't know, I don't think a quick phone call to say thank you is so unreasonable.
2006-12-26 14:52:57 · answer #1 · answered by Moxie Crimefighter 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
No you are not silly i have friends that are like that also when they want to come to visit (i live in Florida) i offer to go to where they are going if they think i run or own a bed an breakfast I have been a big stickler on sending a thank you card. i had to teach that to my sister when she got married if someone send a gift i made her call the sender within 24 hrs to say she in fact received the gift in good repair an say Ty then within 48 hrs the thank you card better be in the mail box. and it better be hand written it doesn't matter if you have good or bad penmanship i have done this before an recommend doing this next year send a Etiquette book to your friend she might not know what she really did wrong thank you cards should be sent to anyone who has given you something or done something that did not have to take place ie a retirement gift x mas gift letting you stay at there home for a week
2006-12-26 15:16:42 · answer #2 · answered by rodeogirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not being silly, in fact your reaction is completely normal. Today, the text has become more than silent communication. It has turned into a lazy, non-interested way of responding or just an excuse NOT to talk to someone. There is a time and a place for text messages, but to thank a friend for Christmas gifts...NOT!
2006-12-26 15:09:29 · answer #3 · answered by jay73nyc 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's Christmas, she is probably busy. While I agree she could have at least called and said thanks, instead of ignoring you completely like you hadn't sent anything. Wait til after the holidays and then talk to her. That's what friends are for, isn't it? If you talk to her and send her a gift in the future, I am sure she'll more likely to stop and think. That was a very nice thing of you to do for her, and I am sure she does appreciate it. Don't take it personally, she may be busy. K?
2006-12-26 15:32:48 · answer #4 · answered by pixeydust77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are being silly, I would have felt the same way. I also would re-think sending this 'friend' another Christmas gift ever again.
In my opinion, a true friend would have called to rave about the gifts and tell you not only how she loved her gift, but also how much the kids liked their gifts as well.
2006-12-26 16:05:40 · answer #5 · answered by strawberryrhubarbpie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree. Some would say that she could'nt afford the phone call. But honestly a fu*** text. There are 5.00 phone cards, long distance service, and of course the cell phone she texted from. So since she is your best friend I'm sure you can talk to her about it. Or poss she didnt sednd you anything and may have felt bad about it. In which case she prob didnt want to confront you.
2006-12-27 07:45:55 · answer #6 · answered by peacfulwar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well no you are not being silly..i think that your friend should have at least called you instead of sending a text message...and if she really liked the gift then a simple call to say thank you doesnt hurt.
2006-12-26 14:59:16 · answer #7 · answered by msweet34pr 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would have been worried too if I lived far away and didn't get any response from anyone. A phone call would have been so much better. I means more. You can hear the excitment in the person's voice. You could have also talked to her children and see how they liked them too. It would have been more personal.
2006-12-26 15:49:10 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would strike her off of my gift list next year. Hell, I would probably even strike her off my friends list.
I'm sure she believes she's being thoughtful by acknowledging your gift in such an impersonal manner. Of course, she is wrong. Does it bother you to point out the error of her ways? If it does, simply cut and paste this post to her in an email instead. I'm sure she'll be surprised to realize that she's an inconsiderate cow and not worthy of the present you sent her.
2006-12-26 15:21:42 · answer #9 · answered by castle h 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I find it very tacky and inconsiderate. My best friend lives several hundred miles away. I don't send her gifts, but I do send gifts to her children, and each one of them always sends me a handwritten and sometimes handmade thank you card. I treasure them. Technological advances are threatening to make bad behavior acceptable and the norm, but I will continue to fight it with all I have.
2006-12-26 15:32:19 · answer #10 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋