My boyfriend and I have been together for over two months and his parents don't seem to like me. They won't let him talk to me on the phone. They take his cell phone away when he gets off work. They won't let me over and I can't go over there. I have never had this happen to me because people whom I have been with have been warm and welcoming. I know he is a senior and I am a freshman, but I don't think that is it. Please help me! It breaks my heart to not be able to talk to him!
2006-12-26 14:44:05 · 7 answers · asked by Meg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I do not think money is it. My family and I are not the richest people, but we do very well. The thing about the age difference is that there daughter who is 16 has been dating this guy on and off for years, and he is years older than her. Thanks for the help. keep more coming!
2006-12-26 14:56:15 · update #1
I am his first girlfriend. They never had a chance to treat other girls this way. I trust him though. It wasn't like this at first thought. Maybe it is the holidays and the stress of it all. I don't believe he would lie tp or cheat on me. I have known him for a very long time due to marching band and ROTC. I don't know about the school thing because he is joining the military, not going to college. Well, not immediantly anyways.
2006-12-26 15:10:35 · update #2
I understand about being protective. i am a virgin and plan to stay that way until I am married. We are both Christians and we both believe in that thing. We only have been together at his house only once. The thing is that is when she was over there and left. She said she would be back in a few minutes, but it was like an hour. My parents have accepted it. They know I am a good kid. I get straight A's and do alot of sports and activities. I do not plan to waste my talents and neither does he. I don't exactly know what love is. I do really really like him though. That is the main thing to me.
2006-12-26 15:18:37 · update #3
My parents are fine with the whole thing. They watch and moniter us just as carefully as they would with another fifteen year old.
2006-12-26 16:22:04 · update #4
It sounds to me like his parents are trying to protect him from a possible charge of statutory rape IF you and he should become intimate or if your parents just got upset over something and wanted to accuse him of that. I'm not saying your parents would, hon, just looking at what might be his parents' reason. Right now 4 years is a bit too much age difference. You don't say what your own parents think. And think about your own heart, too, honey. You don't say you're in love with him, but if you are, chances are not too good that you won't get your heart broken in the next few years while you are finishing high school. His parents may be being a bit too overprotective and controlling, but I'd just about bet that it's not you personally that they object to, it's what they are afraid MIGHT happen. They may be afraid he would get you pregnant and then not go on to finish his education. I'm sure it hurts a LOT, but if you and he are really meant for each other, and you may very well be, then just hang in there until he leaves home for college and go from there. You both still have your educations to finish and your letter reads like you are an intelligent person who has a lot going for her. Just do not start sneaking around seeing each other because if you do and his parents find out, it will be all that much worse. You might consider having him ask his parents if the two of you can see each other at his house with his parents there, That way they could "monitor" what you and he are doing and it would give them a chance to see you for who you are.
2006-12-26 15:12:38 · answer #1 · answered by nana 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you asked your b/f, did they treat other girls like that? What did he say? There's always 2 sides to every story, find out the whole story before jumping to YOUR own conclusions, it might be something other then what you think, like maybe they want him to concentrate on school without distractions from girlfriends, he is a senior, getting ready for college. On the other hand how do you know he's telling you the truth. He is a senior and you are a freshman.
2006-12-26 15:03:57 · answer #2 · answered by mouse in chicago 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is the same problem that my best friend is having but she 20 and hes 19, but in your case you should stop and worry about school your too too young for a relationship give it some time you need to mature some first, his parents might see that your so so young as well as their son and that he might need to wait also. But maybe if your friends for a while and you give your self a few years to grow and maybe in the near future they won't mind as much.
2006-12-26 14:53:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you asked your boyfreind? sometimes parents just take an instant disliking to girlfreinds without a reason. but it could be your age too. my son is a senior and he recently had a freshman girlfreind, we didn't enterfere, but we were very concerned. the girl was just really immature. Talk to him and you could even write the parents a letter and mail it to them. Let them know how you feel, why you feel that way and ask them to call, write or email you. Be calm and rational and very polite. It could make a difference.
2006-12-26 15:05:36 · answer #4 · answered by angel1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is off to college, and his parents don't want a clingy girl to interfere with a difficult time in their son's life. 2 months is a short time.
2006-12-26 14:54:54 · answer #5 · answered by DrB 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, the two of you should speak with his family. I wish you had said what your family thinks about the situation.
2006-12-26 15:33:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how rich is his family compared to yours? unfortunately a lot of people are shallow, and they allow things like money to influence their opinions of people.. it's sad but true..
2006-12-26 14:47:59 · answer #7 · answered by Byakuya 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋