My 2 year old cries ALL THE TIME! He is upside down.?

Question

If he does not get what he wants, when he wants, how he wants it. WHERE HE WANTS IT he cries or SCREAMS he DOESNT know what he wants and he is just a mess HE wont eat breakfast or lunch anymore. he is a nightmare. i honestly dont know what to do. he is fine for the first hour after he wakes up from his nap and when he wakes up in the morning but for the other few hours its HELL. i didnt relize terriable twos. is a real thing. but just everything he cries over i mean EVERYTHING! mainly when he doesnt get his way. i need suggestions. its really sad but at times its really hard to love him. but once he is sleeping i DO LOVE HIM. well give me some help someone

Answer 1

Sounds like he's got you right where he wants you. Try not to give him attention when he is crying for no reason. He knows he gets a reaction. When he sees that he will not get a reaction when he cries he might stop. He might try something else to. You never know. Just be aware this to shall end. Give it time. But remember if you spoil him now you will regret it later. Good Luck.

Answer 2

We are having this a little with my 2 year old. So here is what we have noticed. He is better when we have been paying attention to him. Get on the floor and play, sing songs and do finger plays, read, play cars, dress up and be silly.

Breakfast and lunch, my son is a muncher. He will eat a little and then go play. Eat and then go play. Leave his plate where he can get to it and let him choose when to eat right now. Eventually he will be hungry. Watch the jusk food. My son is a junk food junkie. He loves fries, candy, cookies, coke, and feeding him healthy is tough. Hold out. No snacks, no bottles, no bg cup of juice or milk that will fill his tummy.

Ignore tantrums. I know that sounds hard, but he is doing it because sometimes you give in. Don't give in ever, be consistant. If he wants something, think about it before you answer. Is it really worth a battle? If it is something that you really want him to have or not have or do or not do, then stick by your guns, but if it is that you are tired or it isn't something great, but not so bad either then say yes sometimes...from the begining. BE CONSISTANT.

Make sure your son is on a schedule. Kids like consistancy. They like knowing what comes next in the day.

Also check to be sure he is not teething. 2 year molars can really hurt and my cause unusual irritability. If he is teething I reccommend teething tablets, they have saved me.

Good Luck. It gets better!!!

Answer 3

Great advice from the others. Giving into him will only make it worse. I totally agree (my daughter is 2 1/2). It will be really hard at first, but eventually he will realize that this temper tantrum stuff is not helping his cause, and he will be forced to deal with his frustrations in a better way. You can help him find ways to do this by expressing your anger in a healthy way. (Not that you have taught him this-they seem to figure temper tantrums out on their own just fine. :) When you get frustrated, you can even talk to him about it. Maybe say things like, 'I can't believe I've had to be on hold this long! But I'm sure the people are doing everything they can to help me. Sometimes we just have to be patient.', etc. The only other thing I might suggest is a nap when he starts to get like this? Kids are pretty transparent, he may just be signalling to you that he needs a little 'quiet time'. Even if he doesn't sleep, it may do him some good to be alone (SAFELY, of course! :) in his room to sort out his thoughts for a little while. Best of luck, let us know how these techniques work out for you. Another piece of advice that I can offer is, aside from when he's throwing a fit, get in as much quality play time as possible. Even something so simple as reading a book can mean the world to him, and he will be more likely to responde in a positive way to 'unhappy' circumstances in the future, because he will feel secure with your feelings for him. Also, if you find anything else to be beneficial, let us in on your secrets! :)
Good luck!
PS~I totally know what you mean about when they're asleep they're such PERFECT ANGELS! How do they transform so quickly at times?! Gotta love 'em! LoL :)

Answer 4

He needs to know you are in control and that he cant get every thing he wants! Don't reward the fits with trying to solve this for him he needs to try to resolve this on his own, food set it in front of him and leave the room if he starts up and don't go find something else just leave it there when he gets hungry enough he will eat it! He is searching for his roll in your relationship don't allow him to dominate you, cause he will( mother of a 13 and 9 year old).When he throws his tantrums walk away because he is looking for a reaction and if you walk away and do nothing he will eventually stop! If he is doing things like banging his head on the floor or whatever he'll stop if it hurts, and if you ignore it!When you see him doing something positive give him praise and rewards then and only then!! Y ou have to get control and keep it!

Answer 5

I know its hard Honey. The world can be scary for 2 year olds though. Can you talk to him? if he is upset about something real and understandable then you have to talk through it with him in a language he can connect with. If its just tantrums then its just plain old fashioned supernanny. Boys need physical stuff. Try looking on the net for a baby gym...I bet he would love it. He would meet other little boys and he would sleep like the proverbial baby after running his little batteries out. Good Luck

Answer 6

4 words I wish I knew with the first child. Punishment fits the crime. My daughter used to slam the door when she was mad. Over and over and over again. We took the door off and she stopped doing it. After a day she knew she wouldn't get away with it again. When she started screaming we just put her in a room and left her scream. They sell pads for the ground so she can't hurt herself. And when the light bulbs were left on or sent flickering then the bulbs came out of her socket. She threw food on my niece once and my niece dumped a whole plate of food on her. It took less then 4 days to get her to stop misbehaving. A child in school once told her to kick her younger brother she told them no because she would have to kick the wall or something like that until she was good again.

Answer 7

my daughter went through this, still does at times. We don;t give into anything that is asked for using yelling, screaming or crying. If she wants something she must ask for it politely. Does she still scream and cry? of course, but not nearly as much. I let her throw her tantrums and then leave the room as long as i am sure she will not hurt herself, pay no attention whatsoever. its hard i know, but it will be beneficial in the end.

Answer 8

My kid did that once. I told her... look, when you ask nice you get it. And i prepared for a battle, and I got it. For 5 days she got nothing (not food, not a toy, not a t.v. show) until she used her words nicely. She hit and verbally abused me.. I used all my pre planned displine style. WHen she was done fighting... I was relieved, and so were the neighbors. I now ahve a very well behaved girl that tried once in awhile... but realizes now, that I don't take that from her anymore

Answer 9

You have to be strong with him and show him that he cannot get away with what he is doing. and it sounds to me like he knows what he is doing. and if you feel l ike you cant handle it on your own im sure that there is someone out there that can help. have you ever heard of nanny 911.

check out this website www.fox.com/nanny911/

Answer 10

Dojn't worry it'll pass he's just in the "terrable two's"