What is the general feeling on spanking? or raising kiddies.?

Question

I see some kids being raised by liberal,progressive,permissive parents and these kids look like they have demons, they always have these stupid smirks on their face, they never listen when their parent says do something, they laugh and test their parents, their eye seem like they are rolling back, there always fidgeting and just look delirious. It is really scary, like a whole generation has add. I think it is the result of a lack of discipline and some kind of connection to strange cartoons and other psychological input. What do you think?

I think the formation of the mind requires cultivation and borders to keep it straight and focused like a tender plant, if not the psyche grows unevenly and warped.

Answer 1

I have three kids, I spank them and take away privileges when they are bad. They have their moments when we are in stores and they gang up on me and get out of hand, but for the most part they are good kids. I am always being complimented on their manners, and their good behavior in general. I try to show them respect, but let it be known that I am their parent, not their friend. It is my job to teach them to act proper and control themselves, not to let them do whatever they want. Such as when they become teenagers, you will not see me buying them their pot, but I will help them learn to drive and go to college. I think that is a little more important for them in the long run. People may say I am wrong, but I don't care, I love my kids, they know that, they love me, and I hope they will be good adults one day from my efforts now.

Answer 2

I think a lot of the insolence and misbehavior you're talking about is learned from movies and TV. Look at how sitcom kids act. And it seems that every movie targeted at kids portrays adults as morons. Then there's usually the obligatory scene where the kid kicks some adult man in the crotch. Basically kids are educated to act this way in our culture. Kids are also educated to know that they're above the law. They can steal and destroy property and the law will usually let it slide. They know they can't be arrested except in extreme circumstances. And kids are taught that if they manage to provoke their teacher to react beyond a certain limit the teacher will be vilified on the six o'clock news while the kid will be considered the innocent victim.

Answer 3

Methinks thou dost not know of what thou speakest.

Kids look strange, so beat them? That makes sense?

I've got two well adjusted daughers who listen and do well in school, and don't talk back. My oldest was spanked perhaps twice. (I say that only remembering once, but allowing the possibility of a second time) The time I remember was whe she ran out into the street without looking. She had been told many times, and I explained to her that the spanking was because she seemed unable to remember any other way.

I'm not an advocate off spanking on any regular basis. I think it's possible to raise children without spanking at all.

One problem we do have today is diet. Children eat these incredibly high-energy foods and we expect them to sit still. Get real. It has nothing to do with discipline or demons, it's simply a factor of what they eat.

Anyway, I think it's clear that I'm simply not a fan of "Spare the rod, spoil the side", or "beating the demons" out of children.

Answer 4

Cultivation and borders? Heh? Hitting your children has nothing to do with liberalism. Unfortunately, people all over hit their children. Do you feel this cultivates them? Are you kidding? Do you spank your plants when they don't grow as you want them to? Or if they grown in a direction you aren't fond of?

Wow, buddy. Everyone tests their parents. I think you are looking at some strange cartoons if this is what you see whenever you look at the children of liberals. Psychology has saved lives. "Back then" children and adults who weren't the 'norm' were shoved into desolate institutions. It sounds as if you grew up in one.

Are you smoking something?

Answer 5

Spanking 3 times maximum is NOT enough. I would rather exert punishment necessary for learning and morals. I won't abuse a child. I see people slap their kids in the back of the head really hard sometimes. That's wrong. Flicking the nose is effective too.

When I have kids, they will not cuss at me. They won't listen to any rap or hiphop or R&B. But, they won't go to a uniform-wearing school either. No church or belief system that they need. They won't be baptized. They will learn that disappointment is a big part of life.

Answer 6

I think you should spank only when necessary. What I mean is, tell a kid to something once, he/she disobeys, and you don't spank, you repeat yourself, and make sure it's clear. The second time they do the same action, you can spank...not hard of course, abuse is an entirely different story, but you should let them know who's the parent and who's the child. Discipline is important, when there's no discipline, a child can become the disrespectful person you mentioned.

Answer 7

Yes God says do not spare the rod. Spank them when necessary, but give them plenty of warning. Start counting to five slowly. If the attitude does not change by the time you get to five, let them have it with your hand on their behinds. That is perfectly legal in Canada. It is not abuse unless you use and object such as a paddle or a strap.

Answer 8

Spanking is child abuse. It only teaches the children that bullying is okay. It also has NOTHING to do with discipline, and EVERYTHING to do with the parents' inadequacy. Your description tells the reader more about your own psychological hangups. Before testing your disproven theories on a child, get yourself some decent counselling, and get rid of your own demons instead of tranferring them to yet another generation of traumatised human beings.

Answer 9

Spanking is physical abuse.
You may not think it's that bad, but imagine if you were in that helpless kids shoes. Your parents are your whole world and they aren't above physically attacking you. How will this make you see the world in general? How can you trust anyone if those who you trusted first purposely hurt you?

I agree that kids need discipline, but resorting to violence is the mark of a weak mind.

Answer 10

I'm plenty old fashioned when it comes to raising children. I am thankful to have that time of my life completed. However, I do wish young families would spend more time together as families. One less car or smaller house, whatever it takes to make them work less and be home more. Closer to each other and closer to God.