2006-12-26 14:22:59 · 14 answers · asked by Shea Butta 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
IM obviously not talking about a toddler, i mean a teen or something near a teen.
2006-12-26 14:38:03 · update #1
I think a child should be asked solely for the purpose of discussing feelings, but a child should not be given the responsiblity of deciding which parent to choose. That is too much pressure for any child. When I was little, I would even stress out about which parent to spend holidays with. I can't imagine having to choose which parent to live with permanently. That's a decision adults should make.
2006-12-26 14:29:35 · answer #1 · answered by momof3 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way!!! That is way too much pressure and responsibility to put on the child! Divorce is not the child's fault. You will have your challenges over the years, but you and your ex must be the adults. You can discuss the issue with your child if he/she is mature enough, but the decision absolutely without doubt must be yours. If not, everytime the child and the custodial parent disagree, the child will rebel by saying, "Well I'll just go live with Dad" (or "Mom" or whatever the case might be.) Divorce is hard enough on the children. Do not add this burden onto them.
2006-12-26 22:32:02 · answer #2 · answered by l8ybugn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guarantee that a child will go with the parent it can wrap around its little finger the easiest. Of course a judge should listen what a child has to say but, he should also consider the parents and what any court appointed child advocate has to say. Truth be known my boyfriends kids would like to stay with him, but he lets them have their way all the time. When they are with him he lets them do whatever they want,eat how they want and run the house. They are better off with their mother, and I hate to say that, but sometimes who has the most money or who lets them have their way is not the best person to be with.
2006-12-26 22:35:50 · answer #3 · answered by Virginia C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not in my opinion!! If there is a custody issue chances are the child is too young to really understand who is actually capable of caring for him/her better u know?? they just go by whos nicer...who gives them the most..etc...I think this is a very important matter and should be decided by someone who knows both parents extremely well.
2006-12-26 22:27:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the person in question will provide a safe and healthy environment, and can financially support the child and all that does with rearing a child... and the child is 13-14, then the child should have a voice in the decision.
2006-12-26 22:29:21 · answer #5 · answered by ihave5katz 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They should have alot of say in it. But their word shouldnt be the final call. If the parent they pick (be it mom or dad) is a total loser who stays wasted on drugs day or night and the only reason Junior wants to stay with them is because they get to run around and do whatever they please - then no way. If both parents are responsible and can provide for the kid then yeah, the kid should have alot of say in it.
2006-12-26 23:11:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on the reasons the child has for wanting to live with a particular parent.
2006-12-26 22:26:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They should be allowed to be heard by the judge, no matter what age they are. Where I live too many children are being put in the wrong place and ending up either hurt or dead. They definitely should have a say in it.
2006-12-26 22:35:48 · answer #8 · answered by Cheryl C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes if the child is old enough to know right from wrong.
2006-12-26 22:46:38 · answer #9 · answered by papabeartex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the age of the child & whether abuse is involved.
2006-12-26 22:30:45 · answer #10 · answered by shermynewstart 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋