My boyfreind is becoming over obsessed with me. He thinks Im always flirting with other guys just because their flirting with me. I cant stand his habit but I dont want to break his heart and tell him its not working. Ive tried to explain to him Im not a dog on a leash and he cant control me but he still trys to. He also gets mad at me when I cant go somewhere with him. He wants me to meet him places everyday and I mean I have a life and its not all about him. So yeah any ideas?
2006-12-26 14:21:16 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you should dump him. Don't let him control you. I don't think he even trustes you and he should. Just because guys flirt with you doesn't mean your doing it back and it's wrong for him to accuse you of that. Like you said you have a life and it doesn't always involve him. He should expect you to be at his beck and call all the time. You shouldn't have to stop hanging out with your friends and family just to please him. Don't let him push you around like that. You deserve someone much better.
2006-12-26 14:25:20 · answer #1 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand, guys can get infatuated with girls and want to see them a lot or jealous easily. It sounds like he cares and likes you quite a bit more than you do him. I'd say just go ahead and tell him that he should trust you with other guys. If you don't feel like the relationship is heading anywhere or want to spend time with him then tell him that its not working. Theres no reason to lead him on it'll just hurt him more. If you decide to tell him its over be very nice about it, especially if he is younger (15-20).
2006-12-26 22:25:48 · answer #2 · answered by james a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds controling and them types have severe tempers,
u need to break it off soon or it will get worser.
Dont let him have all your powers, tell him straight out u have a life and he does not own u.
Tell him to give u space and back off.
If u dont, u will regret it later.
2006-12-26 22:27:03 · answer #3 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds overly possessive and that is not healthy. Leave the relationship now if you want to have freedom to live a normal life where you can have other interests besides him. You need to find someone that will trust you.
2006-12-26 22:26:42 · answer #4 · answered by Contessa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i actually had that same problem, but i started to just kind of ignore him a little, but not much, and when he asked me what was wrong.. i told him that he needed to trust me and that i wouldnt go off and cheat on him...and sometimes it was nice to have alone time...and i still wanted 2 be with him....but just i needed some space...
and if u dont wanna stay w/ him anymore..just tell him that you cant stand how obsessive he is...so...its just not working..
**best of luck to you!!**
2006-12-26 22:26:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, you're pne of those. Wait ten years when you're alone, and your only friend is that box of wine waiting in your fridge. Maybe you'll have a cat.
God forbid someone should want to be with you. I don't get women.
I'd say, "Look *name*, I know you love me, and I know that you want to spend time with me, but I don't want that. I want a relationship on my terms. I don't want to have to be with you if I don't want to. Like now, see ya. I'm changing my phone numbers, so don't try and call me."
2006-12-26 22:25:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok i am in the same situation with my girl but im not that bad. I was telling her what to do and owing her basically. One day she got sick of it and told me she needs to be herself. We argued and came to a compromise and now she goes out with her friends im less jealous and everything is starting to get better.
2006-12-26 22:28:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just said it, "I have a life and its not all about him" and it shouldn't. You are young! Enjoy it! When you are older and married with kids, you will be doing everything for everyone else- this is your time to live just for you!!! Be respectful of course, but not controlled.
2006-12-26 22:24:52 · answer #8 · answered by littledreamergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Copy the question you asked and give it to him. It's really kinder to end it now; so he can find somebody else. You can say anything; it's HOW you say it that makes the difference. The truth is always best.
2006-12-26 22:25:32 · answer #9 · answered by gypsy jane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happend to me once with someone try to talked to them about it and get into there heads and tell them how you feel and every thing me it got so bad i tryed like every thing to work it out but it didnt work and i had to end up breaking up with him cause it drove me crazy but i wish u the best of luck
2006-12-26 22:27:46 · answer #10 · answered by miss_murder0308 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋