Im a 18 yr old single mother, i have no place to stay and no job what should i do?

Question

i have no family or other friends to stay with(the babys father is in prison)..i am currently staying with a friend but i need to be out by january 1st...i cant get a job because no one can watch my baby (she is 3 months)and i cant pay for day care because i dont have any money right now...i also cant get an apartment because i have no money..what do i do??

Answer 1

that was a good question to consider BEFORE you got knocked up, wasnt it.

Answer 2

First of all - bless you for having the child and not aborting it. That took a look of bravery. The world will tell you it was a better option, but it takes a strong person to have a baby. Keeping the baby instead of putting it up for adoption was also brave. You can see how hard raising a child can be - but be strong, remain calm, get lots of support from friends and family, and find a good church where you can get support.

Social services is always a good place to call, but unfortunately, they do not have a lot of options when it comes to "I need help right away". My stepdaughter has been waiting for help for over six months, and it isn't forthcoming any time soon. You need to network. Go to your church and ask them for help. There may be someone who has an extra room you can live in for free until you've earned and saved some money. But be ready to be responsible about not throwing away the money you earn.
Additionally, there is aid for daycare, but again, most states have long waiting lists. My stepdaughter has to wait at least six months in Pennsylvania, probably closer to 18 months they told her. There is a long waiting list, and only so much funding. That said, is there anyone who can help you? Your mom, your aunt, your sister, a good friend, the father's mother or his family? Can you have them each take ONE DAY a week somehow? Let them know that it will be temporary, not permanent. Also, I know at our church we have a great network of people. When this thing happens, they make an announcement and you'd be amazed at how many people are willing to help out.

I pray you will find the answers you need. God bless you in your mothering, and God bless your precious baby.

Getting pregnant is not always planned, but NOT ONE single baby was every a mistake in God's eyes!

Answer 3

Wow some people can be really rude! Sometimes things happen. You sound very nice and are trying to do the right thing. I agree with most of the people here. I have a 17 year old "friend" who doesn't wokr and had a baby 4 months ago, she is get baby bonus and Universal Child care and a Child care supplement and she is on welfare (we live in Canada). She manages to stay in an really nice apartment that cost her $800 a month and can afford to bottle feed her daughter and pay for utilities. So if I were you I would get in touch with your local Welfare Office (in the phone book) Tell them you situation.
I wish you all the best of luck.
Where do you live (what town)?

Answer 4

Life's really tough right now, isn't it hon? Stick with it and it will get better. I can't say that my life has been as hard, but it hasn't always been great. I was married when my baby was born, divorced, homeless, and jobless when she was 18 months. Now she's 4 1/2, I have a good job, a great b/f who wants to be a positive influence on her, and a list of people who have places for me to rent.

Your life can get much better too.

Start that by checking in with your local assistance office. They can get you info on housing, WIC, food stamps, medical coverage, and help paying for child care. There should also be some programs available for job training.

Depending on what part of the country you live in, the names of the agencies change, but they are there. If you are serious about getting your life together, they can help you. I'll keep you in my thoughts and hope that you get to a better place in life really soon. Be a positive role model for your daughter. She'll need that more than material posessions as she grows up.

Answer 5

I'm so sorry for you, you must be so scared. You should be very proud of yourself for trying to take action and to find a way to survive. Your child is very lucky to have you as a parent.

What you need to do immediately is contact your local social services or welfare department. Let them know it's an emergency and they should hopefully have supports in place even thought it is the holiday season. Explain to your friend (or their parents) that you will be doing this but it may take a couple of days as many of the government offices are closed until January 2. Ask them if you can stay just until you get these supports in place for yourself. If they do not allow you to stay, then I would ask the social services for the phone number of hostels in your area. Hopefully there is one for women and children only, which would be better suited for you. I know that the hostel idea doesn't sound that great but tell yourself that it's only for a couple of days until you can get on welfare and get money for food and rent. Once you have established a home for yourself, then you can contact your worker about daycare referrals to apply for work. I wouldn't do this until you have a home first, it's very difficult to look for work if you are not in control of your homelife.

Try to stay positive, I know it might be hard but you can do it. Set an action plan for yourself with easy, accesible goals and you will be surprised how fast your life can turn arround. Good luck!

Answer 6

Great another welfare recipient. Like we need anymore! Why couldn't you get on birth control or try abstinence? You were sleeping with a criminal for heaven's sake. Did you not know that having sex makes babies. I don't feel sorry for you. You are 18 years old and know what having sex will get you. This poor child is going to grow up in a section 8 community while his mother won't go to work. There are ways to get a job they have day care vouchers so don't say you can't work b/c nobody will watch the kid! Admit it, you don't want to work! I get sick of the age old- go get on welfare and let the working class (like me) support you instead of forcing you to get a job and support yourself and your children. I say children b/c I am sure you will have more!

Answer 7

What about family, is there someone that can help you get a job, watch your baby and help start you out. I would go to your local department of family services for help if not. I would also say the father has a responsibilty to you and his daughter.

Answer 8

i'm sorry which you're having to advance up so immediately. :( you may nevertheless be enjoying being youthful... yet your difficulty won't enable that. i think of you may pass out, start up helping your self, and get out from under that creep your mom lives with... you could no longer stay for her continuously. you could legally sign a contrat to hire an condominium at age 18 (a minimum of interior the state the place I lived)... you ought to verify right into a job with an insurance business employer. I have been given my first pastime with one while i replaced into 18. they are going to pay to help you get authorized, and an excellent form of them will help you pay for college. good luck!

Answer 9

apply for a government allowance. go to the local department of human services, with that, u should be able to get money to pay for rent and u can get a job and daycare too, (the wic office can help u get vouchers for free daycare while u are on a "tea" program, if u have that. which is temporary employment assistance. and they can help you get daycare and all for ur child while u are getting a job. but it only lasts til u get a job and are stable. and all

Answer 10

This may be a very tough solution but....

Give your child-up for an Open adoption. Meaning your would get X-number of vistitations a year. Your child wouldn't be totally out of your life. But your child would be care for.
You should find a women's or homeless shelter to stay at until you find work. When you find work, you can move up and out into the cheapest place you can find.
Then you are ready to work on a vocational education.

Answer 11

Go the human services and apply for welfare, they can help you get into an apartment and with food. They can help with child care also so you can get back on your feet.