how do i make him fall in love with me and change some few things about him
2006-12-26 13:54:46 · 15 answers · asked by carina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't make people fall in love with you and it's not healthy to change someone to your liking.
Take him as he is or don't take him at all.
2006-12-26 13:56:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The older you get the more you will realize that everything single solitary experience you have happens for a reason. Your relationship with the guy ended because it was not meant to be. If it was a mutual decision to make it work you would have made it work.
It's obvious you miss him but you also realize there were things about him you did not like. Spend some more time away from to deal with those conflicted feelings or you'll never have any perspective. You're young and you owe it to yourself to continue to search for the person that is everything you need and not settle for someone that just has a few qualities you admire. Never let your emotions choose for you, use your common sense and think about the overall picture.
2006-12-26 14:00:26 · answer #2 · answered by Bonita Applebaum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think to answer the second part of your question, you can't change someone. It's up to THEM to do the changing.
As for the first part, did you talk to him about how you feel towards him? If not, then that might be something you should do first. Don't expect him to read your mind. Let things happen the way they're supposed to. Don't push yourself on him, though, as his feelings towards you may have changed. If it wasn't meant to be, then you'll have to accept that and move on. Maybe you can stay friends with him, knowing that you've done all you can, and maybe over time, things will change in the direction you want them to, but in the meantime, if friendship is all you'll get out of this, then maybe it's for the best...for now...
2006-12-26 14:05:07 · answer #3 · answered by argamedius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, never expect to be able to "change" a person, it just doesn't happen. Secondly, you can't "make" someone fall in love with you. You sound like a bit of a control freak, to say the least...
2006-12-26 13:57:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. This may not be what you want to hear, but it is the truth. You can not make anyone fall in love with you and you cannot change other people. You cannot control other people.
You can only make choices and changes in yourself.
2006-12-26 13:58:29 · answer #5 · answered by Calina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it's hard to say but you probably won't be able to change a person because that's what makes them so special. you might try to change something and then make it worse and you don't want that. with him falling for you again you just have to talk it out with him and if it doesn't work then it wasn't meant to be
2006-12-26 13:58:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we are having a directly proportionate kind of situation. I'm the kind whose kinda boyish in my moves. I like karate and painting and dancing... and i want to dress up in cargo pants or in skirts and rubber shoes. I like having black nails. Actually, I have em. But my boyfriend wants me to dress up and act girly. It does sound hurting, but I'm a Sanguine type with a little melancholic type. I get over it lightly, by, disregarding the thought that he's just... you know... wnating to feed his fantasy or whatever. I wanted to tell him, YOU'VE GOT TO LOVE ME FOR WHAT I AM! But I didn't. I thought that it might shoo him away. But it still makes me sad when I'm reminded of it.
\I think it's good that you appreciate the kind of guy and person he is.
You just might not know... he'' try to adjust to the kind of guy that oyu want him to be.. Or, just be better for you.
You dont have to try hard to change him. You'll just be both pressured. Be happy that you have each other. Wish you two the best.
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2006-12-26 14:11:26 · answer #7 · answered by krauss a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ha!
women marry men assuming that they will change their husband
but he ends up not changing
you cannot force love
you can only force lust by seducing him
love is unexplainable
let's say you did make him fall in love with you
how do you know he's in love? or just lying?
if just rip his heart out you still cannot tell....
2006-12-26 13:57:16 · answer #8 · answered by Evermore 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u want to change him than u dnt love him....but if u want to make him fall for u try new things....like kissing....stuff like that!!
2006-12-26 13:57:17 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now you know the first time is fine but the second time can hurt because he can't let go of all the bad thing you have done
2006-12-26 13:58:46 · answer #10 · answered by ingrid_brks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋