Help, I can't stand my brother's girlfriend?

Question

I have two brothers and we hardly get to see each other at the same time. Today we all spent the day together, but one of my brothers (who is 20) was on the phone (texting and talking to) his girlfriend (who is 18) the whole time. We were in a movie and she kept sending him texts even though she knew. He asked her to stop and she wouldn't so he turned his phone off. Later on, she called him to yell at him for ignoring her even though she knew he was spending time with family. This brother I haven't seen in six months because he's ALWAYS with her! When they were on the phone I sort-of-on-purpose said "Someone who loves you doesn't get mad at you for spending time with your family" and she, of course, heard me say that and then proceeded to tell my brother she doesn't like me...I haven't even met this girl yet!

Was it so wrong of me to make that snide comment? Was it that uncalled for? I didn't say it snottily, I just stated it matter of factly.
Now my brother is slightly mad at me

I have ALWAYS been nothing but nice to her. She is psycho. She makes my brother wear a wedding band so other girls know he's not available!

Answer 1

Well, I wouldn't have said it with her listening on because she sounds REAL immature if you ask me; Now, if my bf was with his family, I'll respect that period; why keept text messaging and calling; that shows she just wants him and screw the family; But the age factor is playng prominently here; She needs a LIFE without him. and he needs to know when a noose is around his neck before it's too late, and you need to say things when the time is right. Of course, that should have made her see that what she was doing was immature; but folks sometimes don't know when to quit either. Your brother will get over it; make peace but let him know that you miss his company. Peace.

Answer 2

Ease dropping on someones conversation is never exceptable. How would you like it if you wher talking to your boyfreind and someone was listening to you and said something mean to your man? Think about that. As for her yeah she seems controling I'll agreee with you on that but its your brothers life not yours. Only he can decide if it ends between him and her. Yeah I would be really annoyed to if I was at the movies and I constantly kept hereing beeping. Your brother turned it off though so it sounds like he could handle him self. He doesn't seem defensless. Im sure one day he will snap at her if she keeps up her obsesive behavior. You should tell your brother that your sorry for listening in on his conversation. Also you should request to meet her and get to know her. If she still sounds like a pain in the behind then say what you will. Hope this helps Sincerely Meg

Answer 3

in the experience that your brother can no longer see that there is a few ingredient heavily incorrect with this woman, she could be enormously warm. yet your appropriate time-honored females dont pull that style of stuff. All you're able to do is share your thoughts and want that your brother knows which you think of he merits greater useful.

Answer 4

I dont think it is wrong of you, I think you are right. The gf is way too possessive if she is texting while you are at the movies! I would try to stay out of it, though.

She sounds really high maintenance. I wouldnt be surprised if she is out of the picture in no time. In the meantime, try to have patience. I am sure your brother got the message (and probably secretly agrees with you).

Answer 5

Sounds like the girlfriend is immature and overly possessive.
Im sure she doesnt blame u and will apologize to u if she is wise and mature to do so.
Your brother is really mad at her and not u, so dont worry, they will work this out.
Just tell your brother u love him and would like to meet his girlfriend and he will feel better.
Your brother is a grownup now and has his own life to lead,
U will always be his sister, but dont get upset and think positively.

Answer 6

the girlfriend, and i say that loosely, is not right in her selfish hold on your brother. your brother might not realize how this situation is to the rest of his family. it's great to have a girlfriend but not if she tries to manipulate the relationship her way or no way.
your comment is a bit raw, you can apologize and see if things clear up but he is your brother and it sounds like you all have a good relationship going so lets hope the g/f can understand your point of view.
talk to her direct face to face, not on the phone, that has no class.

Answer 7

You are a very brave person to say that...but you know the way that girl is actin is unexceptable and everyone should know that family always comes first! But you know if she doesn't start actin like she should be then you should totally talk your brother out of the relationship. Unless you wanna be miserable with her 4ever!@

Answer 8

i imagine that it is hard for her to understand him enjoying himself with anyone other than herself. as wrong as it might be it is just her way. you on the other hand should be able to enjoy yourself with your brothers. i don't think that your remark was uncalled for, but i do believe that you and this girl should try to get along for your brother's sake. make arrangements to meet her who knows maybe you will like each other.

Answer 9

I think you should have talked to your brother about it instead of fueling the fire...

I know how you feel, my brother and I used to be really close but we grew apart and he even spent this Christmas with her.

Answer 10

This girl obviously is very possessive of your brother. But, you should not have said anything. If she is this annoying he will come to terms with it eventually and dump her.