how can i tell him.......?

Question

how can i tell my ex to quit calling me? hes always sayin stuff like "u was my main grrl but since u dumped me i dont know wht to do" im getting sick of him but i dont want to hurt his feelings

any advice

Answer 1

Change your number. If he still manages to call you, tell him to stop, or you will get him charged for harrassment.

Answer 2

Well, just be honest, sometimes the truth hurts sometimes. You have to ask yourself have you been truly honest to yourself to say that you don't have feelings for him any more? Come on Girl, for a guy if you don't just come out and say the relationships over, he is going to think that he still has a chance. That is why I think he keeps saying things like "u was my main girl" that is code for AM VERY CONFUSED!!!! Are you giving him the signals that he still has a chance? One common thing I don't think you are doing is your not communicating very well, Just be honest and tell him what really makes you sick about the way he acts or what he as said, if this hurts his feelings than oh well, at least he will not be so confused. Than when he knows what he was doing wrong all this time: forgive him and move on! Then when you ready to start a fresh relationship with him or someone else. Try following my five biblical principles for finding a soul mate,
1. Does he love you for who you are (inside first than out)? The Bible says: *“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-6
2. Does he honor you? Will he do things just to make you happy? Will he try some of the things you are interested in or maybe shares some of the same interests and hobbies? The Bible says:
* “Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.” Romans 12:10
3. Cherishes your body, mind and soul? Doesn't go to far on these things until your ready? The Bible says: * “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet Spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” 1 Peter 3:3-4
4. You trust him to the fullest? He is your best friend and you are his? The Bible Says: * “ Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes always perseveres.” 1 Corinthians 13:7
5. You communicate well? He understands you like he could be your twin? The Bible says: * “ Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful, that it may benefit those who listen.” Ephesians 4:29

To Sum it up: Stick to 1. Love 2. Honor 3. Cherish 4. Trust 5. Communication and I promise if your relationship is based on these things you will know what its like to find true love! And Yes! I have used my principles myself and I am convinced I have found my soul mate! But to find her I also used these same principles to weed out my soul mate from the relationships that just didn't work. In addition, letting God and Jesus Christ lead your heart, mind, body and soul also aid in the weeding process. God Bless!

Answer 3

Do you still want to be friends with him? If not then don't worry about it.

Drop hints that you have moved on or flat out tell him that there is no chance at a relationship. Some people you can't be nice to.You have given him a chance for long enough. If you don't mind talking to him, explain to him that you aren't together anymore and that just because you talk doesn't mean he has any right to be jealous. If he wants to talk to you and can't handle you talking about other guys, he needs to stop talking to you.

Answer 4

There is no easy way of doing this. Tell him straight - face to face with a friend nearby for support or write him a letter.

Alternatively you could change your telephone number or put caller ID on your phone. When he rings do not answer. When he sms delete it. If he writes a letter mark it return to sender. if he comes to your house shut the door in his face. Slowly he will get the message.

Answer 5

just tell him u need to let go and find someone else and her needs to do the same. If that doesn't work, unless you have caller ID, when you answer the phone say hello and if its him than continue to say " sorry I cant get to the phone right now, leave a message after the beep". And if you do end up talking to him and he says that he doesn't know what to do, tell him you know what he needs to do, stop calling.

Answer 6

Just tell him that he'll always have a special place in your heart, but you dumped him for a reason and that you two need to go about your seperate ways

Answer 7

I've spent my christmas having my ex-wife go on at me in the same way and my current girlfriend is having the same s**t from her ex boyfriend, my tactic is to just ride it out as it will stop in the end.

Answer 8

Let him know that he has to stop calling you and if he does not stop then it is harassment. Actually, if it keeps happening over and over again and it is unwelcome to you, then that makes it harassment. If he does not stop, then take out a restraining order against him and if he calls or comes near you, he can be arrested.

Answer 9

He sounds like a player....if you are his main girl how many other girls were there ? Tell this creep to stay away or just stop picking up his calls eventually he will drop it

Answer 10

Change your phone number or get caller ID and do not answer his calls. The best thing to do is tell him the truth and ask him not to call.

Answer 11

Tell him directly that you don't want him to call you anymore. Tell him that if he wants to make a good impression on you, he will stop calling because you both need time to get your lives together. Be sure not to offer him a promise of reconciliation - that will be misleading. But please tell him directly. He is calling you because you haven't stopped him so he thinks it is okay - clearly it is only making things worse. Good luck to both of you.