along with the cost of the tux which yeah maybe I should'nt make such a bid deal of....
My husbad informs me today that we are going to pay for the alcohol at his brothers wedding reception....guesstimating by the wedding planner to be 2 grand.
My husband says that it's custom to pay for the alcohol, but I have never heard of such a thing.
Should I agree with my husband and pay for it or should i stand up to him about this one?
2006-12-26 13:39:32 · 13 answers · asked by michelle a 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
My parents paid for our wedding.
2006-12-26 13:47:01 · update #1
You see I don't see a problem with kegs but...Oh no...God forbid there are kegs at her wedding ... you see the bride to be is too good for that!
2006-12-26 14:03:28 · update #2
i have never heard of that as being a tradition/custom....i think your husband is wrong about that....
i don't see any obligation for you guys to foot the bill for this wedding.....if you both agree that will be the "gift" for the couple, then you could do it that way.....but i think if i were you i'd talk to my husband about it and work something else out.....like you guys could buy a bottle of champagne for each table....( if there are 20 tables at the reception, you'd be buying 20 bottles of champagne.......much cheaper than supplying a whole bar, and your husband would still get to supply alcohol for the wedding-just on a less grand scale)
2006-12-27 03:22:40 · answer #1 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive never heard of a brother paying for alcohol no dad? around here the grooms father usually pays for the booze and the bride parents and the bride and groom pay for everything else.must be one h.e.l.l of a big wedding to spend 2000.00 the booze is not there to get everone s.h.i.t faced buy some kegs and most party stores have small kegs of mixed drinks 3 different kind of drinks is more then enough. and definatly do not buy your drinks through wedding planner they will take another cut .there getting enough already. sounds like the bride has a lot of money if see can afford a planner .spoiled maybe marriage wont last when all empasis in on THE WEDDING
2006-12-26 21:59:41 · answer #2 · answered by rosieodonnelneedstobefired 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not custom, the only custom usually is the brides parents foot the bill. and the grooms father pays for the alcohol. Is the grooms father in the picture?. If your husband is stuck on wanting to pay for this, then tell him you can at least go cheaper. You can do a beer and wine bar, no hard liquors, and no mixed drinks. This should run a lot cheaper then 2 grand.. More likely around 500. They can have beer on tap and whatever wine you feel like serving and champagne for the toast..
Is a loss of 2 grand going to affect your family situation? If so then I would suggest a sit down with hubby telling him that as much as you would love to do this, its just not financially a wise idea.
2006-12-26 22:00:37 · answer #3 · answered by Issym 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow i never heard of another sibling paying for the alcohol at the wedding. At my brothers wedding, the cost of the reception hall covered the beer that was being served. It as only beer and pop(soda) being served.
At my cousin's wedding people paid for their drinks.
Just tell them were you stand. You guys should have to pay $2,000 for alcohol for other people.
2006-12-26 23:38:50 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... if your BIL wants y'all to pay for the alcohol, then shouldn't it be your choice as to what sort of alcohol is served? My great aunt & uncle bought 2 Miller kegs for their 50th anniversary- not nearly worth 2 grand. Or, as was suggested above, just have guests pay for their own alcohol. Maybe get the newlyweds a bottle of champagne for themselves. But there is no reason for them to expect you to pay all that much for the drinks. I wouldn't be mean about it, but in this case it is completely OK to request a compromise.
2006-12-26 21:50:58 · answer #5 · answered by BabyBear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa - sounds like your husband needs a good talking to. There is a compromise waiting to be found for this.
It is NOT customary for the groom's brother to pay for the alcohol. When my daughter got married, we (her parents) paid for part of the reception. She and her husband-to-be paid for the rest. When my son got married, he and his bride-to-be paid for the reception. It was her second marriage, and THEIR decison to do the reception. There was not an open bar, but alcohol was served.
2006-12-26 22:16:34 · answer #6 · answered by istitch2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um my sister did it a little different she paid for all the soda an water 2.25 per person and at dinner 2 bottles of wine per table they were all 10 tops and a champagne toast she paid like 600.00 for all the drinks an had a cash bar for any one wanting a drink of choice an that was my sisters decision an her husband an they foot the bill not any of the siblings and BTW who paid for the alcohol at your wedding??????????? who's custom was it then to pay for a open bar at your wedding????????
2006-12-26 23:43:40 · answer #7 · answered by rodeogirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you suggest to your husband, instead of having an open bar where you pay for everyone to drink, that you have a bar but everyone pays for their own drinks....I have never been to a wedding where the alcohol is paid for, its there and if you want to drink then you pay your own bill!!
2006-12-26 21:43:34 · answer #8 · answered by Floridapurrfection 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What? Pay for the alcohol at someone else's wedding? If this is a wedding gift, and you both agree to it, fine, but otherwise, NO, NO, NO. That is ridiculous.
2006-12-26 23:29:31 · answer #9 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to pay for it. Then I would protest. But, pick your battles wisely. Remember that you have family too. What happens when you want to spend a sizable amount on your family? He'll have reason to refuse. Did his brother pay for your alcohol at your wedding. Did your brother pay for your alcohol at your wedding?
2006-12-26 21:45:18 · answer #10 · answered by lilmisstickletoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋