My husband drinks almost everyday. He says he can quit without going to any AA meetings, but he never does. He tells me I'm boring because I don't want to drink all the time. We have a daughter who's almost 2, and one of us needs to be a responsible parent.
2006-12-26 13:39:31 · 14 answers · asked by destini'smom 6 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
He says we're the most important people in his life. He is excited about going to a new church, but is still drinking.
2006-12-26 13:46:47 · update #1
Oh my gosh, there are sooo many good answers it's hard for me to decide. Sorry, but I have to put it to a vote. Thank you so much everyone (well almost everyone) for the great answers and the help!!! God Bless you all.
2006-12-28 01:13:40 · update #2
You are being responsible, you are seeking help.
Step one: HE has a PROBLEM, NOT YOU !
Step two: Do what you know is best for you and your daughter, and let HIM get help for HIS PROBLEM.
God bless and good luck !
2006-12-26 13:43:42 · answer #1 · answered by debi_0712 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Im a recovering alcoholic in recovery for 2 years now. One sign is denile. He will say he has no problem. The reason for this is because being an alcoholic i felt normal when i was drinking. Being sober was not a normal feeling. I felt strange to be sober. It is very hard to talk to an alcoholic. The only thing i would suggest is what worked for me. Is to make it more of his problem. Cause if he is not the one asking for help then he wont get help successfully. His drinking has to affect him in a very negitive way. He has to realize that drinking is making his life a desaster. Then eventually he will ask for help to stop the madness. God bless you and i will pray for you.
2006-12-26 13:56:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is an alcoholic and should be forced to seriously re-consider his behaviour.
I am 27 and a father of a little boy who is going on 21 months old. I also drink alot, regularly - and my wife sounds alot like you!
You are certainly not boring for not wanting to drink with him.
I personally believe the only way to change such an established habbit is through a shock to the system. Either you go and stay at your mothers until he sobers up... or scare him with talk of divorce...
He will not stop unless you take drastic action...
2006-12-26 13:47:12 · answer #3 · answered by AndyLoops 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your husband wakes up craving alcohol, then he is an alcoholic.
Seems like your husband needs to get help and maybe you and your child should leave for a while and maybe that will make him get help. My fiance got help after 2 DUI's and he finally realized that he would lose me and people close to him. He went to rehab and still goes to AA meetings. Good Luck and God Bless!
2006-12-26 13:45:28 · answer #4 · answered by nashvillekat 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Drinking every day is a sign of alcoholism and you are not boring because you don't drink all the time. Tell him it is time he takes some respsonsibility for his drinking. I doubt he can quit drinking as easy as he says he can since he doesn't even seem to think he has a problem. Go online and get more info on alcoholism and then start going to Al-Anon meetings yourself if he won't go.
2006-12-26 13:46:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call AA they have a meeting for spouses of alcoholics. You will get all your questions answered and find the support system you need. Good luck.
2006-12-26 13:48:55 · answer #6 · answered by thirsty mind 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Alcoholics seem to shake alot i've noticed. You should do a search on Yahoo and see what you come up with. Sorry, I know this is very hard for all of you. Be strong.
God bless you!!
2006-12-26 13:48:27 · answer #7 · answered by bluegrass 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
technically they term any one who drinks or can not stay away from alcohol and alcoholic. If your husband cares for you and your child he would do what ever needed to be done to remedy the problem other wise your child will grow to learn the disfunction of alcoholism. Good luck
2006-12-26 13:44:02 · answer #8 · answered by ta 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If one uses alchohol out of habit, escapism from the pain/boredom of sobriety, or any other purpose than medically prescibed, regularly, then that is alcholism. Whether its a mild or severe case depends on the consequential actions that it initiates.
First and foremost, do not condemn for it, this tends people to feel repelled from help rather than drawn to it. So treat him with kindness regardless.
Secondly, and most likely necessary for your sake, find a support group for yourself that can help you become the positive, and effective person you'd like to remain in self-contentment, and helping others. This may be your church, proffesional help, or AA, which is imparted virtue by its devotion to non-judgement and Truth, and thus is highly effective for any willing soul.
All in all, do things for the sake of God's pleasure, and pray for the remedy with gladness and confidence. Never lose your confidence in God's ability to heal all ails by unknown means. Even should this be hard to reconcile, it will provide you comfort, and him time to self-reflect by his own indrawn Spirit.
In all things be who you'd like yourself to be known by the Perfect Being, and worry not for others, for all are guided, however dimly it may seem. A dim light is truly a brilliant star seen from afar, remember others in this Light.
God bless, Allah'u'Abha (God is the all Glorious).
"Thy name is my healing, oh my God, and rememberance of Thee, my remedy, nearness to Thee my hope, and love for Thee, my companion. Thy mercy to me is my healing, and my succor, in both this world, and the world to come. Thou, verily, art the All-Bountiful, the All-Knowing, the All-Wise." -Baha'u'llah (Glory of God) ["...in the Glory of the Father.")
If you can not find this sufficent, then remember the Lord's prayer every day, and be well assured in His love.
2006-12-26 14:31:30 · answer #9 · answered by Gravitar or not... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if u drink to escape your problems, then that is a HUGE HINT that ur a alcoholic
and if drink every day (like 5 bottles of beer) like poor Bad Santa
2006-12-26 13:43:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋