He broke up with me saying he wasnts more fredom and saying alot of mean stuff. We were going to be going out for 3 years. What do I do? I still want to be friends with him but when is the right time to talk again?
2006-12-26 13:39:04 · 36 answers · asked by ladij15 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some people are just jerks. I say, you move on, act nothing wrong. This way he'll come back faster once he realizes you are not clingy and what he has lost.
2006-12-26 13:42:14 · answer #1 · answered by little asian gal in cresent city 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately Christmas time like all family occasions puts a strain on a relationship plus highlights the shortcomings of partners!
Its difficult to know if this is just an impulse brought on by panic or a serious well thought out ending of a relationship.
If a row started it all off - it could be just a gut reaction. If so I would give him some time to calm down and think about what he has done. Maybe a week?
But if this was something that he was thinking about for weeks and he did it in this cruel way then I would be very careful about keeping him as a friend.
In the mean time try and keep busy to avoid dwelling on things and try to stay positive.
As you have known him for three years go by your instincts.
2006-12-26 13:48:37 · answer #2 · answered by kiku 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best gift anyone can give to you is your own freedom. The right thing to do is leave him be and act like you don't care. show up a month or so later looking better than ever and remind him what he is missing. I know it hurts and it seems like your ripping apart in the chest but it will pass not right away but it will. Now is the time to be with those who are close to you and if not then find a friend. Not a boyfriend or potential boyfriend but a friend. But now you can stuff your face with all the ice cream you want and watch john tucker must die. or even any and all jay and silent bob films...except chasing Amy .....that would undo everything but honestly go out get a makeover and a new outfit and show the world how great you are
2006-12-26 13:47:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there, count it a blessing and charge it to experience. A guy who dumps you for no sensible reason other than for his selfish freedom, is actually a guy who does not deserve your LOVE. It does not matter whether you are going to 5 years or ten. He is gonna do it anyway. It's no use crying over spilled milk. Just pick up the broken pieces and throw it into the garbage. You need a break. It is time to re-assess your priorities in life. Remember life is too short to waste it away.. Perhaps you were not meant for each other.Don't allow that bad experience to stop you from finding the right guy. Now is the time to make use of the time. Go out and find someone who truly deserves your time, effort and most especially your attention and love. Cheer up it's not the end of the world. Who knows Mr. Right is just around the corner.lol
2006-12-26 13:53:31 · answer #4 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a lifeless git, wid no first floor (brain) move on, such ppl only know how to make others miserable, a friend is there to support you not to dishearten u n a guy like him, cannot encourage ne 1 so don bother hunny, he is a loser not valuing such a person like u n a beautiful relation shared by u 2.
May b u re better off widout him, ur luv wil find the way once sum1 walks in to ur life.
2006-12-26 15:13:33 · answer #5 · answered by Rachna S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to plan when the right time is. The right time is when it feels right to you. Make a point of getting on with your life. It was 3 months before I could properly talk to my ex again (mutual break up, I dont know if that makes it easier or harder to talk). If he said mean stuff then do you really still wanna be friends?
2006-12-26 13:46:08 · answer #6 · answered by teary chocolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not until you are over the relationship. When you are not mad or hurt or have it in your mind that you will get back together.
This could be never, but that is ok. It may take you time to get over him, but when you do, you may find someone that is a really great guy for you.
That was mean for him to break up with you on Christmas. He could have waited. Maybe it is better for you not to be with someone that would be so thoughtless.
2006-12-26 13:45:14 · answer #7 · answered by Contessa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact he broke up with you on Christmas day is heartless. Right now you need to take some time for you. Focus on getting over him. Only after you are ready to move on with your life should you consider a friendship with your ex (and that's if you even want to have one with him after getting over the relationship).
2006-12-26 13:44:01 · answer #8 · answered by tannedknight45 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You Don't Need The Stress Take A Break Yourself It Might Do You Good
2006-12-30 10:14:16 · answer #9 · answered by jim bob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well thats mean during the holidays...i'll tell you what i would have done to get back at him...get an empty box and putt some dog poop in it and thats if you have a dog or cat and putt the **** in the box and wrap it up very nice with a big red bow on the front and a xmas card saying i miss you and merry xmas lol hahaha just wait until he opens it and see's the dog ****!! hahahaha i did that once to a friend!
2006-12-28 18:38:53 · answer #10 · answered by ksmetalchick65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boo well it like this he let you go on christmas think about that to me thats the best thing to do then bring in an nother year with the same person that won't to hurt me an not love me for me an if he had an lot of mean things to say to me i don't think i would won't to be his friend spell out fri-end end mean to the end of time boo it's not wearth it trying to be an friend you will just keep your self open for hurt boo an look at it like this at least it not the new year
2006-12-26 13:49:59 · answer #11 · answered by ingrid_brks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋