The girl (23) is very mature for her age, a college grad, has a good job... has been through alot in life... always lived w/father so is def not seeking a parent, she wants to have a family one day and a loving husband
The guy (43) chose the career path after the military in hopes he'd find a wife somewhere along the way... women he'd been with cheated.. he took time to figure himself out and what he wanted and focused on work. now owns a house and has a good stable job and wants a family.they both agree on many things, life, children, relationships, love, have some of the same friends... The girl is friends with his mother and two brothers, helped move him into his home and set up/organize it. There is a flirtation between them nothing more than friendship... the girl wants to wait till marriage or engagement for sex and the guy knows this... could this become a good relationship/marriage?
2006-12-26 13:38:54 · 26 answers · asked by mk2004 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There are many obstacles with big gaps in age, but it can work. You have to take your chances.
I wish you luck.
2006-12-26 13:42:31 · answer #1 · answered by mbm244 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT is not impossible... but it is very hard. I dated a man 12 years older.. And we got along perfectly... Until his age showed in his actions and energy. Dont get me wrong he is very energetic.. but he still was 12 years older.
And when a younger man comes around and shows the energy that the older one lacks... you will say well we just went our separate ways.
And when you do decide to have children... one will look like a parent and the other will look like the grandparent..
And you will try to do things to make him look younger. But it will be hard and he will question if you have a problem with his aging.
Do you want this moment of feel good to dictate the rest of your life on an aging man! Or younger woman!
If you have to ask this question... Already that is a first sign of question. Had you been convienced that this was the man for you no matter what age he is... Then your head would have been in the right place to have a relationship with an aging man.
2006-12-26 13:48:32 · answer #2 · answered by Esther J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My niece is 30 and her husband is 41. Not quite as big of difference as you're talking about, but that's ok. I've heard of relationships working very well where the gap in age is even greater than the 20 years between she and her potential mate.
2006-12-26 13:48:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is just a number. What matters is the level of maturity. My grandparents are 20 years apart, and they understood each other and loved each other very much. And there lives were successful with 12 children and a loving and close family.Like I said age is just a number.
2006-12-26 13:47:29 · answer #4 · answered by Dottie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as they love each other, trust each other and respect each other, a large age difference shouldn't have a negative impact on a marriage. Sounds like they already have many things in common and some similar interests...I think it couldn't hurt to give a relationship a shot.
2006-12-26 13:43:28 · answer #5 · answered by hourglasspixie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This girl has her whole life ahead of her. I would advise her not to rush into anything like marriage... wait it out and see what happens. It can work, but the couple will need a lot of pre-marriage counseling, if it even gets that far. Everything else is sincerely personal. Seek a therapist if something becomes of this.
2006-12-26 13:42:56 · answer #6 · answered by oh really 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. The fact that she wants to wait for sex until after they are married(even though he may agree to this in spirit) tells me she doesn't have enough life experience and that the request alone says that she's scared of what the future holds. It's not the age, it's the mileage...
2006-12-26 13:49:20 · answer #7 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i dated a guy that much younger Id have to wait for a long time 4 him 2 be legal
2006-12-26 13:41:47 · answer #8 · answered by evilive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as the two love each other, age is just a number.
2006-12-26 13:41:17 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
properly.. this is a sturdy question.. If the spark is there, then it may final. yet.. remember, whilst the 40 3 year previous is 80 3, the 23yr previous could be 60.. frightening.. properly desire it helped in some way
2016-10-28 10:42:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋