a boyfriend of mine and i broke up after i told him a whole bunch of lies which he knows i was so incredibly sorry about. he forgave me supposedly, but he couldnt be with me any longer. what does it take for a guy to reach a limit in which he cant see his girlfriend any longer.. how bad does it have to be for whatever happened between you two to be irreversible?
i guess whati mean is that i believe i deserved a second chance...
2006-12-26 13:37:37 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no- you don't you lied --learn your lesson and don't lie anymore
2006-12-26 13:39:46 · answer #1 · answered by gabby 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No such thing as a limit...It's nearly impossible for trust to be regained once it's broken. You need to think about why you lied in the first place. If you telling a "bunch" of lies you're not ready to be in a relationship and no he shouldnt forgive you at least not right away without you showing him a change in your behavior over time.
He deserves some time by himself. If he decides he wants you back later give him the space to make that decision. He's doing you a favor by walking away. He's doesn't trust you anymore and he's not going to waste his time and yours by being the insecure/crazy boyfriend who's questioning his girlfriend following and smothering her. He'd prefer to be mature and just walk away.
2006-12-26 21:45:25 · answer #2 · answered by Bonita Applebaum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to imagine HIM doing all the things to YOU that YOU have done to HIM. How does it feel?
I don`t think that everyone deserves a second chance. It really depends on the situation. Sometimes you just can`t save a relationship, even if the couple still loves each other. If there is Hurt and Resentment there it won`t work. And how do you trust a liar?
2006-12-26 21:41:24 · answer #3 · answered by Roxie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love and trust are almost came together in a good relationship. Lost the trust part from you, the love still there. He is probably still love you and forgave what you did to him-many times over. Thinking that you might do it again, maybe he couldn’t deal with too many lies.
2006-12-26 21:50:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad to say but a man who feels that he has been lied to, is very hard to win back. If he feels he can't trust you, he may NEVER come back to you again.
You are fighting a very difficult battle.
The only way to find out whether or not he will ever be able to come back to a point of trusting you again is to give it a little while and ask him. But before you pull back, tell him that you don't want to be over and that you are willing to give him some space to deal with the disappointments that you have caused (accept all responsibility) and that you will be back in touch soon.
Ask him to come back together with you to discuss his feelings in a month or so and to consider reopening your relationship.
Its worth the try.
Good luck!
2006-12-26 21:45:11 · answer #5 · answered by Kokomira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u don't ... u said u told him a bunch of lies .. u broke the trust between u both , he will never trust u and will always Q everything u say in the future ...its not fair for him what u did when u tell a lie u have to tell so many other lies just to cover the first and then it becomes so normal for u just to lie with out thinking ...
2006-12-26 21:44:23 · answer #6 · answered by amal L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on the lies, if you were cheating on him then yeah he shouldn't give you a second chance, but if it was all just lies about you, yourself, your personality and what not then you should have or you should get a second chance. Now if you lied to him like saying "oh i'm going to be busy", when you're really not then you should think about your relationship with him did you really like him?
2006-12-26 21:43:28 · answer #7 · answered by cute_chica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't. You lied to him, and once you lie there is no trust left, where there is no trust there can't be a relationship. He'll always be wondering whether you're telling the truth or another lie and be miserable. Accept what happened, learn your lesson and move on.
2006-12-26 21:48:13 · answer #8 · answered by letsgetagripalready 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose he did forgive you but you destroyed his trust in you
& trust is very important in a relationship & he didn't trust you enough to give you another chance because you must have really hurt him with you lies
boy & girl man & woman relationships are NOT UNCONDITIONAL love
that only comes with a parents love for a child so if you hurt someone to much & to often you wont keep their love & respect forever
2006-12-27 01:46:07 · answer #9 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems to value honesty in a relationship and he probably trusted you. When you violate someone's trust, it's nearly impossible to have things go back to close to normal.
In my opinion, I don't think you deserve a second chance regardless of your apology..
2006-12-26 21:40:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may be possible to forgive a liar but who wants to be with them if they can not be trusted. Next time don't tell lies.
2006-12-26 21:42:44 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋