My best friend of like 10 years (he's a guy) is always cheating on his girlfriends. He came over one day and things happened and we made out and stuff. Anyways! NOw we calls me up for advice on how to stop cheating and I feel really awkward talking to him. I want to help him with his habit but things have gotten so weird since we had sex. Help please!
2006-12-26 13:31:39 · 18 answers · asked by camel lover 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he wants to stop cheating, tell him to stop having a girlfriend. Because he obviously doesn't love her enough to keep it in his pants. And you, his best friend, should know better than to let him use you like that. You apparently don't mean that much to him either, or he would have given the two of you a sincere chance rather than sneaking around on his girlfriend. even though he is your best friend, he seems like a dirt bag. Why would you promote something so hurtful?
2006-12-26 13:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by oh really 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he was your best friend, who became your 'friend with benefits', and now you're in a predicament where you've become intimate with him (and he's already involved with someone).
To answer your question, being 'How can "I" stop cheating", I'm assuming that you are asking this for yourself? I don't think YOU can help your guy friend, after committing this kind of act, when he was already tied to someone else.
You've already contributed to his 'habit' by giving into him. I think you BOTH need to seek some kind of help, in a professional way, like seeing a shrink, because that's not right. You can't very well think you're going to help him if you've already given into what he does, behind his girlfriend's back. I feel more bad that the girlfriend is stuck with someone so awful, like him, and that he's actually turned to 'you' for advice??? That doesn't make any sense at all.
Seek treatment and the only advice you can give him is to do the same. Stay away from him. You both are no better than those people who are considered "home-wreckers" and "whores"!!
2006-12-26 21:38:44 · answer #2 · answered by argamedius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be you were lonely or something so sex happened. It could be you have a little bit of a self esteem issue (which isn't bad - you just choose the wrong guys). Some guys and girls are just natural cheats they get "high" on the idea of a new conquest. It's so easily accepted nobody puts much thought to it anymore. When you stop cheating, you will feel better about yourself and you will find a true and lasting relationship.
2006-12-26 21:35:24 · answer #3 · answered by Martini Babee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you ask how YOU can stop cheating, if it was him who was doing the cheating? Anyways...
You made a huge mistake sleeping with him, but you already know that! Tell him you cannot give him any more advice on his love life and that you feel weird about you guys hooking up. Maybe you should cool it off for a while...
2006-12-26 21:36:17 · answer #4 · answered by Roxie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're best friends then you should be able to talk about anything. You've made your life complicated, you knew what you were getting into.
You'll either find some way to get passed this, or you'll fall for him and his pattern will break your heart.
Talk to him, but accept that you've put the noose around your neck if this thing goes horribly wrong. Also, for your own sense of fair play and self worth--don't just jump into the role of a cheater or an accomplice.
Good luck.
2006-12-26 21:36:01 · answer #5 · answered by Lori 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have put the cart before the horse and you cannot turn back the hands of time. It's sad that you we one on the cheating list. Let him know exactly how you feel and you both go and speak to professionals for help.
2006-12-26 21:35:49 · answer #6 · answered by clar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have feelings for him, I think you need to remove yourself from the equation. If it was just sex, then, figure out with him what makes him cheat, the thrill of sex or not satisfied in his relationships. One or the other should help you two figure out the next step.
2006-12-26 21:34:32 · answer #7 · answered by tannedknight45 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds more like a sex addiction on his part. He'd have to get professional help on that if he wants to commit himself to stop cheating.
2006-12-26 21:34:21 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain to him in a nice way that things feel awkward for you not that each of you crossed the line. Plain and simple.
2006-12-26 21:35:42 · answer #9 · answered by cold runner 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can help him by telling his girlfriend what happened.
And warn any future new girlfriends of his about his past reputation.
It's not the kind of help he wants, but it will solve his problems.
You'll probably end your friendship as a result; but no big loss. He sounds like a complete jackass.
2006-12-26 21:50:54 · answer #10 · answered by randomstupidhandle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋