I dont know why, but ive always been attracted to older men, that are about 10 years older than me. Or, just older, like 4 years older at the youngest. I dont know why, and i dont know how to stop it, or if its right to like someone that old, especially since im a teen.
2006-12-26 13:28:50 · 15 answers · asked by ava 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Older men have more experience and usually know how to treat a woman.
Don't look at it like it is a flaw. Look at it like it is just your preference. And YOU LIKE IT!!! Don't be ashamed of it!
An older man is distinquished and depending on how much older...can be quite a nice flavor to your love life. :-)
Do your thing girl! When you have an older man and you are attached to his arm, (most of the time) doesn't he know how to treat you and aren't you happy?? Don't let anyone make you feel like you are wrong for it. Enjoy yourself!!
Good luck in your happy mature relationship!
2006-12-26 13:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by Kokomira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well. . . first of all . . the cold hard facts are that if you are a teen. . . almost any man who will be interested in you is interested in you for just SEX!!! You can wish all you want but any decent man with any respect and class would NEVER mess with a young girl like yourself. Here is a test if you ever want to know if a guy really cares about you. Tell him straight out at the onset that you WILL NOT have sex until your wedding night. If he never pressures you are stays around. . . he cares about you. . if not. . .you know the cold truth.
Now. . as far as your desire for older men. . . well. . .. you might find the boys your age are immature. You may like playing the helpless type and having someone older and more independent take care of you. You might also be compensating for something lacking from your own father figure or lack there of. . Just be very careful with older men and what you get into. I remember when I was in college many many women in my hometown who were younger than me wanted to get involved with me. I am a red blooded male and there was some interest from my side as well. . . but I never crossed that line and did the right thing. . . most men won't. .. but most men are hound dogs who just want to lay in as many beds as possible. Kepp your self respect and pride young lady. . . . once they are given away or taken they are hard to get back. Good luck and God Bless.
2006-12-26 13:36:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Often they're attractive because they seem important or responsible. Maybe biologically your body is trying to find someone it thinks will take care of you (sorry, I'm a dork. Can't help it). I've been in relationship with someone older so I know what you mean. It's just the way you are. plenty of people marry others much older than them. Love yourself the way you are.
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... of course, depending on your age, if you're under 18 or 16, I think it's technically illegal. So maybe you'll have to wait a couple of years to get in a relationship. but I don't know much about that.
2006-12-26 13:34:05 · answer #3 · answered by Lizrd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a problem liking older guys,cause first of all let me just point out that age is just a number,although I'm not suggesting that you go out there and find you a man much younger than you. The reason why you are so attracted to older guys is, you found them to be more mature, more experience,more settle minded and can teach you alot of stuff that a younger man cannot teach you.
2006-12-26 14:00:46 · answer #4 · answered by babykong 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, guess it is just natural, when i wuz a teen , everyone was crazy about Lee Majors, the 6 million dollar man. He was like 20 yrs older.
It is just a fantasy, but wait til u are older to go out with these guys cause u are underage right now unless your parents approve of it.
2006-12-26 13:33:11 · answer #5 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that you see a "man" in older men, as opposed to guys your age, who might act immaturely or have different goals from you.
I used to feel like something was wrong or it was some Elektra complex--my college roommate pointed out that I could be just drawn to older males because they're actually men. They're more likely to be settled or at least have a better sense of who they are, as opposed to guys your own age.
That said, so long as nothing illegal is going on or that he's not taking advantage of you because of the age difference, then it doesn't matter who you're attracted to.
2006-12-30 10:57:46 · answer #6 · answered by Bookworm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in your late teens or early 20's and a guy is that significantly older, that's okay since it's legal. But if you are, let's say, 15 and the guy is 20..that causes a bit of problems. And if the guy is 25 and you are 15, that's even a bigger problem since you would be "jailbait".
2006-12-26 13:33:03 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You like someone older than you that is stable to make up for some shortcomings you may feel within yourself. Nothing wrong with that, expecially if you are the guy that is 10 years older :).
2006-12-26 13:33:16 · answer #8 · answered by PK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with that, men mature slower than women anyway it is not like he is old enough to by your dad or grand pa, don't worry about a few years, my dad was 14 years older than my mom no biggie they were happy till he passed.
2006-12-26 13:33:13 · answer #9 · answered by Scooter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated a gut who was 8 years older than me and there was nothing wrong with the relationship. Just be careful like with all relationships.
2006-12-26 13:32:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋