Is it wrong to forgive someone who had cheated once, but to leave later on; after discovering you're honestly NOT okay with what happened?
2006-12-26 13:26:28 · 19 answers · asked by melsaruly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't feel bad. You sound like a really decent person to give them a second chance. After all, it's easier on you and takes up far less energy to forgive than it does to hold a grudge. Letting go of the past is a great life skill to have. Having said that though, if you are without trust for this person it will be easier on you and them to leave. To forgive is tough so don't get yourself down because you feel deep down that you can't. The fact you've tried shows character on your behalf. Let them know this and then move on knowing you did everything you could. With that you will find love again and be just that little bit wiser too! :) Good luck!
2006-12-26 15:22:41 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong to forgive a cheater .... IT IS STUPID... as you probably now realise that is why you are having second thoughts. Although you may forgive I doubt if you can ever forget so it will be virtually impossible to rebuild a relationship. Once a cheater always a cheater . That is the saying and for very good reasons. A cheater is a selfish person who will ALWAYS put their own wants ahead of your needs. Go fresh into the future . Even on your own you are better off than with someone you can never trust again...
2006-12-26 13:33:10 · answer #2 · answered by anikintyme 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not wrong at all!!! I was cheated on and almost took him back. Now looking back three years later I am sooooo happy i didnt take him back, he is always cheating on the girlfriend he is with now! So do not feel bad, once a cheater always a cheater im sorry but it true.
2006-12-26 13:29:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sweetheart, once a cheater always a cheater. Honey, he is cheating on you because he has a comfortable, stable ground to which he can cheat. Take this out, and watch how he becomes nothing. Cupcakes, have some self-worth and leave this loser before you become one the his "girls".
2006-12-26 13:30:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes because if you don't come clean, you will resent that person anyway and it will build inside you and show. I'm thinking, though, once you get totally honest and direct and tell them you can't forgive them, that's sort of the end, right? I think it is.
2006-12-26 13:29:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No it is not wrong. Before you can rebuild trust with that person, you need to be accepting of what occurred. Emotions cloud our thinking. You must do what is right for you. Good on you for having the strength of your convictions.
2006-12-26 13:32:00 · answer #6 · answered by Flab 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he ask's for forgiveness then no its not, Forgive them just like Jesus forgives you as you ask for forgiveness!
2006-12-26 13:29:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
hell no.....
dont u ever take that back... if u left thats because ur consious could not handle it and good for you... why should u always b wondering where he is, whats he up 2,, is he lying 2 me now???
its not ok what he did and u have every right to walk out and not put up with it... u showed him that u cant b walked all over, u deserve respect and u walked out with ur pride and dignity..
well done!!!!
2006-12-26 13:30:58 · answer #8 · answered by sweetness 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
U should forgive him and God in heaven will forgive u.
there is no turnin back on forgiveness, love overrules.
2006-12-26 13:28:50 · answer #9 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I've done the same thing. That's why I don't forgive anymore.
2006-12-26 13:27:57 · answer #10 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋