I'm really having a hard time "liking" most fellow humans. What can I do to find humans likeable?

Question

Most people are liars. Greedy. Selfish. Usurers. No integrity. Few young people even have character, it's easier to just be a carbon copy of the latest bubblegum pop or hip hop idol. I'd be content to be in the company of animals. What can I do to like/love all of humanity, and stop anticipating malice from everyone? It honestly seems easier this way. I don't treat anyone bad, I just have problems observing the behavior of people and then loving them. I wish I could be like Jesus.

Answer 1

I see your sincere in your question, I feel your hurts, and all humans can hurt one another, sometimes not meaning to, we are all sinners. Sounds like you do try, I've read some of you other questions and answers, to basically get a better feel on what your going through. I too hate lies, especially from someone close to me. Prayer is very strong as well as the power of our thoughts within, especially combining the two together, you can do anything, be patient in working on that. I like what you wrote that you wish you can be more like Jesus. me too, I'm still working on it:) The longer you work on it, the closer you become to him, like a personal relationship, eventually you will become more like him.... it takes time, time to grow. We become stronger through our experiences. You gain knowledge, understanding. set some easy goals for yourself and write down all the positives down daily, increasing the goals as you go along. Write down if any positives in any negative person, seek some positives....God love negative people too, God knows we all have the ability to change.
I hope this helps you in some way:)

Answer 2

There is a saying "hate the behavior, not the person" People who apply Bible principles to their own lives do not behave as the people that you are speaking about. The world is lying in the power of the wicked one, so it is to be expected that many behave with the spirit of the world (this system of things). The Bible says...

Revelations 21:8: "But as for the cowards and those without faith and those who are disgusting in their filth and murderers and fornicators and those practicing spiritism and idolaters and all the liars, their portion will be in the lake that burns with fire and sulphur. This means the second death.”

Ephesians 5: 3-7: "Let fornication and uncleanness of every sort or greediness not even be mentioned among YOU, just as it befits holy people; 4 neither shameful conduct nor foolish talking nor obscene jesting, things which are not becoming, but rather the giving of thanks. 5 For YOU know this, recognizing it for yourselves, that no fornicator or unclean person or greedy person—which means being an idolater—has any inheritance in the kingdom of the Christ and of God.

6 Let no man deceive YOU with empty words, for because of the aforesaid things the wrath of God is coming upon the sons of disobedience. 7 Therefore do not become partakers with them;"

I guess what I am trying to say is that one should be careful of the company one keeps, and look for the ones who are applying Bible principles to their lives.If you want to gain respect and appreciation and love for fellow humans, watch the company you keep.

Answer 3

I know how you feel.

It seems like so many people are extremely superficial and posturing. The thing to remember is that when we assess someone based on what meets our eyes and ears, we're acting even more superficial.

I've recently been trying to listen closely to what people say, while completely ignoring the way they say it. This way, I don't get annoyed with things i cannot change about others.

I've also found that when people disappoint me, it's not necessarily due to their flaw. In order for there to be disappointment, there must be expectations on my behalf. If I eliminate my expectations of others, I can assure that I will only be surprised in a positive way.

I'm not saying I'm there yet, but I've made big progress. Maybe you'll make much more than me! Good luck, and always believe in yourself, so that even if the entire world may act like martians, you can laugh it off, and be content in and of yourself.

Hope I could help ya!

Answer 4

If you really want to be more like Jesus, you can. The first thing you have to realize is that you and I, all of us, are only here because of God. It's not about us. It's all about God. When we realize that, we can find out what life is about, what our purpose is and how to do God's will. I hope you already believe that Jesus died for us because we are all sinners. I truly believe when you start living for God, instead of for yourself or man, you will see remarkable changes in your life. You will start seeing the good in people. You will start to love everyone even if you don't agree with everything they do or say. We are all children of God.

God Bless you and may you have a safe and Happy New Year.

Answer 5

My dear child, no, not everyone are like that. Very few people are actually, but somedays it is hard not to see them in that negative way.
The best thing you can do to love your neighbor is to love yourself first. *This takes work.* Trust me.
Love yourself enough to stop jumping to conclusions and quit nit-picking. Most people are good. 10% of them need a lot of help, yes, but only 4% of that are really bad.
Be kind. Be kind to yourself and be kind to those you see around you. Say hi. Say please, thank you, you're welcome. Hold a door open.
SMILE and mean it. Laugh. Look outside and instead of seeing someone with a frown notice it's sunny outside or that there's grass growing.
Most of us secretly wish we could be like Jesus. He was a very good man and loved a great deal. Love is a good thing, but it leaves us open for hurt. To Love you have to be willing to
Hurt too. and that's sometime's the hardest part. Once you can get yourself over that hurdle you can start. Try, please.
Email if you want to. Blessings, my Dear One.

Answer 6

I understand what you mean. We are all sinners and fall way short of the glory of God.
Try this, try finding one thing good about the people you meet. I do this at work. People who like you say I know have lied, or are SO negative, I say something very nice to them, give them a sincere compliment and it has seemed to help a great deal.

Answer 7

For myself, I think the best advice I ever got for 'dealing with other people' was to just approach them with your own complete honesty.

Whatever you do, *do not* anticipate malice or that is what you will find. Anticipate that they will be as open and honest as you are.

Some will (and it will be great) and some won't. As long as you've stayed honest with yourself, the greedy, selfish people can't touch you.

Answer 8

Well my friend, its not unusual. What you feel is usual.

Now you want to feel unusual, you need some effort.

We, humans, are intelligent social animals. So, intelligence is what creates a difference between each and every being. The environmental factors and the things you study make your personality. Now each personality is depiction of a series of events (of your life). So, each personality is a character of a story telling its own tail.

Why don't you listen to the characters as they try to tell you their story. Its really interesting!

Study humanity! each one you meet.

You would start liking it.

Best of Luck

Answer 9

I don't want to come across mean. I think that you see the things that you do wrong as lesser evil. You should always put yourself on the level of the person you are judging, you'll be less likely to judge if you are understanding that you are no better in the eyes of God.

Judging is when you think of yourself as better than someone else. It is OK to think that the things you mentioned are bad things. It is judging to say that you are better than them because they do them. God knows their heart and what drives their sin. God knows your heart and what drives your sin. Your dislike and unwillingness are probably your biggest sinning problem and every bit as bad as greed and lying. Good luck

God Bless

Jett B

Answer 10

Find others with common interests. Animals? Humane society, volunteer at the zoo. Become a pet sitter. Join a dog club. Lots of great people to meet. Try not to judge, try to learn about the other person.