What would you do if you were told by a doctor you had cancer?

Question

My mom had a biopsy about 4 months ago and says the doctor has not given her the results.

I personally do not believe that, but it is a pretty crappy health network she goes through. I really hope she's not lying to me.

But if she then this means she is just lessening the chances she can be helped with treatment or even surgery.

Please help!!!

Answer 1

I'm a nurse. Yes the test results should have been back by now. If the doctor really hasn't gotten them, she should raise hell about it. In contrast she could just not be wanting to worry you. I'm sure this is really hard on the both of you. Try to talk to your mom in a loving way, because you love and care for her. Respect her because she is your mom. I have a movie I would like to share with you and your mom. I hope this blesses you as it did me. I'm a Christian and I will be praying for you and your family.

Answer 2

Since it is possible to have biopsy results almost immediately (within a few days at the most) your Mom either knows or is avoiding the issue. You need to talk to your Mom. I don't know how old you are but she may be trying to protect you. Sit down and tell her that you know that biopsy results do not take 4 months . . it takes only a few days. Gently ask her what is really going on. If the doctor never called her back, than she needs to immediately call them . . while you watch. If she won't do that, ask her permission and than you call. I'm pretty sure she knows the results, if cancer was present than the doctor would have called with news or for a follow up visit with an oncologist. If that didn't happen, than there is a possible violation of ethics.

My son has had several biopsies (lympth nodes and three bone marrow biopsies) and we always had the results within two or three days.

Good luck.

Answer 3

This is a difficult situation for you. I'm sorry. Typically, if a person has a biopsy, the results would be given at a followup appointment. If you mother has not received a call from the doctor's office or if they were unable to get ahold of her with abnormal results, they would usually send a letter. She should contact the physician's office immediately to find out the results. Often, people are frightened of what the results might show and they avoid finding out the answers. This is a mistake! If the results were abnormal you need to know right away so you can make decisions about further treatments or procedures that are needed. Let your mom know that you are there for her to support her whatever happens and encourage her to find out the results asap! The sooner the better! Good luck - I feel for you in this situation. Hopefully, the results were negative and that is why there was no contact made.

Answer 4

Been there, done that.

First of all, no matter what conditions you are diagnosed with, you need to be an active, assertive, and educated patient to get the best care. Your mom needs to call that doctor's office and raise seven kinds of hell if she has not yet received results. Then she needs to FIRE HIM/HER, find another doctor, have another biopsy and find out what is really going on. Crappy health network or no, you still have options guaranteed to you by law. Research it and help her assert herself.

Secondly--what did I do when I was told I had cancer? Freaked out a bit, then did a TON of research, then sought out the best surgeon I could find and together we decided upon the best course of treatment. Continued freaking out periodically until my surgery, but every time I found myself thinking morbid thoughts, I replaced them with "I am healthy, I am healthy" until I calmed down. Used acupuncture, visited a naturopath and used complementary treatments including herbs, meditation, prayer and kirtan. So far, I'm cancer free.

I had an "easy" cancer to cure, but I will tell you right now that doesn't make you feel much better when you are diagnosed! Either way--I firmly believe that my good health now, a year after my diagnosis, is due to the fact that I educated myself and insisted on having some degree of control over my treatment.

I wish the best for your mom!

Answer 5

No results in 4 months? that's awful, she need to call them tomorrow!! 4 months if she has cancer means 4 months the cancer is growing and possibly spreading and she could have been in treatment during that whole time.

I would take her aside and have a heart to heart talk with her, I think it's really bothering you or you would not have posted this, just say to her "I really need to know, did you get any letter or call or any results at all from your biopsy?" if she says no, then say "You need to call them tomorrow, that's not acceptable, if you have anything like cancer you need treatment asap and if you don't want to call them I will call them for you"

Usually if its something serious they call immediately, send a letter or have you come in so maybe there was nothing to worry about, but you need to know that for sure.

Answer 6

I've been there, so I know how it feels. Fortunately it was my own doctor who told me they'd found it, but he was sure, because they caught it so early, that they had all of it. He asked me to consider a hysterectomy.
Along comes the gynecologist who did the biopsy, and tells me, very plainly that there will be no ifs, ands, or buts. I am having the operation, period.. He was so cold and unfeeling that I fled to a phone booth where a nurse found me, and helped me get myself under control. When the gynecologist came back the next day, he said I was being foolish and unreasonable, and I was having the operation. This time I got mad, and asked him, "Can you guarantee that this won't happen again?" When he answered "No", I told him he had my answer. "You're not touching me!" He was very abusive, but the only reason he wanted to do the deed was so I wouldn't have any more kids. I never did have the op, and that was almost 33 years ago, and none of my doctors have ever tried to convince me otherwise.
Tell your mom that you need to know the truth, that it's not fair to you to keep it from you. She should have had her test results back by now, so unless she becomes visibly distressed keep asking. The health networks are getting crappy all over the place. I've taken aim at a few doctors because of their attitiude towards us, and we need to fight back as much as we can, for better health care.

Answer 7

I would do almost everything I could to make myself better, unless the chances of getting better were slim to none and the treatment would lessen the time I had left. If that didn't work, I would thank God for each day that I was allowed to be with my family and friends and I would live each day to the fullest, experiencing all of those things I would miss most when my time was up.

Everyone has to make their own choice. Talk to your mom about your fears and tell her that you hope she wouldn't keep anything from you. You can help her decide what to do if the news is bad, but in the end it is her choice and she will do what she thinks is best for herself and her family.

I wish you and your family the best of luck!

Answer 8

Read this carefully.
The Doctors and Hospitals make lots of money "pretending" to cure any kind of cancer.
There are very few of doctors left that would tell you the truth.
To Cure and Prevent any cancer you need Vitamin B17 (Laetrile).
Cancer is a Vitamin deficiency disease.
This Vitamin can be found inside of the seeds of the fruits and vegetables, but the most amount of this Vitamin is in the Appricot Seeds.
Since America loves money and not people they made it illigal to sell this Vitamin B17-Appricot Seed as a medication. Many people go outside of the USA to get injected with Vitamin B17.
Vitamin B17 is the Cure and The Prevention of Cancer, any Cancer.
There are websites available on the internet where you can order bags of Appricot Seeds, they are also called Appricot Kernels.
You will have to do some searching yourself, but I will give you some hints:
search for: "Apricot seeds fresh organic California grown kernels"
May God Bless you

oh yeah, Do NOT go to a doctor for any chemotherapy, just buy the seeds and eat them, search the internet on how to eat them, last time I checked it was like 30 a day if you have cancer, but if you don't have it yet then eat like 10 a day, Also, lower your sugar consumption.
Sugar feeds Cancer.
Vitamin B17 Kills Only Cancer.

Answer 9

If her doctor has NOT called her then she MUST go to see him. This is very important information and although it's hard to hear someone tell you that you have cancer, it's worse if you find out too late. I was diagnosed 6 yrs ago with Non-Hodgkin's Lymphoma. It's frightening to to told that you have a disease that is going to kill you. It takes a lot of adjustment in your thinking but it's not impossible to "learn to live with it". All cancers are scary but not all cancers are terminal unless you leave it too long. I weep for the families of people who have died from curable cancers because they were afraid to face the problem. Plead with your Mom to call the doctor.

Answer 10

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