Interested to hear the various answers to this one... Is life too short and you should engage in casual sex (safe, of course) in between relationships or should you always wait to be in love (which means waiting for a long time)?
2006-12-26 13:07:00 · 46 answers · asked by lola 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't do it with just anybody. Find Mr. Right, even if you're not married because I'm not saying wait for marriage.. I'm saying wait for love. ♥
2006-12-26 13:08:26 · answer #1 · answered by ashley 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Emma-
Sometimes casual sex seems like a great thing to do when something is missing in our life. Don't jump into sex with the wrong person as a way to fill those needs (so to speak) lol I think it's better to be alone for the right reasons than to be with someone for the wrong. Anyone that has their eyes open can see that short term pleasure can have very long term consequences even with safe sex.
2006-12-26 13:17:15 · answer #2 · answered by Bella 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In the long run, you'll be healthier and able to have more sex if you wait, for a serious relationship or marriage. There is no safe sex...because birth control is not 100% and there's always the risk of STDs...life's to short to waste with casual sex. Once you find Mr. Right, the wait will be worth it. ;)
2006-12-26 13:11:55 · answer #3 · answered by Aurelien 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Emma,
without doubt the best way to make love is to be in love with your partner. More satisfying on every level and generally with far fewer problems.
No-one can tell you whether or not you should 'put yourself about' but despite the possible wait, you will be happier in the long run if you sleep only with one you love. There are alternatives to take care of frustrations, should you need them, but casual sex is rarely satisfying, other than during the actual act.
Longer term relationships are what we all (don't we?) want. There is a man for every woman and vice versa (or, of course man/man, woman/woman if that is your thing) waiting increases the joy of love making (as apart from just having sex)
You will, too, feel so much better about yourself, and that's important, too.
As I said, no-one can, or should, tell you how to live your life, Emma, but please think about what I've said.
Enjoy your life and good luck with finding love.
BobSpain
2006-12-26 13:18:16 · answer #4 · answered by BobSpain 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is 2007. Sex in the City did a lot of explaining for us.
You do what feels right to you. There is nothing wrong with casual sex, in this day and ages where women are independant and really don't NEED men, and vice versa we do what we need to take care of the things we have to without the drama or strings attached. If you are not ready for a relationship it's okay, but make sure that the other person understands your intention, he/she may not be okay with it and you must take into consideration the other person also. There are many people that have "special friend" or "friends with benefits". These days you can be just as happy not in a relationship as some are in. It just depends on what you want to do. This is a question for you to decide. You are in control of your own life and your own destiny. You never know if one of your "casual sex" encounters could turn into love ....you just never know.
2006-12-26 13:18:57 · answer #5 · answered by Hopless romantic 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Wow!! I bet you are gonna get a lot of varied answers to that question!! LOL!!
But here is my 2 cents worth........
I believe you should wait. Life is Short...this is true...but do you really want to get your emotions and heart all tangled up in somebody who only sees you as a good piece of meat??
Safe sex is not 100% safe. Condoms have been known to fail. And most any other method you can think of may not be 100% effective,either. Do you want to risk getting a disease just to feel good for a short time?
Morality: There are many religions that frown on fornication. I don't know if you are religious or not..but that is something else to consider.
God Bless!!
2006-12-26 13:24:34 · answer #6 · answered by Chief Paduke 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't necessarily mean you have to wait for a long time for love, casual sex can be dangerous and although you may not care what people think of you word may get around and hinder you from finding love if guys know that you have been sleeping around a lot.
2006-12-26 13:14:57 · answer #7 · answered by dlsjbk2125 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good question. I believe that there are times that casual sex is a great idea, if all the circumstances and timing is right, AND you keep it safe. But in general I'd have to say wait. I wouldn't go looking just for sex. But, if I met a really fun compatible female that I get along with good, and she has certain qualities that I enjoy, BUT, for some reason, we could not actually let it get to love(BESIDES A HUSBAND) I would go for the sex........
2006-12-26 13:21:14 · answer #8 · answered by hudson_floridamale 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't know about casual sex (meaning just for the sake of having sex) but I think that it's okay to have sex with someone that you're dating, even if you're not in love. If you think that it may go somewhere and you're both mature adults who use protection, it's fine. Just be sure that you completely respect each other and that you're doing it because you really want to, not because it's the standard thing to do or you've reached some imaginary time limit. Short of that, no one can love you like YOU can love you..lol
2006-12-26 13:13:31 · answer #9 · answered by answergrrl3 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Things are better if you wait for love. Casual sex is everywhere, waiting for love to happen is so much worth it. Don't give up on love - casual sex can happen anywhere, it's just not worth it.
2006-12-26 13:11:08 · answer #10 · answered by Martini Babee 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
most people take sex lightly these days. sex is a majorly touchy subject, and it can make a deep impact on a relationship. definitely wait until you're with the right person and the time is right (but well after the first six months of having been with the guy). wait until marriage, but definitely get some answers on his sexual history ahead of time (get tested, etc).
2006-12-26 13:11:58 · answer #11 · answered by Rebekah 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋