i'm 20 (only working for over christmas and new years) and she's 19 (works there part time). She likes me I'm pretty sure (she gave me her number (through a coworker) and i talked to her twice) but I've never asked a girl out, let alone been on a date, and have no idea how the whole dating thing works...
When can I ask her out?
What to do on a date?
...any other who what when why's and hows...
help me out...
Thanks
oh, by the way, if this makes any difference, she lives with her parents still, and has an 8 month old baby (i don't think the baby's daddy knows, they broke up then she found out she was pregnant).
i have called her, but idk what to do now
2006-12-26 13:03:58 · 10 answers · asked by Wocka wocka 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just to let you all know, i'm working part time because i need money to finish my mechanical engineering degree, Mr. WDS is way the heck off on his answer
2006-12-26 13:12:05 · update #1
I would suggest maybe asking her out when you have a break at work or after work. You could suggest going out for coffee or having dinner together.
The main thing you need to consider is the fact she has a baby. When you begin dating a girl with a baby you need to start showing interest in the child too because there's always that potential she could be "the one" and if so you will have to accept the baby as part of the package deal...
I would suggest starting with dinner and a movie...if you don't want to ask her out in person you could call her and ask her if she'd like to go out to dinner or a movie or something. You will need to see if babysitters are an issue for her but you can still suggest going out to dinner and she could bring the baby along...there are ways of dating with kids involved.
Good luck!
2006-12-26 13:22:32 · answer #1 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best advice I would give you is to just wait until she is 18. Whether or not you guys plan on doing things, it would still be frowned upon and people would still be against it. If a relationship between you two really have potential, you wouldn't mind waiting until she's 18. Hanging out and continuing to be friends and all is fine but being official would be a bit weird for everyone else. Just to be on the safe side, wait until she's legal. If she really is mature, then she should understand that things could be very hard to maintain and that you could get into trouble. No matter how different you are from every other guy or you true intentions for dating her, it's best if you just wait. It's one year, no big deal. If you care for her and if she cares for you that much, waiting another year shouldn't be difficult.
2016-05-23 09:16:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way is to go slowly, you don't even know if you and this girl would be compatible so don't start planning on a relationship yet. Ask her if she'd like to go for a coffee when you're working together for starters. Find out what she is interested in and if you share any of the same interests. If you do then you can plan a date around something you both enjoy, go see a movie in the genre you enjoy (drama, action adventure, comedy, horror or science fiction), If you have an IMAX theatre near you those are great places to go on a date. Then if there is time maybe you can stop for coffee or ice cream on your way home. Maybe on occasion take her to dinner someplace other than a fast food restaurant. If she likes animals go to a zoo, if she likes the ocean and there's a beach near you go to the beach. You can go anywhere and do just about anything on a date, it just depends on what the two of you like. If you find the two of you ARE compaitble then you might also want to include the baby in a few outings, just to be a nice guy.
2006-12-26 13:11:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh wow, does she light your spark? If not, dont ask her out.
Anyway, looks like she has her hands full with a baby, and may need more than going out like a father figure for the child.
Think hard before rushing in.
SImple to ask her out, Just call her and go by her house and help her babysit and have fun.
If a spark unites between the both of u, u need to get serious and find a babysitter and take her out to movies, eating, or to your place for dinner.
If the fire gets out of control , nature will take over and run its course. Please use protection unless u want to be changing diapers quick.
2006-12-26 13:09:33 · answer #4 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think you should take this slow. Also, be aware if you are comfortable with the fact that she lives at home and has a baby. Next step, since she has a child, make sure you take things slow. ie. treat her right, be nice to her, don't be going down the whole sex path thing. Offer to take her out for coffee get to know her. be friends first. just be you. kiss her on the cheek. next take her to a movie or something and continue the relationship. ie court her like in the old times. you won't be disappointed. Just go slow and be yourself.
2006-12-26 13:08:59 · answer #5 · answered by CandiApple 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to this website, dude: www.nomarriage.com
Don't be so eager to take on another person's problems. Don't be grabbing the first tail that looks your way. Keep your eye on the prize which should be a college education or a self-started business, buying a house, earning some money so that you are not working part-time at 20 years old. STAY AWAY from this girl. Nothin' but trouble, man..............
2006-12-26 13:08:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
buddy, you're not alone. i didn't date in high school either. OK, i did, but not like a "real" date. anyway, if you're still interested in the girl, continue to talk to her, but limit yourself to once a day if possible. you don't want to seem clingy. if there's a day you're free, find out when she's free, and you two can maybe go out to eat somewhere. it's something small (because you haven't been on a "date" before), and it will give both you and her time to talk and get to know each other. hopefully all goes well for you! ♥
2006-12-26 13:08:58 · answer #7 · answered by Rebekah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call and ask her to get something to eat with you, or go see a movie. If you worry about conversation, go to the movie, you don't have to talk much. And every girl does NOT expect to play around in the dark theatre. Some just enjoy the movie and the popcorn. Just remember, most girls are as nervous as you, and would love it if you were casual with them, and treated them just as your other friends, just the extra niceties, like opening the door for them, etc. Have fun!
2006-12-26 13:07:51 · answer #8 · answered by donnabellekc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHewwwwwwwwwwwwwwww...can you find someone without a baby for the first date...if not take her and baby on walk
2006-12-26 13:08:42 · answer #9 · answered by Girl with Kaleidoscope Eyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it smooth, simple and lite. ie. roller skating,bowling, ski, a good movie and dinner.
2006-12-26 13:31:42 · answer #10 · answered by scott w 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋