My birthday is on Christmas Day, I don't really expect much, one year my husband of 16 years never even told me Happy Birthday!!! My feelings were so hurt....This year we drove 3 hours on Christmas day to my sister's house, my mom and dad were there as well as my brother and his family. As I walked in the door, my sister hands me a refrigerator magnet and says Happy Birthday....That's it!!! My own mother and father didn't mention it at all!!!! Today, the day after Christmas I told my husband that I think he should take the kids to the store and buy me a gift.....I feel so selfish - but that is what I do for his birthday, and I always make sure he has a cake, as well as for my three children........Am I just being a baby - to top it all off, this was a special birthday - I turned 40.....Please give it to me straight...
2006-12-26 12:48:32 · 26 answers · asked by josephina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Happy belated 40th. Mine is Dec 20th and I turned 42 this year. I've been lucky to always have mine celebrated, I'm sorry your family overlooks yours.
I suggest you start a new tradition. Pick a different day, of your choosing, and make it the day you celebrate your birthday. Have friends over if you like, get yourself a cake, buy yourself a nice gift, and let your family know that you will be doing this and that you would love to have them celebrate on that day with you, so as not to interfere with everyone's observance/celebration of xmas.
Don't accuse or blame, just let folks know that the current holiday is too much compeition and so there can be more partying and fun for everyone, your birthday will be acknowledged on a day separate from it's actual day.
I hope you have many more (birthdays) and they are fabulously happy ones...welcome to your 40s!
2006-12-26 12:54:05 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There could be much worse, they might not love you. I have an Aunt that has a birthday on Christmas Day, and we often forget to tell her happy birthday, but we have been these past few years because we can tell she is hurt because we don't remember. Christmas is a very hectic holiday, and with signs of Christmas everywhere, it is hard to see the other things going on.
Here is what I recommend:
-Say, "I turned 40 today! Or whatever, when you are around somebody to remind them."
-Before your birthday, like two days before or more, remind them what age you are by saying, "My 40th birthday is coming up!"
-It is too late for your birthday now, but you shouldn't feel guilty, but you should give your husband a little hint that you are not happy they forgot and maybe they will celebrate your birthday a little late and hope for them not to forget it next year.
-Do not let your birthday (even though it is special), get in the way of your relationships with your family and friends. You can not blame them to forget everything around them with all the Christmas decorations around you!
-Azooga-
2006-12-26 13:31:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl that happened to me! totally
40 last Thanksgiving day-2006! I was born on a holiday as well.
Ur not a baby- your feeling hurt, sad, dissappointed and frustrated. totally validated. Happy Birthday Sweetie!
I used to throw a birthday party for me on the Monday of Thanksgiving week, so that it was a special day just for me. NO joke! I stopped about 4 years ago and everyone has forgotten ever since- my folks as well.
So lets just plan a party for 2007! Create a Theme party-not christmas the week before or even January 25th to have a gret party for you! Take yourself out for a mani/pedi and then dinner with friends. We both know that the holidays are stressful and so make a new date. That is what I have done- my birthday is now celebrated on St Patricks day!
No joke! 41 now! I am old enough to get it! People need a reason to gather and I just want my loved ones, not things.
Its a great time of year for us and its more fun too.
2006-12-26 12:56:53 · answer #3 · answered by Denise W 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you ran into some rotten luck being born on Christmas day. No, I don't think it's selfish. Just because it's Christmas does not mean that you shouldn't also be able to get some traditional birthday stuff! Everyone else does! At a minimum you should get a HAPPY BIRTHDAY from people, and a cake.
2006-12-26 12:51:55 · answer #4 · answered by danl747 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Happy Birthday. Unfortunately, that's the breaks of being born on a holiday: you get lost in the holiday shuffle and people are usually too embarassed to fess up afterwards. Get over it; at your age, you should be arranging your own birthday bash. Take off for a mini-vacation-day the day before or the day after Christmas.Let whoever asks know why you did it after you get back; and when they ask what's wrong with you, remind them of what happens every year. They'll get the point!
2006-12-26 12:56:23 · answer #5 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are justified it having your feelings hurt and you are not being selfish. The 40th birth is a big one and should be remembered by everyone!
I wish you a Happy Birthday and advise you to buy yourself a present on you kids and husbands birthdays to make up for the ones you didn't get. I hope things are better next year.
2006-12-26 12:56:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are totally reasonable. Unfortunately, Christmas birthdays are outshined by Christmas day. It is always wonderful to celebrate another year of living. Maybe, you can start a tradition of celebrating your 1/2 birthday, in June.....That way it is all about you! Happy Belated Birthday
2006-12-26 12:52:46 · answer #7 · answered by So lyrical 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh stop it, the whole world knows your birthday! :D Maybe they just feel kinda like, let's celebrate both together! What can be more satisfying than to share a birth date with Jesus? I'd love to have that!! Anyway, it's ok that your family 'forgot' your birthday. Next year, treat yourself for a 1 day cruise or some other type of vacation. Leave your family behind so that they'll remember this day forever. Maybe your absence will make them appreciate you even more.
2006-12-26 13:07:04 · answer #8 · answered by Hanna 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No I don't think you are being selfish, they should remember your birthday. I bet it does get forgotten a lot though since it is on Christmas day. If you really feel that you need a celebration every year why not do it earlier or later than your actual birthday
2006-12-26 12:51:18 · answer #9 · answered by Christie 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not being a baby. Most people want to be acknowledged on their birthday. Try ignoring your husbands birthday or other family members and see how they respond. You deserve recognition on your special day. Oh.......and by the way, Happy Belated 40th Birthday! You are a special woman and don't you forget it!
2006-12-26 12:52:55 · answer #10 · answered by Nose 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋