i knew her for over 4 months now & have been seeing her every other time she comes into town. We only agreed that we only want nothing more then having sexual experience together, though we really like each other before. the thing is she lives hours away from me & doesnt want any commitment so both of us wouldnt get hurt. it wasnt a problem with me. I do care for her & everything but i know theres a certain line i wouldnt cross. so she came to visit for the holidays & we decided to plan on it with each other. our good friend of ours found out later & really didnt agree of what we were doing, she thought we were crossing the line thinking we will get hurt in the long run. which i understand but she doesnt know how much we need it.&we have this sense of guilt trip4awhile cus of it. Still we both agreed that we want to get it on till she goes back to collegeit, how do we convince our friend that we will be ok?
2006-12-26 12:44:36 · 10 answers · asked by Wowzers 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we are very responsble about our feelings & everything else. pls no immature answers pls
2006-12-26 12:46:03 · update #1
Understanding where your friend is coming from, I'd have to say that what you are doing is quite risky. However, if we must be technical about the situation, you are both adults. As adults, you can make the decision to sleep with whomever you wish as long as you are responsible for your actions and do not harm anyone in the process. Pretty soon, you will come to realize that you both are using each other in the worst way. Nothing good can come of that in the future.
2006-12-26 12:50:42 · answer #1 · answered by Talkstress 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm..
are you wantin to keep this relationship 4 sexual pleasure even when you get married? coz dats wrong mate innit. r u both seing someone besides each otehr - isnt that betraying them?
but if u think theres a chance of gettinmg hurt later on i suggest u stop it. dnt use sex as a way to live.
u sed " she doesnt know how much we need it" - does that mean you two are both sexually attracted to eachother highly - which would also arise the fact that sumwhere maybe you do like her more than this so u dnt wanna stop it.
i understand where your friend is coming from - n u dnt wanna use this girl as a orgasm tool.- but she aint to bothered bou it either is she.? well... i duno mate i think no man n woman can be freinds if their having sex with each other.
for the long run if u wanna continue- jus be careful bou wat u myt say bou her or the relationship ok.
tkcrz
2006-12-26 20:56:15 · answer #2 · answered by Madam M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! This is not okay! You should either stop "doing it" or you should make a committment. Trust me, from person experience, if you do not committ you are likely to not express your true feelings. Which will result in either one or both of you being badly hurt after a long time of throwing your feelings up and down. You'll love her when she loves you, but you'll both be afraid to express your feelings. After so long of you not expressing your feelings one of you will fall out of love leaving the other person with no option but tell you they love you to try and get you back. But it will be too late, once you have fallen back in love teh other person won't be anymore. So it is a horrible cycle of crap that doesn't need to happen. Please save yourself and your heart while it's still early.
2006-12-26 20:57:35 · answer #3 · answered by luvmytibby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to convince anyone of anything it's between you and the other person if you are both happy then its no one elses business but she's a good friend to try to protect youfrom getting hurt
2006-12-26 20:48:34 · answer #4 · answered by tesla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your life, why do you have to convince this friend, does she have a life, or just worries about others.?
Who knows, maybe you realize you like each other and start dating seriously. Nobody business.
2006-12-26 20:49:03 · answer #5 · answered by Unknown zone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt worry bout the friend.You 2 mite pull off what few humans have.Good Luck
2006-12-26 20:48:49 · answer #6 · answered by P.Bunyun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it any business of your friend's? If the two of you are ok with it then no one else need agree.
If you were really mature in this and really in control of your feelings I don't think you would need to ask, dear.
2006-12-26 20:48:53 · answer #7 · answered by outdone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are both adults and therefore it is up to you (both) to decide what you want to do and deal with the consequences (good or bad).....in any event i really don't see how it is any of your friend's business......do you decide who your friend can or cannot date (or sleep with)? good luck!
2006-12-26 20:52:04 · answer #8 · answered by Bay Area Babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything else aside, it's ok to be "friends with benefits".
2006-12-26 21:03:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YA'LL sound grown therefore do the darn thing, but pleae becareful. this relationship sounds like there is more than what you are telling you.
2006-12-26 20:47:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋