boyfriend won't answer ex's call in front of me?

Question

I asked my BF to answer his phone when she calls in front of me rather than not taking it. They do share a child and he still pays all the household bills as she doesn't work. However it bohters me that he won't answer the phone. He says it would feel weird. He claims he's madly in love with me and broke down crying the other day saying he's scared to lose me. It's making me crazy jealous and I'm not a jealous person. He still needs to settle with his ex custody agreement and finances but he keeps putting it off as he's scared she'll move out of province. He spent Xmas at the house(they both still own it) so it would make it easier on the young son. I told him if he's not made a started to settle his affairs by Feb I'm walking as it will be almost a year since they've broken up and got his own place. He wasn't married .

I'm not crazy being jealous am I?

Please help

Answer 1

that's a good thing. hopefully he's not answering them when his alone
chin

Answer 2

Do NOT let jealousy eat you up (and believe me, it can). No matter what becomes of his relationship with you, he will always have a connection to her through the child, My husband, who is dead now, had an ex and 2 children and frequently needed to talk to her "in private". I just had to understand that she was no threat to me unless I let her be. If I'd stayed on his *** all the time about talking to her, then I would have become the beotch. I also went through what you just did about him going to her house the first Christmas he and I were together to help her put together bikes etc. He stayed all night, and honestly, they may or may not have had an "old times sake" thing, but if they did, it obviously convinced them that they were exes for a reason. Don't go giving him ultimatums unless you are prepared to live with the consequences if he doesn't let the threat push him into a corner. They will come to an agreement on their own and you don't really want a man you can make cow down with a threat, now do you?

You're not crazy for being jealous, but you are being insecure and not sure of your own standing in your relationship with him. Don't scold him on this, but do get him to hear your feelings so the air will be cleared. Good luck.

Answer 3

Stop calling him, forget your stuff, let him have it. This whole thing is gonna ruin anything that you may have right in front of you. What is it with some people not knowing when enough is enough and to just let go. If you see him in public, don't talk to him. You walk past a hundred other people every day, weather you know them or not, you don't talk to them. so just act like you don't know him and if he has a problem with that, too bad. You both are wasting each others time. Go get a hobby.

Answer 4

Honey it seems like you walked into his life when things weren't settled. And you expect him to settle things because you said so?

I think you should walk NOW, because the mess that was there when you started dating him hasn't left and nobody can clean it up except for him.

That doesn't mean you can't still be in his life, though. Be a friend and let your man know that you love him, but you don't love his baggage. So he's got to deal with his problems before he even thinks about adding more people to his life romantically.

Answer 5

Yep. A total spazz. If he answers that phone in front of you then you will grill him about everything she said because you are insecure.

As far as the rest......well.....ok, that's f'd up, but he can't just toss her into the street either. She's the mother of his kid. Unless you are ready to be instant mom if he gets custody of the kid. Maybe he's just a decent guy and wants to be in his kid's life. Sorry if that makes you think he's up to something. If he wanted to be with her, all he would have to do is dump you and move back into his house; he's with you.....do the math...........

Answer 6

You aren't crazy at all for feeling this way. He probably won't answer the phone when his ex calls for a few reasons. 1: he is thinking of how you are feeling and doen't want you to feel uncomfortable. 2: He is uncomfortable and feeling guilty that he IS talking to her...and with you listening. Give him his space on this issue. If you know for a fact that you both love eachother, let him work this issue out by himself and give him some space. With you breathing down his back while he is trying to work out past issues, its just going to take a lot longer for him to work it out because he doesn't want to hurt you . You might take something he says to her out of context and things will go sour. Just give him a little room and a little time to fix his past issues and once he does that, you will be all he will be focused on. Good luck

Answer 7

no, but know that he is always going to be connected with her, because of the boy. she may be trying to get him back. maybe he won't answer the phone when she calls cause he's got something to hide, his son is most important to him, understand that, even more important than u. yes u are jealous but its understandable, as whenever theres a previous relationship going on theres always a chance that they May reconcile even if only for the sake of the boy. i would bet there is still some sort of relationship going on, and that she doesn't particularly like u, and i can see that side also, and if she gets upset she can leave and take the boy. so cool your heels And don't give ultimatums as it could be u who he chooses to end it with, if u push him too hard on this.

Answer 8

No you're not. Hey he needs to get his priority straight. Be very careful because something seems to still be going on between them. Yes he needs his privacy but at some point he should be able to Carry on a conversation with her in your presence. You are wise to give him an ultimatum so the ball is now in his court. Remember do not back down when the time comes.

Answer 9

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Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.

The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.

Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.

Answer 10

You realize there is a difference between someone telling you they are going to do something and them actually doing it. You are at a point in your life that you are ready to make a commitment, but you need to know that it is mutual. The signs he is giving you is not leaving you with a warm fuzzy feeling.

He needs to realize that it does not matter wither he has reason or not, this is the way you feel. If he wants to be in a relationship with you, then he must be in tune to your feelings. And you should be in tune with him. If you plan on a serious relationship, then your business is his business and his business is your business. He may be afraid that if you learn more about the details that you might leave. He is insecure. Maybe he feels that there is a greater chance of you leaving if you are let into the details than if you are protected from them. There is a possibility that she could say something to him that could tick you off and then you might want to come to his defense and make matters worse. He needs to bring that part of his life to closure. He needs to know that it is easier to go through it with you, rather than go through it alone.

Answer 11

I think that you have a strong gut feeling about what's going on here and it sounds like he may be playing both of you on some level. Follow your gut feelings dear. They won't steer you wrong!