Reason 1 - She said she didn't feel a spark on the first kiss.
Reason 2 - She said she couldn't see me doing "things" with other girls. I'm not gay and I'm far from acting like it.
She did this a week ago and she tells me that she made a huge mistake and that she can't let me go because she doesn't know what would happen if she lost me. I still like her but these reasons just blow my mind. Should I get back together with her?
2006-12-26 12:26:47 · 44 answers · asked by holybass08 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hmm...The reasons sound very... unfair, unwise, and immature. A mature girl would never judge a guy based on the "sparks of the first kiss" or by seeing how her guy does things with other women! Personally speaking, I'd never want my guy doing things with other women! I guess all girls are different; some want their men do things with other girls while with them, and some don't.
As for whether you should get back with her or not.. hmm... I think you should give it a little more time. Give her some time, and see if she cares about you as a human being. If she does, she won't go for another guy; if she doesnt, she'll have a very easy time finding another guy! So, my personal answer is, no, don't get back with her any time soon. Wait a while to see what happens between you two. I understand that you like her, but just do this for yourself... you don't wanna be with a woman if she doesn't respect you or judge you on how you kiss her! Tell her that you're not the type of guy who actually does "things" with other girls while being committed to one particular girl. Try to communicate with her about who you are, and let her see you as the person you are.
Again, WAIT for some time before going back with her, or just don't go back with her at all. She needs to be taught a good lesson.
2006-12-26 12:33:56 · answer #1 · answered by ♡♥ sHaNu ♥♡ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reason 2 - She said she couldn't see me doing "things" with other girls. I'm not gay and I'm far from acting like it.
Does this mean she would like to or is she bisexual,You dont feel the spark of the first kiss after being together for a while thats why its upto both of you to put some spark into the relationship every so often sounds like there is more to this then she is letting on to you
2006-12-26 12:30:39 · answer #2 · answered by shannara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, why does she NEED a reason to dump you? Just the mere fact that she want to go should be enough for you to let her step off. Secondly, if she's making excuses and going back and forth, you're being played; get as far away from her crazy azz as you can and count yourself lucky. I know sex with crazy ladies is tops, but the recoil is just too high a price to pay. Enjoy the memories, they're safer than the reality!
2006-12-26 12:30:53 · answer #3 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it depends on how u still feel about her, but if i was you, i would say HELL NO! you need to open up a can of tough love and let her wait a little while, if you take her back immediately, she's gonna think your are her ***** and she can just walk all over you, keep it real with her and tell her she is jacked up for what she did, and because of her "mistake" you're out of the picture, do you really want to get back with her now? think about your self being and self esteem, she might do this dumb **** again, hope i could help buddy and best of luck to you on your desicion
2006-12-26 12:34:35 · answer #4 · answered by go_fins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her reasons are probably legitimate to her, but you should avoid getting back together with her. It's the "she doesn't know what would happen if she lost me" bit that would worry me. That's controlling/manipulating language. Yes, it could just have been a mistake to dump you, but do you want this to happen over and over? And do you want to spend your life being manipulated?
2006-12-26 12:32:48 · answer #5 · answered by just_curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if the entire world did not see the reasons as legitimate or not. The only judgement on these issues is the o ne that counts - hers.
If she has come to her senses, then give her another go. Maybe she is the one who doesn't spark on the first kiss. By 17 you should have a bonfire.
2006-12-26 12:30:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No....if you get back together with her, she will hurt you again. It sounds like she is desperate now.....if she didn't feel the spark when you were together, she won't feel it later. Find a better girl! Someone out there is meant to be with you. It sounds like this girl has some baggage! Good luck!
2006-12-26 12:29:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
she sounds craZy. if she didn't feel that spark then, she doesn't feel it now. sounds like she had someone else on the back burner but that didn't pan out. get you a better woman that does feel the spark, etc.
tell this crazy girl that her breaking up with you was the best thing that happened to you and that you are moving on and she should stop sniffing around you as you are no longer interested in her.
2006-12-26 12:29:38 · answer #8 · answered by curious_One 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dude, no one can answer that. Girls are a mystery. They have their own way of thinking and a completely different way of reasoning. Go with whatever you think is right. But I have to warn you not just for this relationship but for everyone to come you will never fiugure the girl out. You may think you have but she has done a good job of brainwashing you!!! Sad to say but its true.
2006-12-26 12:32:33 · answer #9 · answered by bm10842000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to have a relationship with someone that started out this way? I guess you can always laugh about it in 20 years.
But the main question is: Do you feel a spark?
2006-12-26 12:29:28 · answer #10 · answered by Uncle Remus 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋