And he wants her to "do" it with her whenever HE wants to. Even when she is on her period. He grosses me out. He thinks she is some sexual machine.....my mom doesn't feel like doing it everyday with him, is that so bad? He has porn on his music folder. And he has tried to hit her before....he is NASTY, i dislike him, how do i get rid of him?? I know this sounds bad since he is my dad.
2006-12-26 12:26:16 · 21 answers · asked by Bob the Cat.™ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm sorry to say but you don't have the choice to get rid of him or not. your mom does ( i know it stinks). You can talk to your school counsler or a family member, teacher, even a police officer. Someone with authority that can help. There is power in numbers!
2006-12-26 12:36:07 · answer #1 · answered by motroo 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a dysfunctional family to me, mom and dad arguing about sex in front of the children.... You say he has tried to hit her? Do you have any proof or are you just telling that so we will take Mommy's side? Look, if he doesn't get sex from her then he WILL get it from somewhere else,so wait it out,he will have an affair,mom will find out ,then they will get divorced,YOU get what YOU want and as long as YOU are happy that's all that matters ,right?
2016-05-23 09:11:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame your mum for not wanting to do it with him, ever. If my partner force sex on me, I cannot look and feel the same about him anymore. I think, that's how your mum feels right now. He is a very abusive and angry man, and you both and your siblings don't deserve all these craps. Talk to your mum in private, when he's not around, ask her how she feels about your dad and if she still loves him. If she gives you all the negetive feedbacks about him, ask her why she did not leave him. If she's staying for the sake of you and probably your siblings, give her some support and tell her that by staying in the same house with your dad makes you all feel more miserable and you're better off without him. Give her all the support she needs, and go counselling with her. Eventually, she will have the courage to stand up to him. Good luck.
2006-12-26 13:15:18 · answer #3 · answered by Hanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it absolutely outrageous that this man would have this kind of conversation with his wife in front of you. which I assume he is doing, unless your mother is telling you about it
There isn't much you can do about it because it's her husband, not yours, and it's up to her to do whatever she feels she has to do.
It sounds very much to me, though, that he is an abuser, but if she is not going to do anything about it, I don't see what anybody else can do. You don't say how old you are, and whether you still live under that roof. If you are still underage, you might confront your mother and tell her that if she doesn't take some action you will. If you are too young to legally be able to move out, there are some laws that protect you from having to be exposed to this kind of environment, and you should take steps to invoke those laws
But your mother either has to be persuaded to stand up for herself, or suck it up. .
2006-12-26 12:55:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
report that azz to the cops. u feel unsafe, ur mom must feel unsafe, just CALL THE COPS. u shouldnt have 2 live in a house where u feel unsafe, and thats that. he needs 2 get help, and fast. and that last sentance is not very true: just because u have the same blood doesnt mean u have 2 like him. i mean come on u cant like everyone. its not physically possible. so REPORT HIM. thats all i can do for u, i wish i could help u more.
2006-12-26 12:47:07 · answer #5 · answered by ~*[{BasKeT CasE}]*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not your issue to deal with. I don't think you should even know about these issues. Since you do, it is not your place to approach either parent regarding their actions. Your mom is a grown up and so is your dad. They need to take full responsibility for their actions. If you must say something, let them know that you don't want to hear their issues. Ask them to speak about them in privacy.
2006-12-26 13:07:22 · answer #6 · answered by So lyrical 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a selfish self-centered pig. your mom will decide when she's had enough of this troglodyte's behavior. It's not up to you to rescue her; just support and love her. Call up an abuse center and get their opinion re. him trying to hit her. Get her some brochures on the subject. Good luck.
2006-12-26 12:58:55 · answer #7 · answered by Nose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your mom's problem, not yours. If she couldn't stand him, she would leave.
I'd be upset with your mom for putting you in the middle of this mess. Her boundaries are poor. She needs to handle him, and not put you in the mix. The next time she complains about him, tell her that she needs to deal with it and not bother you with it.
2006-12-26 13:26:45 · answer #8 · answered by adamsjrcn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is kind of gross that you even know this information. I don't know why a kid would know anything about mom and dad's sexual information but your mom needs to deal with this
2006-12-26 12:32:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You did not say your age, but you should talk to someone because you and your mother need advice from a family therapist look for one. Good luck
2006-12-26 12:56:41 · answer #10 · answered by pelancha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋