I'm going crazy!!!! I think i'm going to start screaming, why hasn't he written to me???

Question

I'm in a long distance realtionship, we always talk like twice a week we send emails to each other and stuff like that. I know he is a busy guy because he studies and works. But I wish he could at least send me an ecard or something saying merry christmas! He hasn't talked to me since friday, and I don't know what to do, I miss him SOOO much... (we've been boyfriends since August and we've been apart since October). I am very sensitive right now so please don't be rude to me... And also, don't tell me to forget him and move on, because I've tried and I can't...
This is too painful... HELP ME!!!!!

He can't call me... bescause of something, but he could've emailed me... that's what has me like this!! =((

Answer 1

if he doesnt write you soon, let me know and i'll send you a special ecard to cheer you up

Answer 2

Well I don't know how old you are and what you consider long distance. I am currently in a similar relationship, we live 2hrs (by car) away from each other, we see each other every other weekend. We talk/text/email etc... almost everyday. Its extremely tough to be in a long distance relationship. I thought my first girlfriend/love was the be all and end all... I never thought I'd meet anyone like her ever... but within 2 weeks I somehow found someone better... ok we weren't officially bf+gf after 2 weeks but... I started to chat to her alot on faceparty until like 6am in the morning! lol... and we got to know each other really well as you can imagine!

She not only helped me over my ex, but we built up a really strong relationship... its been 4months now.. and things just get tougher and tougher... the more you see someone/chat to them, the more you want to be with them but I can't move near her until at least March.

Anyways... don't make yourself believe this is the be all and end all of your relationship because it isn't. Theres plenty more guys/girls out there.

If he didn't even manage to say merry xmas via a ecard or proper card/letter... I find that pretty poor... everyones busy but everyone can spare 30mins to write a nice letter or do something special to make the other person feel special.

Anyways...

Hope this helps

Goodluck and I hope it works out

Spoony

Answer 3

Long distance relationship is very hard to maintain without commitment. That's where he lacks it. Is it possible that you give him a call? I was in a long distance relationship too, and I can understand fully how you are feeling right now (I married him though). It takes a lot of commitment, loyalty, faithfulness and patience. When you lose one of these, you will lose the other. Is he a trustworthy person? Settle your issue with him, if he's not serious about you, it's better that you know now, so that you can stop hoping. Let him know how you feel when he doesn't contact you, and discuss your problem together. If he's busy, maybe you guys can set a time and day where you guys can talk on the phone, if every day is not possible. I wish you the best of luck, and email me if you need some more advice ok? [e-mail]

Answer 4

Been there, done that, have the T-shirt, the mug, the key chain, the souvenir autographed poster and several shares of stock in the Heartbreak Hotel.

Honey, your heart must go on. It is over. He spent Christmas with the ones he loved and that didn't include you. Sorry.

I was in a similar situation where my love was called away out of the country to attend a sick family member that, sadly, died. I did all the contacting. Month after month after month. It will be a year in February. I gave up in October and moved out of state. Recently I heard my love had returned to the U.S. I have no plans to try to make contact.

I've awakened to smell the coffee. It's not so bitter if you sweeten it with a little zest for life! Congratulate yourself on being untangled. Have your last cry and get on with it. It being life and knowing you deserve better. I did and I thought my heart was going to never stop hurting. There were days I literally could not breathe with longing. My bones felt like they were twisting together. I mean I hurt!

It gets better every day. I still miss my love, but that's just it my love was my love, I was not loved in return. I'd have never been left hanging like that if I had been. (Grief or no grief .) The fact is my love was only returned by lip service, not the real deal. I wasn't loved by my love.
Neither are you. Again, sorry.
To my knowledge my love was not married. Sounds like yours might be. If so, you LOSE. That should be abundantly clear now. Move on and don't make such a mistake again.

Answer 5

I am sorry you are going through this.......he didn't even call or say merry christmas?? To me that is not a good sign....if he really cares for you then he should still make time to call you no matter how busy he is....it only takes 2 minutes to make a quick phone call.Is it possible he could be seeing someone else??? I know you don't want to think about that but i had that happen to me so i know what it is like.All i can tell you is call him and tell him how you feel and see what he says.....Good LUck!!!!!

Answer 6

If you know he is busy with school & a job, does it really help to have you fretting or acting possesive wanting him to call or email you all the time???
I'm not trying to be rude, but it sounds like he has enough on his plate without having to worry about keeping you happy at this point.
Get a job or a hobbie & leave him alone, I'm sure he will call or e-mail when he has the opportunity.
You need to find something to occupy your time & your life. No man wants a woman who is soooo needy & clingy. Learn to entertain yourself....

Answer 7

I don't know why he hasn't written and I honestly feel your pain (I'm in the same boat). The best I can offer is that you are not alone. It is true, you are going crazy, but it will get better over time...even if it takes a long long time. But hopefully it won't need to get that bad because he will call you. When he does, don't suddenly start accusing him...just keep it cool but let him know that you are hurt. I hope he calls soon.

Answer 8

It's only 4 days!! calm down a bit cos it's not that long, it is xmas and he is probably really busy. Don't worry too much. If he is worth it then he will contact you, if he doesn't then he really isn't the right person for you. Why would you want to be with the wrong guy?

Answer 9

i know exactly what you are feeling right now. i'm having the same problem right now. my bf hasn't called or emailed me since friday. i sent a xmas text on xmas day and i left a phone msg this afternoon. i just decided and made up my mind that i'm not going to call or email any more. if he wants to get a hold of me then he'll have to make the next move...if not then i'm moving on. i can't sit here and wait forever and neither should you. just wait....not mater how hard it hurts you.

Answer 10

Unfortunately you are not going to like my answer.

Long distance relationships are for people who can't handle proper relationships. So he will stay in touch, but he is otherwise engaged in whatever he can't phone for.

This is the relationship. Like all couples you will have ups and downs, only the distance between you makes the downs harder to bear!

I was married to a soldier for 12 years, who regularly served abroad or went on courses etc. So I am experienced in this!

Answer 11

I know what you are going through is hard,and I am sorry but you will have to be strong on this one cause it is not like you can just run over to his house or drive by, so be patient and hope that he has been sick or under the weather,and when he feels better he will call or write.Good luck I feel your pain and hope you the best.