My boyfriend lives about 19 hours away, I really like him but there are some days were he's way too jelous. He gets mad when I don't answer his TXT mssgs, and he thinks I have another guy on the side, which I don't. I really like him and he knows I'm an honest person so why does he keep acting like this??!! HELP!
2006-12-26 12:17:25 · 17 answers · asked by .... 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i honestly dont think ldr's work... maybe it was just my sad experience....
2006-12-26 12:19:16 · answer #1 · answered by ~♥Jade♥~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are difficult, as you can see from what I've posted. You're young, so choose wisely. I think that all sorts of distance relationships have different outcomes, but that it is easy to become jealous or overprotective when you cannot be with someone you really care for. Often times things easily become confusing. You should look at how the relationship is affecting you and those surrounding you. Do you find that you are sad because you cannot be with him? Upset because he is acting the way he his? You may want to take those feelings into consideration and if you would like to continue the relationship or not. Perhaps you would be happier with someone closer? It all depends. Make a pros and cons list. That always helps me. :)
2006-12-26 12:25:52 · answer #2 · answered by CandiApple 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jealous feelings are unhealthy.
that is a insecure and lack of trust.
lack of control and feeling powerless
youth has a lot to do with that
Okay-
if you want to keep the relationship their must be boundaries and a established scheduled thing to reassure him and yourself.
We talk at 9:30 every night on the phone. I can't text you two dozen times a day- once or twice- I love you or thinking of you.
Plan events to be together and discuss daily events and sent postcards, emails etc.
It will take hard work if you want this to happen.
Depending on your age I would suggest being friends and date others and remain close.
That is not fair for either to limit your life on a "maybe" .
Best wishes
2006-12-26 12:26:46 · answer #3 · answered by Denise W 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It can work for a while, but only if neither one of you are jealous people. Remember, jealousy is a wasted emotion; you gain nothing from the expression...the other person doesn't feel your frustration and you get no satisfaction from going bananas except high blood pressure and raised eyebrows from people around you!
Enjoy the good parts while you can and then get out of it, before it goes south on you. You don't need the hassle...
2006-12-26 12:22:57 · answer #4 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They dont always work but they do work if there is trust in the relationship. He acts like that because he doesnt get to see you everyday and other people do. He wants to be able to see you all the time and is unable to. He is just jealous of everyone else.
2006-12-26 12:21:38 · answer #5 · answered by Melinda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there! I really know your prob...
My new boyfriend and I met 2months ago and now he's 6months away for work! It's really hard especially for him, because he's also very jealous...Talk to him, tell him there's no need to act like that and that you're feelings or him are true...if he can not believe it you should find out if it's really love from his side or if he only wants to possess you...
Good luck
2006-12-26 12:23:12 · answer #6 · answered by anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends for how long he is going to be away. If it's for a long, long while, then I am afraid that it's not going to work. Jealous or not, the distance makes the relationship dull. Especially if at the beginning.
2006-12-26 12:22:36 · answer #7 · answered by tyndaris2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let it go because he's 19 hours away,if you feel for each other it can work.. sounds like he is insecure,maybe because you're away.. I say if he is worth it just keep working on it.
2006-12-26 12:23:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion im not crazy about longdistance relationships.
It all depends on your true feelings on each other. Think to yourself. Are you and your partner 100% commited?
I think the smart choice would be to break it off.. god knows what he's really doing when your not around.
2006-12-26 12:21:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, its hard, ive tried made it last a bit over 6 months but in the end
all 3 of u will know (think about it)
2006-12-26 12:20:32 · answer #10 · answered by "Chanel-o" 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him hes nothing but trouble, me and my boyfriend lived 10 hours apart but because our relationship was so good he moved to me (tomorrow is my anniversary)
2006-12-26 12:20:56 · answer #11 · answered by John O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋