I really need your help Iam 23 years old guy, and I have been struggling with Shyness since I can remember, but now it has gotten to a point where I feel like my entire life is destroyed. I can't talk to people I get extreme fears and anxiety when I am around Peoples and I feel like I have to hide my self so I won't be seen. Please Help me, I never had a g/friend before, I never had the courage to approach a girl and introduce myself. I think my life is Ruined . I need all of your Help. Please.
2006-12-26 12:13:27 · 16 answers · asked by Johnny23 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
what you have is not really a problem..you have to learn how to not let your inner self think ou can't do something,or what will happen if you did try something you never done before..socialize around more people and see how that works..let go all those problems you had,..and be outgoing try new things and hang around the people you feel comfortable with..observe your surroundings dont be shy..and that perfect girl will come soon and you wont have to worry about the shyness..don't let it overpower you at all..and good luck....let someone in!!!
2006-12-26 12:21:07 · answer #1 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there.
First of all, you should try seeing a psychologist. This is different from seeing a psychiatrist because a psychologist cannot prescribe medicine. All a psychologist can do is talk you through a bad time in your life, which honestly can sometimes be the best medicine. I've been seeing a psychologist for eight years, and it has greatly improved my life. I have a much easier time talking to people now, though I still do have difficulty.
If you discover that you are still depressed after speaking w/ a psychologist, ask him/her to recommed a psychiatrist to you. But honestly, you should try to get through it w/o medication. I am on medication right now, but I started it recently after going through a period of high stress. Just talking to a psychologist has helped me for the better part of the time since I was diagnosed w/ an anxiety disorder.
All the people who are saying just get over it clearly don't understand what it is like. If it has gotten to the point where you feel that your life is "ruined", you need to talk to a professional.
Once again, I would not recommend seeing a psychiatrist right away. Try seeing a psychologist for a while.
2006-12-26 14:00:44 · answer #2 · answered by srgirl6391 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what we all have to deal to conquer fears, face them. I don't know if you like playing games like I do but what I do when I am feeling social anxiety is make a little competition out of it. Actually I guess that's what everybody does and that's why social interaction can be intimidating. Everyone has something good to bring to the table when they are confident. It's not high school anymore and as you get older people I think people become less shallow. Instead of judging you for shallow things they judge on character (okay so some don't). You have to put yourself in the situations that cause you the most anxiety so you can learn to feel comfortable in any social situation. Seriously. You'll be much happier and a lot less bored.
2006-12-26 12:28:24 · answer #3 · answered by deedoe_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you suffer from social anxiety disorder. It can also lead to depression and agoraphobia(wanting too stay in doors). I would suggest going to see a therapist b/c they can really help you. A lot of people suffer from it, and believe it or not it can be cured after a few sessions, (for some it may take longer; but it can be cured, and you can even find out what happened in you're life that triggered it). Don't feel ashamed to see a therapist b/c a lot of people see them.you should really go, b/c it's inter fearing with you're every day life. Good luck and best wishes.
2006-12-26 12:30:50 · answer #4 · answered by twinklestars211 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your life isn't ruined. i always liked shy guys!!! you may want to get some sort of counseling to help you break out of your shell. also if you have anxiety and depression -- that's not good. get that checked out. if you get treated for that -- then maybe everything will work out. you may just need some safe medication that is prescribed by a physician to help you out a bit for the depression and anxiety.
to beat your shyness -- try to get involved with some group activities. like a book club, go to the gym, etc. anything with groups of people where you can meet them and socialize with them. i think this may help a bit. book clubs are great because you go to discuss a book and all you really need to do is read the book and know everything about it. since you will be an expert of the book -- talking about it will be a cinch -- and therefore a great icebreaker for the people of the group to get to know you.
keep in mind that MOSt people are very friendly and would love to get to know you even if you are shy. if you can break down the shyness a bit piece by piece everything will fall into place i think.
good luck!!!
2006-12-26 12:18:52 · answer #5 · answered by curious_One 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go speak with your doctor. There is help for this type of problem. Medical and psychological. Don't waste anymore of your life. Get help and get on with the life that you know you should and could be having if you could just get beyond the shyness.
I know that this isn't a silly thing and you can't just snap out of it as so many seem to think you should. Many require simple antidepressants to break this awful limitation. Just make the effort to reach out. If you don't find the help you need the first time, reach out again. And again. Until you do.
2006-12-26 12:24:38 · answer #6 · answered by Batty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have it completely backwards. You're not suffering from shyness; you'e suffering from anxiety disorder, which causes shyness. Go to http://www.charles-linden.com. It will cure you, but only if you try. If you're too cheap and you ignore it or whatever, you'll stay like this. Don't listen to anyone who says you should try paxil or something, ignore them. They're misinformed, drug-addicted idiots.
2006-12-26 12:25:27 · answer #7 · answered by Leroy Johnson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your struggling from depression you should go see a doctor about depression as they have some very medications to help control depression. Once you start on those you will feel better and not bad about yourself. You won't feel as shy if you get the help you need. If you don't see a doctor it can ruin your life but go get the help. My dad's life turned around after he started those medications and he felt like himself again.
2006-12-26 12:18:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to someone qualified to help you, as you don't want to just plunge in and make a mistake which may further affect the way you feel about being around people or you may take advice from someone who really isn't trained to do so, or who may only take advantage of your situation, best of luck to you, I know it took me a long time to get to where I could, but getting help is worth it.
2006-12-26 12:16:53 · answer #9 · answered by Mystee_Rain 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel that way! Are you afraid of something or scared of judgement?
Don't let that get in your way, be yourself and don't try to hard!
go out to a bar go meet people, even MYSPACE
2006-12-26 12:23:06 · answer #10 · answered by .... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋